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Dear Annie: I am married to a man who thinks it's OK to take other women out to eat repeatedly, at times, monthly.
Dear Annie: Somehow, sometime, it was determined by my family members that since I was living at home after being disabled, that I would be the sibling (out of six) who would be responsible for caring for our parents until their death.
When my mother was in a coma, dying, my brother closed her safety deposit box. He was co-executor of the estate.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 26 years, and we both are in our 60s, and neither one of us is in good health. When we married, I had three girls and he had two girls. My girls and I have been told by his girls that we are not their family.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for eight years and share two beautiful children.
I have an employee who is constantly overbearing and frequently steps out of line in regards to privacy and personal space. ...
Dear Annie: We have elderly neighbors who have allowed their 62-year-old son and his wife of five years to move in with them while they look for a house. The son lost his job in California, which he used as an excuse to move here to Washington. That was three months ago.
Dear Annie: I have been widowed for 1.5 years. I have well-meaning neighbors who want to include me in many social activities. The problem is that I am an introvert and have never enjoyed parties, movies or most social activities.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 19 years. In the beginning, he was such a gentleman. He never raised his voice or called me names, but as soon as we decided to blend our families, with my children living with us, he became very loud and started calling me names, and we argued frequently.
Dear Readers: Wishing you all a very Happy Labor Day as summer comes to a close and you are enjoying the last of your barbecues and long summer nights. Below is a list of quotes that highlight the importance of hard work, and using your talents and gifts, to benefit yourself and others that I thought you would enjoy reading.
Dear Annie: I have been married to my second husband for 40 years, and we are both in our 80s and not in the best of health. My problem is extended visits from my sons — one son lives in Asia, and the other lives across the other side of the U.S.
My mother-in-law has been diagnosed with cervical cancer back in our home country. My husband planned to pay all the expenses ...
Dear Annie: I recently got married — in April of this year. This past July, my husband and I visited his family on a camping trip at an oceanside campground. My husband had his bathing suit on, but I needed to change into mine.
Dear Annie: My father-in-law has been living with us for the past two years, as he is in the process of buying a new house. The housing market has been tough, and it’s taken longer than expected. What was at first going to be a six-month stay has extended well beyond.
Dear Annie: I’m close to my nephews, one of whom recently married. The year before the wedding, during its planning, I told the couple that I would like to gift them their honeymoon to their choice destination as their wedding present.
Dear Annie: On Father's Day of 2022, we were returning home from my son's house when a car coming in the other direction crossed the center line and hit our vehicle head on. The driver of the other vehicle was 83 years old.
Dear Annie: About 25 years ago, my dental hygienist may have been thinking the same thoughts as “Wishing I Could Talk to Him,” the woman whose husband has bad breath, while she talked about my teeth rather than telling me the truth
Dear Annie: I will try to tell you a short version. I was married twice and had kids with both men. You could say my “picker” for men was or is broken. Anyway, I ended up leaving both men.
I recently turned 40 and am still speculating if I would like to have a kid or not.
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law has lived with my in-laws for four years. When she and her then-infant moved in, it was an emergency situation — leaving an abusive relationship. However, she does not seem to have plans or ambitions to move out.
Dear Annie: I don't know how to break up with my hairdresser. I have been going to him for five years and my hair has never looked better. However, during the past year or so, things have changed, and I am no longer happy with his service.
Dear Annie: I’ve noticed that in many of your responses, you recommended seeking marriage counseling. I wanted to tell you that people in abusive relationships should not get couples counseling together.
Dear Annie: I am currently married with no kids. I travel a lot for work and vacation. The issue is my wife’s sister, her husband and their kids.
Dear Annie: After 13 years, my boyfriend (he’s 49, and I’m 57) literally ghosted me for a whole week directly following a birthday party with the family at my parents’ house. There was no explanation why.
Dear Annie: I've recently entered a dating relationship, and my parents have a renewed interest in talking with me about my dating life.
Dear Annie: My recently retired husband of 43 years has agreed to take a 10-day trip with his sisters. He will be off seeing the Caribbean as I go to work each day back home.
Dear Annie: I’m a father in his 40s who has been single-parenting two kids (one preteen, one teen) for a bit under a decade now. When I began dating again, I didn’t realize how difficult it would be.
Dear Annie: Your answer to “Not Dog Tired Anymore” was great from the human point of view, but not so much from the animals’.
I have been dating my boyfriend for eight months now, though we have known each other for 12 years. ...
Dear Annie: I am struggling with how to handle my relationship with my daughter-in-law. Married for five years, with two children, we spend time with them every few weeks, usually to babysit the kids.
Dear Annie: I would like to respond to relatives who are upset when they are not thanked for giving children/teens gifts. Just tell them how you feel!
Dear Annie: My mom and I have always had a weird relationship. Throughout my childhood, I always considered us close, even when she moved hours away to the other side of the state when I was in middle school.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have a 34-year-old daughter who has lived with us all her life (except for maybe a year). She brought her freeloading boyfriend in.
Dear Annie: I am a retired RN, and I was interested when one of your readers wrote that if an elderly person falls, they should not be allowed to drive. I am here to tell you there is no direct correlation between falls and driving.
Dear Annie: So I'm pretty sure I know what the right answer is and you'll be shaking your head at my letter; however, I feel like I'm on this adrenaline rush.
My husband, “Gary,” is unemployed. Has been for the 4-1/2 years we’ve been together....
Dear Annie: My best friend is 58 years old and recently divorced. She spent the last four years grieving terribly over her lost family life in an affluent neighborhood and is finally onto the next chapter of her life.
Dear Annie: I have a family of grandnieces and nephews who never say thank you or let you know they received their gift. They are young, and I’d blame my niece for not teaching them, but she has five children.
Dear Annie: My husband and I are very open and trusting with one another. However, I noticed he has recently been more cautious about me looking at his phone screen while he's using it.
Dear Annie: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 22 years. It’s been up and down, and I’ve learned to keep quiet about things that upset me. He’s never reacted well to me mentioning things or asking for help with chores.
Dear Annie: I had a chat interaction with a person on a website a year ago that sounds similar to the concerns of “Concerned Daughter,” whose 81-year-old mother was the target of an internet scam, and others who have written to you to tell of suspicious experiences online.
Dear Annie: My spouse has become a viral social media sensation.
Dear Annie: My son, who is now 50 years old, cannot get his life in order. When he was a younger child, he learned how to play the mother-against-the-father game to get what he wanted; the mother always gave in, and this did not sit well with me.
My parents both passed away in the last couple of years, with the most recent being my mother in December. She left an estranged relative in charge...
Dear Annie: I have been with "Garrett" for over four years now. I have a son who is 9, and we share a daughter, 3.
Dear Annie: I’m feeling torn between pursuing my dream and maintaining my financial stability. I have a job as an accountant making six figures, but it’s boring work — so boring that I dread getting out of bed every morning.
Dear Annie: I don’t know where to start. It has been six years since our youngest daughter, “Emily,” has been close to us.
Dear Annie: I recently found a pair of earrings missing from my jewelry box. These earrings had belonged to my mother. My sister-in-law spoke of wanting them and felt (for some unknown reason that she herself could not express) that she deserved them.
Dear Annie: My daughter was 14 weeks pregnant when the baby died. The nurse midwives, who were wonderful, sent her home to have the miscarriage and told her it could take up to two weeks to “be complete.”
Dear Annie: When did airplane seats become so small? I hadn't flown in six years until this past spring, when I booked a flight to attend a family wedding.
Dear Annie: I have teenagers who are in multiple sports. My mother-in-law is a huge fan of sports and attends most events. She gets extremely excited about the game going on and is incredibly loud -- shouting during a majority of the game.
Dear Annie: I am one who married at 19. If “Disapproving” wants to maintain a good relationship with her daughter, she should voice her concerns but assure her daughter she trusts her judgment and will always be there for her.
Dear Annie: My wife is a synagogue president, which is a highly visible position. She has come across far more people than I ever have.
Dear Annie: My partner was made disabled last year and is confined to a wheelchair.
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I get along amazingly well, and we have lots of interests that we share. But I do not understand his favoritism to his 40-year-old daughter.
Dear Annie: I'm a 16-year-old girl and currently a sophomore in high school.
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together for over 13 years. She is a great person who has issues with bipolar disorder. I’ve gotten used to it, and with things being off from time to time, but I’m not sure how to handle this last situation.
I will have been married for 22 years this September, and we have been together for 26 years. But I recently discovered that ...
Dear Annie: Eleven years ago, I lost my 19-year-old daughter suddenly.
Dear Annie: I come from a large family. I was the youngest of four girls, and there were several years between us. Growing up, I barely knew my two older sisters.
Dear Annie: I am 28, a college graduate, and have been told by my family and friends that I am good-looking. I am respectful of women I take out on dates; I pay for all the meals, am pleasant and interesting to talk to, and am neat and clean. However, rarely do I get a second date.
Dear Annie: My younger brother “Chris” moved away and got married. He and his wife, “Julie,” have a baby girl and two golden retrievers. They recently came to visit for a week, and they brought their dogs.
Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 12 years now. We have a lot of history. I’m 54 and she is 55 now. We were best friends for a year in high school and we had a few incidents when we kissed back in the day.
Dear Annie: I read your column on a regular basis and completely agree with all of your advice.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have two kids, a 3-year-old and 6-month-old. My husband drives a semi, so he’s on the road and usually gone Monday through Friday.
Dear Annie: I am currently majoring in Creative Writing and English. I have a very deep passion for writing, and I would like to become a published author one day. I also have a passion for herbs and herbal medicine.
Dear Annie: How can my husband, “Steven,” make new friends in retirement? He is medically retired (blind) from work. He is a non-smoker and non-drinker. We are spiritual yet not religious. We don’t have children, and our extended families live on the other side of the state.
Dear Annie: My roommate, who is also my ex-boyfriend, was involved in a car accident a few months ago.
Dear Annie: I’ve been married for a long time, and we have teenagers now. When they were young, I took a full-time position working in a school so that I could be on the same schedule as them and we wouldn’t have to worry about care during the summer.
Dear Annie: My husband and I recently had a heated argument because he threw away some things that I was going to send off to family. It escalated, and as I was trying to walk away, he grabbed me by the shoulders and roughly pushed me up against the wall ...
Dear Annie: My cousin is getting married in November on the same day as my toddler's birthday.
Dear Annie: My husband and I divorced after 34 years of marriage. Our adopted son was 15 at the time of the divorce. We had adopted him as an infant at birth and raised him as our own.
Dear Annie: I have been going to a particular church religiously for over 30 years.
Dear Annie: I am a waitress, and there is a lady I work with who is six months pregnant. Every time she takes a break, she goes in the back and smokes cigarettes and sometimes she smokes weed.
Dear Annie: How much is one person supposed to take? My mother-in-law has no filter and will say anything she wants at any time, just to insult.
Dear Annie: My husband of 34 years has become increasingly disappointed in our 30-year-old son. He and my son have had a rocky relationship.
Dear Annie: The doctor I have gone to for years recently took a five-month medical leave of absence.
Dear Annie: I just read today’s “Second Chance Daughter” column about “putting away the bitterness, regret and anger of growing up with an abusive mom.” Her dad wasn’t much better; he deliberately never stepped forward to intervene on his daughter’s behalf.
Dear Annie: I am writing because I don’t know how I ended up so unhappy. Part of me is angry for letting this go on for decades, while other parts of me keep hoping my husband will see what he has — an amazing family!
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 30 years.
Dear Annie: I'm 63 and number eight of a Catholic family of 10. Only one sibling remains Catholic; most of us went to other churches and are now Christian.
Dear Annie: I find it incredible that so many people want to push their views on children who do not belong to their family and then pass judgment on their parents.
Dear Readers: In a recent column, I was critical of the sudden popularity of using diabetes drugs to lose weight.
Dear Annie: I love your column, though the recent letters about abusive siblings and your responses have me concerned.
Dear Annie: “Still Sad’s” story is almost my story. I didn’t know I was in an abusive marriage until I got out of it. That means our two children grew up in a home where they saw and heard things that shouldn’t have been seen.
Dear Annie: I have been in a long-term relationship with my significant other for over 10 years. It started out as a long-distance relationship, but he moved in with me about eight years ago.
Dear Annie: Your advice for “Lost but Still in Love” was perfect. Being a health care professional, I had an understanding of what was transpiring when my wife started to enter pre-menopause, and I could support her during this transition into menopause.
Dear Annie: I was hoping you could help me out with a family problem. I’m a woman in my early 20s who was adopted at age 5 by a gay couple (two men). One of them, “Eric,” is fairly kind and docile but my other “dad,” “Tom,” is another matter entirely.
Dear Annie: My husband had worked at the same company for the last nine years. A few weeks ago, they called him into an office at 4 p.m. and asked him to shut the door and have a seat. They informed him that they were letting him go.
I've been married for almost 12 years to a man who is emotionally abusive. I had made up my mind to tell him to leave, but ...
Dear Annie: I am in my ‘70s and have seven grandchildren who I love very much. I am writing because my 4-year-old granddaughter does not want to hug me, and I’m not sure what to do about it.
I married a man who earned less than me seven years ago and now collects disability. He paid for cable and electricity way back when while I covered everything else. Over the past three years...
Dear Annie: A longtime friend of mine, “Emily,” was served divorce papers right after the holidays by her husband, “Matt,” after a fairly short and seemingly rocky marriage.
I lived a parallel childhood with the pain of an extremely abusive mother and a father who buried his head in the sand.
Dear Annie: This in in response to the writer who said she was only invited to the shower but not the wedding.
Dear Annie: My sister, “Claire,” is getting married this summer and has lost weight by getting injections of drugs for diabetes. Claire might have had a little padding, but I never thought of her as being fat.
Dear Annie: My daughter, "Melanie," now 34, dated a boy when she was 15. It only lasted a few months.
Dear Annie: At the end of 2015, I decided to end my marriage of 30 years. My ex made the divorce very long and he tried to financially destroy me. He involved our daughter and son and turned them against me.
I never thought I would need to reach out for advice regarding my marriage, but here I am. I’ve been with my wife for 12 years. ...
Dear Annie: Recently, my 25-year-old son, “Bill,” decided to no longer be a dad to his 4-year-old son, “Greg.” We had taken Bill back into our home after he and his ex-girlfriend, “Andrea,” broke up.
Dear Annie: My husband confided to me that his mother had an eating disorder in the past, and there are possible signs she may have relapsed. When she visits us, she will exercise for hours daily, regularly disparage her physical appearance and skip meals.
I am struggling with what to do about one of my very best friends who is basically family to me at this point. Throughout our friendship, I have noticed that she does not say “thank you” very often.
Dear Annie: I see that you often answer questions pertaining to families trapped in addiction.
I have been reading your column in my local newspaper for a long time. Earlier this year, I sent a note to you about losing my wife and how my friends reacted. Never would I have thought that I would be sending you another note. But here I am.
My dad is and has always been controlling and domineering. And my mom just exists and really believes it is her job to just be submissive. (These are people married since the 1950s.)
Here’s my dilemma: I moved back into my dad’s house several years ago, and he has been good friends ...
Dear Readers: Wishing you all a very happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day. Please enjoy this excerpt from one of the most famous American speeches ever made.
My spouse and I are in our 70s, with numerous health issues. We decided we needed to sell our large home and move to something easier to maintain. We made the mistake of hiring the younger brother (“Jim”) of our best friend and neighbor “Jane.”
My husband and I have been married for almost 29 years. We have three grown children, two granddaughters and a third grandchild on the way. My dilemma is that although we have been married so long, we have had more downs than ups, especially this past year.
Recently, during a visit from my 50-year-old son, I was bullied, threatened, taunted and treated cruelly by him. I don’t know why. I responded indignantly while my husband said nothing.
Dear Annie: One of my good female friends graduated from a rival college of mine.
I moved to Florida from Oklahoma to be near my son and sister after my husband passed away from cancer. Hurricane Ian destroyed my home, and I have been unable to find a new place to live, either buying or renting here in Florida.
Dear Annie: If you are invited to a wedding shower, should you always be invited to the wedding?
Dear Annie: Well, here we are. It is that special time of year: The holiday season is nearly through and New Year's is once again upon us.
I could’ve written the letter from “Divorce Ambivalent” many, many years ago when our three children were young. My husband was busy with his career, and he loved sports. He was a good father but often did what he wanted to do on weekends.
Dear Annie: I need a little advice. My oldest son, age 42, and my youngest, 32, had a disagreement three years ago and still aren't talking to each other.
I need therapy because of what is happening in my marriage. My husband of 28 years has had a five-year relationship with another woman, and now they’ve had a child together. My husband is a 56-year-old autistic man.
Dear Annie: I always read the stories sent to you by your readers, and I have always wanted to write you. Now is the time.
Dear Annie: I am a 25-year-old female, and I absolutely love the life I have built with my husband and our two kids. His family has accepted me from day one. The problem is my family.
I was a lousy husband. Not because of physical or emotional abuse but because of ignorance. I grew up in a household where I never heard my father tell my mother he loved her. I never heard him give her a compliment or ask her opinion.
One of my young relatives came to me when she was thrown out of her house at the age of 23 by her parents for “no reason,” she claimed. I agreed to cosign her lease so she could get an apartment, and I also agreed to pay her rent until she could find a good job.
Dear Annie: In 1996, I met a man while traveling. At the time, I was a single mom of three in a new city and state away from family.
Almost 15 years ago, my older sister removed me from her life after a series of messy arguments. At the time, she just stopped taking my calls and waited for me to leave family functions before going.
Regarding the recent letters about Alcoholics Anonymous and other recovery programs, whatever works best for you is what you should do. With 8 billion people on the face of this earth, and 1 in 10 an alcoholic, we need all the help we can get.
Dear Annie: I feel for the woman who is being ignored or criticized by her husband constantly and who wants out of the marriage.
Dear Annie: I'm at a stage in my life where personal growth has taken hold in the absence of my husband.
This letter describes my life experiences with bullies and how I managed to succeed.
In 2010, I discovered that my husband of 47 years had been in touch with a woman who he had a long and intimate relationship with before we met.
A number of you wrote to me in response to “Still Recovering,” the woman who was not yet over her husband’s affair from seven years earlier. You offered a range of different perspectives gained from personal experiences with infidelity.
Many readers expressed opinions — and offered tips for coping — on the subject of allergies when visiting friends and family during the holidays, or just visiting friends in general.
As we prepare for another holiday season, all kinds of emotions and feelings rise to the surface for all of us —
Dear Annie: I have been married for almost 20 years.
I am looking forward to the holiday season this year, just as I have in years past, and I wanted to share my thoughts about this. Being an octogenarian, born in 1940, I see things more clearly as I enter the twilight of my life.
Dear Annie: My mom's husband molested my sister more than 25 years ago.
My boyfriend and I are in love, and we’ve been together for five years and have lived together for the past three years. He moved in with me after his divorce. Now, from that divorce, his credit was horrible.
Before getting married, I (alone) purchased the home we currently reside in. I invested a large amount of cash — more than one-third of the purchase price — at closing. My husband owned three investment properties before we were married.
Dear Annie: With reference to a recent column in which the reader said she had lost her home to a reverse mortgage, there are two primary ways this can happen, and I want to explain how to avoid this so that it never happens to any other reader.
I am struggling with the fact that I will be coming face to face with family members after a year estranged. I drew a line in the sand last year when my niece assaulted another guest in my home.
I lost my beloved father to suicide on Oct. 23, 1997, making me a suicide survivor, which means someone who has lost a loved one to suicide. My father was on his second bout of depression and post-traumatic stress disorder, and he didn’t leave a note.
Dear Annie: My grandson is in first grade and was being bullied by a classmate. The first time, the bully threw him to the ground and started punching him in the face.
I was surprised at your response to the letter writer regarding the Rational Recovery book, offered as an alternative to Alcoholics Anonymous. I am not an alcoholic myself, but I have adjacent relationships...
On Veterans Day, it is very important to honor all veterans, not just the ones that served in a war of society’s approval. I am a Vietnam veteran, and the reception we got on returning to “the world” after our tour of duty was shameful, disgraceful and disrespectful.
Dear Annie: Three weeks ago, my oldest sister passed away. Her passing was not expected.
With respect to your advice to “Loner in the South,” who was concerned about whether to attend his elderly mother’s funeral after family members have been giving him the cold shoulder for many years.
Eight years ago, my husband of 28 years divorced me, after I had discovered evidence on my computer of him having multiple affairs. Before our divorce was final, my soon-to-be ex visited a mail-order bride overseas and brought her back to our home.
I am very sad and hurt because my son and his wife will not let me see my four grandkids. This all started after we got together ...
Dear Annie: My son was involved in a catastrophic accident and was left with a severe brain injury.
Dear Annie: I just read your comments to a person whose husband had Alzheimer's and was upset by what people said to her.
My question concerns the fact that I received a heart icon on my profile on a dating website that I joined. I am new at this. He is a widower, and I want to reply by thanking him for the heart and then send a message. Should I ask him a question regarding his profile?
Dear Annie: I feel really bad for my mother who, in her early 70s, just seems to be bored with life.
I recently attended my favorite cousin’s wedding, which was absolutely beautiful. However, I am troubled by what I heard about his new bride’s parents. Her parents planned a visit with them in their house this past summer for two weeks and then extended their visit to 3 1/2 weeks.
Dear Annie: I am an attentive, loving grandmother to a handful of grandchildren.
I have never sent in anything to a column before, but I’d like to say something from a grandkid’s perspective about “Brokenhearted Grandma.”
I have been with my boyfriend for four years, and we have lived together for about 1.5 years. Things are generally well between us with one exception: He has begun snoring.
I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years, and we got engaged this year. The issue I’m struggling with is that before we were official, I noticed a message on social media of my groom in which he was flirting with my best friend’s little sister.
My friend says, “you know what I’m saying,” after nearly every sentence in conversations. She used to not do this very annoying habit, but it has become routine when she talks. It drives me to distraction.
Over the past decade, I have given up on trying to have a relationship with my five siblings. I used to call every so often to catch up and send birthday cards to all of them and their children.
I have been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years now. She just lost her middle son to a drug overdose exactly one month ago tomorrow. She is really struggling with this. He was her best friend and, out of all her kids, the one most similar to her.
I am an elderly widow who has become friends with another elderly widow who lives in the same apartment complex that I do. She is very smart and well-read, and I can talk about things with her that other friends have no interest in.
For the past two years, I’ve lived in my apartment complex without issues except for my next-door neighbor. I have come to learn that she has a medical issue — I believe it is cerebral palsy — but that’s not why I’m needing advice.
Dear Annie: I'm a divorced father with two children. My son has been depressed for over 13 years, living in Denver with his mother who's an alcoholic.
My neighbor, who has become one of my very best friends, just moved to a city four hours away. I’m devastated. We used to meet up nearly every night for a cocktail on the porch or a walk around the neighborhood. We both promised to keep in close touch, but I have barely heard from her.
I have two grown sons, ages 32 and 24, and they are my oldest and youngest children of six. At the age of 15, the 32-year-old was accused of a crime that the family knows he did not commit. But the accusation resulted in his spending approximately 15 years in and out of the penal system.
I had a cousin who was dating an actress. On her biography, she listed people she had dated but did not bother to mention my cousin.
Dear Annie: I want to share a story with you and your readers about a resource that has helped our family tremendously. They are called memory care centers, which is an alternative to assisted living.
I must disagree with your advice to “Brokenhearted in Ohio.” These adult children should not have to be reminded to call or send a card to their grandmother on her birthday or any holiday.
There’s a pizza place my husband and I go to once in a while near our home that has a really nice wait staff — mostly younger girls — but there is one gal, “Veronica,” who’s older, and we hit it off really well. We were good friends, or so I thought.
I will admit that I am a controlling daughter-in-law. I suffered childhood abuse of many kinds ...
Dear Annie: We're in a bit of a crisis here. My daughter has gone through a messy divorce.
Dear Annie: I've been reading your column for a while and now have a situation of my own I'm hoping you can help me with.
I am a 44-year-old single male who has been struggling with the dating scene. I only started dating in the last 15 years. Though I have met a lot of great people during that time, it seems as if being a gentleman, opening doors, trying to build a relationship, and a little flirting have scared women away, especially in the last few years.
I am 75. Two years ago, my oldest son, age 53, died suddenly from a massive heart attack. He was single and worked hard to amass a very large estate, which he left to me.
I am writing in response to “Angry Neighbor,” published on Aug. 28. “Angry” is upset about a campaign sign in his neighbor’s yard.
Dear Annie: I thoroughly support the comments and book recommendation made by "Enjoying my Life," not just for extroverts who want to understand their introverted loved ones better, but for introverts as well.
Today is Sept. 11. A day that changed America forever. There were many brave men and women who lost their lives this day. Below are some quotes that help to remind us of the preciousness of life and honoring those with incredible courage.
Dear Annie: I've been married to a wonderful woman for almost 50 years.
I recently had my 50th birthday. My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven years, with a two-year break. His friend recently asked me if my boyfriend gave me a present from him.
I am at my wits’ end. I don’t know what to do for my 29-year-old grandson. He needs help, but I don’t know how to help him.
Dear Annie: My brother and I are in our early 50s, and our mom has dementia.
Dear Annie: My fiance's brother and his wife have been married for 10 years. They've been in a "thruple" now for about six months.
My in-laws have been married for more than 50 years. For most of that time, it has not been a marriage of love or respect. My father-in-law “John” has a history of being a womanizer and has treated my mother-in-law “Jane” with constant disrespect.
I love reading your advice, and boy, do I ever need some now! About 20 years ago, my mother-in-law became addicted to drugs, both prescription and illegal, as a way to deal with unresolved childhood trauma. As a result, her marriage to my father-in-law fell apart.
I was raised during an economic depression. I had a sister who was two years older than me and a sister who was six years younger. I was a 6-year-old when my baby sister was born, and my life changed.
My husband passed away a little over 18 months ago. He was part of a family business, and he became disabled while he worked there. Eventually, he was fired by his twin brother. I’m not really sure why, other than the fact that his financial abilities had declined so much.
Frequently, we read letters from your readers who are mystified about the fact that when they send a card or a package carefully wrapped and mailed, the recipient does not even think about the fact that love played a major role in this.
The problem is not with our son, but his wife. They dated in high school and college, and she was friendly and nice to us during those periods, visiting us quite often. They were married after living together for more than five years, and during that time we had good relations with them.
My wife and I are approaching 50 years of marriage. Recently, we went on a cruise with her childhood friend, “Cindy,” and her husband, “Rob.” They have been friends since elementary school and Cindy was the maid of honor at our wedding.
I’m feeling conflicted about my phone. Recently, I deleted all my social media apps — Instagram, TikTok, Twitter — because I was getting so frustrated about all the time I waste on them. I would just open and close them 100 times a day and waste hours endlessly scrolling.
Dear Annie: The "Mother Whose Heart Is Breaking" is absolutely right to be worried about her son.
I’ve been married to the love of my life for 15 years, but the last 10 years have been different from the first five. My wife has been suffering from depression due to some health reasons with her thyroid, but my problem is that she has stopped going to the doctor.
My daughter and her husband have two darling toddler girls who I adore. Their parents had no plans for child care when the first was born and just assumed I would step up. Now the girls are in day care because caring for them full time was too much for me
Back in the 1960s, my father inherited some land with houses on it from his uncle who raised him. For some reason, he let his sister, my aunt, and her family move into one of the houses rent-free.
My boyfriend and I don’t really keep track of our spending, but we try to make it pretty even by trading off who pays for different expenses — groceries, date nights, travel costs, etc. We both have good jobs, and we make about the same amount of money.
I have a wedding invitation etiquette question. My niece is getting married and has only invited five of her six cousins. The one cousin not invited happens to be one of my sons.
Dear Annie: I've been with my girlfriend for seven years and lived with her for four. She wants to get married and have kids.
My sister “Kendra” and I are not very close and only communicate two to three times per year, mainly in emails. Kendra sold her home and moved out of state. I never commented on how much she made or didn’t make on her old house; I felt that was absolutely none of my business.
I’ve been reading your column for a long time, and I admire how reasonable and nonjudgmental your advice seems to be. My husband and I were childhood sweethearts. We are currently separated, and I am concerned that this might lead to divorce.
My son’s wife was pregnant with their third child in November 2022. At that time, even though my wife is severely handicapped, I offered to come over and spend time with the “grandkids” while she gave birth.
Dear Annie: I'm a 45-year-old woman, and my boyfriend is 36.
I love your column and am writing to offer a different point of view for the woman whose family does not celebrate her birthday or Mother’s Day or Christmas the way she wants. She says she gives them presents, but they don’t reciprocate.
Dear Annie: My husband and I are a young couple.
I’ve been in a long-distance, exclusive, monogamous relationship for over a year now. I met him at work (we both work remotely), and he reached out and made his feelings clear. We had a work relationship to begin with, so we were always in touch, and feelings just grew.
Last weekend, my beloved sister died from Alzheimer’s after a very long, difficult and painful decline. I was her sole caretaker for the past three years because my other sisters live too far away to help. I was with my sister up until the moment she died.
My wife and I get along well for the most part, but not all the time. She is a control freak who insists on knowing where I am going and what I am doing every second.
My boyfriend and I used to live with my dad, until his girlfriend kicked us out because of her daughter.
Dear Annie: My friend recently asked me to cook her dinner because she was tired of working long hours and eating fast food.
Five years ago, I left my abusive husband because I couldn’t take it any longer. We have been legally married for 31 years but separated for five. I took him back last summer because he promised he was a different man and had learned his lesson.
My husband and I recently moved from out of state to be closer to family. My mother-in-law and her large extended family have regular gatherings. When we first moved, they were so open to us and invited us to holiday parties and gatherings.
I have a wonderful marriage with someone I met when we were teenagers. We have a beautiful family with two boys and some pets, and almost everything is good. However, my wife becomes obsessed with causes at times, and for the past year or so, she is so intensely invested in feral cats.
Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I are really in love, but we are opposites in so many things.
My good friend “Sara” has a son who is getting married at the beginning of August. I have been in constant communication with Sara, offering help and telling her that I would love to be at the wedding. I have known Sara since high school, and we are close.
At the beginning of the pandemic, my son moved in with his longtime girlfriend. Due to confinement, they became very dependent on each other. Now she wants to get engaged and married.
Dear Annie: I have a dear friend from high school who I’ve never lost touch with. We have the kind of friendship where it doesn’t matter if we haven’t talked for months; she is there to listen and stand up for me.
I’ve always been the one who puts everyone first. I always do my best to make sure that when it’s my kids’ or husband’s birthday, I decorate the living room and dining room for them. I spend months searching for that special gift, finding that thing that they didn’t know they wanted.
My husband and I met while he was going through a challenging divorce and instantly fell in love. Because we have a significant age difference, he wanted to get married and start having kids as soon as possible. His best friend “Robert” made it clear that he did not approve of our relationship or engagement.
My husband is passionate about doing what we can as individual citizens to combat climate change. He believes the largest impact any one person can have is decreasing their driving. So, to do his part, he has started using the public transit system as much as possible.
Dear Annie: We appreciate your care for community members in the Spokane, Washington, area and the time that you spend responding to questions from community members who contact you.
Last year, my best friend told me that she and my husband had slept together the year before, after her divorce from my husband’s brother. When I confronted my husband about this information, he wasn’t defensive or argumentative; he just denied that it happened.
I met a woman online a couple of months ago, though we have never met in person. We have talked about getting together, where I would go to her location, and taking things from there. I’m wondering if there are warning flags and what course of action to take.
Dear Annie: I'm a 60-year-old male about to reenter the dating world.
I wanted to ask this question to see what others think. My boyfriend hasn’t involved me in his family and we have been together for seven years. He has met my family and my kids but is very private about his own family.
For the past seven months, I’ve been having issues with my husband of 19 years. I found out seven months ago he’s been talking to an old female friend. He claims that she’s just a friend and that he’s interacting with her only via text and calls and that nothing is going on.
Dear Annie: I would like to reply to "An Aging Adult Facing Reality." I, too, have profound hearing loss and have been wearing hearing aids since the age of 10.
I’d like to offer an alternative perspective on your advice to “Trying To Heal,” who is finding it hard to forgive her abusive mother. I would argue quite strongly, and from experience, that forgiveness isn’t necessary to healing.
Growing up, my siblings and I were not particularly close with my father’s mother. My mom and dad had religious differences with Grandma, and she kept a distance from us. We were like the black sheep of the family!
Dear Annie: With an estimated 2.5 million couples planning on getting married this year, how can those of us who have successfully navigated marriage over the years help these couples succeed once the honeymoon phase begins to wane?
An acquaintance from my past (1983) contacted me in July 2019 after searching for and finding me on social media. We have been speaking on and off since then, but he now calls me every day (sometimes two times a day) and says he’s making travel plans to come see me.
I recently separated from my husband, and we are in the process of a divorce. The relationship was a bit toxic. But it was my choice to leave, and I left for my own mental health, as I struggle with anxiety and depression and self-esteem issues. I have reconnected with a man I dated a few years ago.
Dear Annie: I frequently hear older relatives complain that the younger generation does not want to host holiday gatherings and would rather travel to a beach vacation or ski vacation.
I am engaged. I have been for six years (I know, I know), but we actually plan to get married in a few months. I am in love with her, but I just don’t know if letting my feelings fall to the wayside is how I want to live the rest of my life.
There’s a lot that you and your family can do to alleviate anxiety during these stressful times, especially as we face the potential for an expanding war beyond Ukraine. There are new weapons in play now: cyberattacks, the use of economic sanctions and the expansion of warfare into space.
Dear Annie: I am in my 40s and recently single again after 15 years of marriage. I ended my marriage due to domestic violence.
My wife and I have been married for over 15 years. I have a high metabolism, while she is considered obese. But she wears it well. After having children via cesarean section, her stomach has no muscles left to hold it together. To me, she is beautiful, inside and out.
Several years ago, my sister’s husband passed away. She was married for over 60 years. They had three children. She made plans to have a memorial service on the weekend. He was to be cremated. My family and I made plans to attend.
Dear Annie: Something not spoken about regarding oppression, disadvantages and privilege is the privilege people have when they have family.
Dear Annie: I have a friend who is moving out of state in six weeks, and she has a family member who is giving her a hard time. The family member is giving her the, “What about me?” song and dance after my friend did everything in her power to make sure the family member is taken care of.
Today, Earth Day, is a time for reflection on and gratitude for our beautiful planet. If you are looking for some ways to show your appreciation with time or money, below is a list of organizations devoted to environmental sustainability.
My husband and I have been married for three years. Life together has been good since our relationship blossomed almost five years ago. But my in-laws have never supported our relationship because I’m not a member of the Latter-day Saints church.
I have a question about etiquette in our technological age. I recently discovered that lots of people have cameras inside their own homes, and I found out that one couple with whom we are friendly has several cameras in their home.
I received so many letters about the column “Tactful Reply” that I wanted to honor your feedback and print some of them below. Thank you all for sharing your wonderful words of wisdom and advice on how to handle these situations. I’m hoping that it helps others know they are not alone in their grief.
I'm writing to share my feelings about giving up and just being done.
My three siblings and I are in a terrible situation right now over our 88-year-old mother. When she first moved into her seniors residence almost a year ago, one of the papers that we were asked to fill out was a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) form.
My family is dealing with an aging mother. Since my father died, she has moved often. Every place she moves to eventually has some issue, and she starts complaining. Soon she is driving me crazy about whatever it is. Even after the problem is solved, she’ll find something else to focus on.
I am feeling so conflicted. My niece, “Melanie,” is getting married in June. Melanie is paying for her own wedding, with a little from her mom. Long story short, things are acrimonious between Melanie and her dad, and she’s decided not to invite him to the wedding.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a little over 14 months. We knew each other 30 years ago, as we attended the same church. We never said anything but hello to each other. Fourteen months ago, we connected on Facebook, and a fairytale romance began.
My husband constantly interrupts me. When I open a conversation with him, he immediately starts talking about his thoughts before I even have a chance to finish mine. When with a group of people, I will start to say something about an experience we may have had, and he immediately takes over the conversation.
My daughter goes to college full time and works full time, so she is very busy. When she was in high school, she knew at least four people who committed suicide.
When our sons married and left home, my husband and I decided to make sure our sons and their families would never have to choose who to visit on any holiday. So, we announced that we would always have our holiday get-togethers at our house a week before or after the actual holiday.
I’ve been seeing this guy since early December. He’s perfect in every way, except he seems to be attached to this one woman, “Suzy,” who he became good friends with due to unfortunate pasts connecting the two of them.
Dear Annie: I'm still bothered by memories that are over 20 years old.
I recently reconnected with a man I was engaged to as a young girl. We broke up because of a misunderstanding. Now, decades later, we have reunited.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 30 years. It is our second marriage for both of us.
I am a licensed professional counselor writing in response to “Cleaning the Chaos,” the woman who was sick of cleaning up after her boyfriend. The boyfriend, “Denny,” the apparent slob, has the classic signs of attention deficit disorder.
I lost a son in 2014, and now both of my surviving sons don’t want to have anything to do with me.
Dear Annie: I love your column and the advice you give. I never thought I'd be sending a letter to you.
Dear Annie: I have a friend who my partner and I had a good friendship with until she got back together with her boyfriend.
I have a friend who I met when we were classmates, and I hadn’t seen him in years. We finally got together, with me going to his residence, and we had a good time. Afterward, no call or text from him. When we do talk, it’s me making the call.
I’d like an impartial opinion on something that’s been bothering me for a few months now. My husband recently turned 50, and as I wanted to mark this milestone, I decided to throw a small surprise party.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 10 years.
This is in response to “Frustrated Peacemaker,” the woman whose husband was treating her mom with dementia in a condescending and critical manner.
I have always looked up to my older sisters. They are twins and six years older than me. We all had difficult childhoods ...
Dear Annie:I'm a recent widow with an in-law problem.
I read with great interest the letter written by “Nostalgic and Regretful,” who was wondering what could have been with her high school boyfriend 47 years ago. I have a similar story, along with similar guilt, but for different reasons.
You overwhelmed me with interesting replies to “Too Impersonal,” the letter saying that there is a lack of customer service today. Here is a sampling...
Dear Annie: I am a single and retired homeowner. The problem is that I have a spending addiction where I nickel-and-dime myself to death.
My wife and I have three grandsons, 11, 8 and 6. When the pandemic hit, we were able to help out by taking care of the three boys for about four months. Since the first visit, the boys’ parents divorced. Now my ex-son-in-law will not let the boys come for a visit.
For background, I played and lettered in a variety of sports during school and continued to play on adult soccer teams and flag football as an adult. I was only able to get my sons interested in sports because I agreed to coach their recreational soccer teams.
Dear Annie: I am 29 years old, and the guy I've been seeing is in his early 30s. The issue that I'm having is that he has no ambition.
Dear Annie: Two years ago, I lost my husband to terminal cancer after 30 years of marriage.
Please say something about the inadequacy of texting for true communication. My sister is addicted to texting and will no longer use email or the telephone to communicate. All warmth, tone of voice and laughter are lost.
My sister and I are in our sixties. We are less than a year apart in age but have never really been close emotionally. We had a rough childhood, in which it was all about survival. Once we were adults, we both moved away and only saw each other a few times a year.
My wife and I have been married for eight years, and we have four beautiful boys together. A little over a year ago, I caught her having an affair ...
Dear Annie: I'm writing out of concern over your response to "Very Sad Mother of a Very Sweet and Special Daughter," who told you about the abuse that her daughter is experiencing at the hands of her son-in-law.
Dear Annie: My neighbor and I have been friends for the last year and a half.
I’m 70, and my friend “Martha” is 72. We live in the same senior apartment complex and have known each other for about nine months. I’ve helped her a lot, taking her to doctor’s appointments, walking her dog after eye surgery, etc.
Our daughter, son-in-law and grandchildren live in another part of the country, so we are only able to see them a few times a year. On our most recent visit, my wife asked my daughter where she kept some of the very nice, expensive wedding gifts that had been given to them by friends of ours.
Am I the only one who is annoyed by the lack of customer service in our country today? I am in my 70s, and I vividly remember the days when I would call a hotel to make a reservation. A live human being would answer the phone and handle my request.
Dear Annie: My relationship with my in-laws is a bit strange.
Dear Annie: Without trying to sound arrogant, I am smarter than the average bear.
Dear Annie:Hope you can give us some sage advice!
Dear Annie: When I was a 21-year-old assistant English instructor (an “intern”) at a summer program for high school seniors in New Hampshire, I developed an interest in one of the students. She was 18.
Dear Annie: My husband and I enjoy your column and often read it out loud to each other and discuss possible answers before reading your response.
Dear Annie: I am a 62-year-old Nana of two beautiful girls, ages 6 months and 3 years. My son and his wife live 2 1/2 hours away, so I visit them every six weeks or so.
You get a lot of letters about people whose partners fell in love with someone else, causing a rift in their partnership. I find a lot of these partners lacked communication, so I thought I’d share my story of what can happen when you just talk.
I am in an interracial relationship and am a stepparent to a 7-year-old daughter. When COVID-19 came, my mother-in-law was without a job and in between places. We have only two bedrooms, one for us and one for my stepdaughter.
I’m a 45-year-old-male and have had many traumatic events in my past, including abuses too bad to name. My problem is, as I was growing up, I was so mistreated that I never learned how to feel.
Dear readers: On Thanksgiving Day, I asked you to submit responses about what you're grateful for this year. In the spirit of the season — love, gratitude, family and cheer — I want to share some of your lovely responses.
My husband is 68, and I am 66. He has two boys, and I have one, all fully grown and out on their own with children and even grandchildren
Around five years ago, still reeling from hosting our 15th or so yearly sit-down Thanksgiving extravaganza (out-of-town guests, family, friends, random strays, you get the picture), always fun but always exhausting, I was asked what we were doing for Christmas.
Dear Annie: After paying my dues with bad relationships, including a toxic marriage that took me way too long to leave, I have finally found real love with a man whom I’ve known since we were teenagers.
Dear Annie: My middle-aged confirmed bachelor brother-in-law is a frequent and welcome dinner guest at our house.
My wife is borderline addicted to “Words With Friends” (an app game similar to Scrabble), and it’s causing me concern, in addition to creating some strife within our marriage. It would be one thing if she were only playing with other female players, but she also has an ongoing game with a former male classmate.
I have an old and close friend I’ve known for 50 years. We live far apart, and the only way to talk is by telephone. Over the past several years, my friend has started to suddenly interrupt our calls when there is a click on the line signaling another call.
Dear Annie: I have a loving daughter, and I respect her husband greatly.
Dear Annie: My husband works with a guy,"Dave."
I have been in a friend group that plays board games nearly every month for 25 years. We all know one another from working at a startup in Colorado nearly 30 years ago. We don’t work together anymore, but we still play games together frequently.
Dear Annie: I have a 47-year-old son who lives with me. He pays no rent, and he does not help with the bills. He does help with some of the yard work and housecleaning, but he ignores it if I ask him to help with something that I would like.
Dear Annie: My husband of 19 years had an office gathering at our home in mid-August.
Dear Readers: Thank you for all your responses to "Letting Go Is Hard to Do."
Dear Annie: Both my adult daughter and her husband are employed. Since they do not cook, when my husband and I visit them, which is approximately four times a year, they send out for food and ask us to pay our share of the bill, or, on occasion, she will use my credit card to pay for the whole bill.
Dear Annie: I knew my husband had a Twitter account, and I thought he only followed groups.
My brother has been dating a woman for several years, and they recently became engaged. I do like her, but here is my issue: She is another nationality, and her family (in another country) does not like her dating a “white guy.” They refer to him as “white trash,” though he is well-educated and makes good money.
As I’m sure you all know, today is Thanksgiving, a holiday dedicated to celebrating the things we’re grateful for. To get in the spirit, I’d love to hear what you are grateful for this year. Send your responses to email@example.com.
I am an 80-year-old female, a widow. I live alone. I have a history of having arthritis, and I can’t take medications for arthritis due to having had stomach ulcers. I had a hip replacement in the spring, and I had hoped I would be able to walk without the use of a walker.
Dear Annie: My husband is a chronic procrastinator. He puts off everything.
Dear Annie: I need help. I've let my niece move in with me, my husband and my 17-year-old daughter after her husband committed suicide.
My spouse and I have been married for over 40 years. Our children are married with children of their own. They seem happy and well-adjusted, and our whole family seems happy and healthy. I am very blessed and glad things are the way they are.
I have been technically single all my life. I did have a casual long-term relationship with a man that lasted for 12 years. We were never exclusive. We would have never worked exclusively, and we both knew that.
Many of you wrote about why the husband of “Neglected Spouse” has not had sex with her in years. ...
Dear Annie: My uncle has a reputation for being extremely cheap, but he did something recently that has left me fuming.
Dear Annie: Forty-two years ago, my then-boyfriend and I decided to move in together in the house he was building.
Dear Annie: Staying close to family is not easy, but it is really important.
Dear Annie: I've dated this woman for over five months.
I’m in my 70s, as is my boyfriend. For the most part, we get along. But lately, I’m starting to worry about him. He lost his fiancee about five years ago, and I lost my husband six years ago, so we both know grief.
Five months ago, I started dating a 58-year-old man. We met online and exchanged phone numbers. Our conversations were great, so we met for a date and started a relationship.
In your response to “Loss and Regret,” concerning a teenager being sexually abused by an older female, you dismissed the legal aspect of this out of hand. The older woman should be brought up on sexual abuse charges against a minor.
Dear Annie: Nearly 50 years ago, while a high school student, I met an upperclassman who completely swept me off my feet. We clicked with each other almost immediately and loved being together as much as possible.
Dear Annie: As I was reading the letter from "Burnt Out," the woman whose husband was chronically ill at moments of pressure, I wanted to say that the advice you gave about how this could be a mind/body issue sounds spot on to me, based on my personal experience.
My slightly older brother and his spouse (in their mid-30s) are moving to Texas from California with their three toddler-aged children for no other reason than politics — politics to which no one else in the family subscribes.
I have three children: two sons from my marriage, both in their 20s, and my daughter, who is 14, from an ex-girlfriend. When my oldest son was thrown out of his mother’s home, I had him move in right away.
I need help, but I’m so lost on what to do. Please help with some advice. I’m 52 years old and so broken. My mom passed away on Sept. 14, 2019, at home. I’ve had to live with my brother “Ed” ever since. Or, should I say, he has had to live with me.
Dear Annie: I am a 72-year-old woman who used to live with my daughter and her family. I moved out last January.
Dear Annie: I’m here to offer the European perspective on tipping.
Dear Annie: How much is appropriate to share in the workplace when it comes to personal matters?
I was in a nine-month relationship up until about a month ago. Without going into a lot of detail, the guy I was seeing decided to ghost me without any warning. We had a great conversation on Thursday, and then on Friday morning, he blocked my calls, emails, etc.
I’m struggling with a situation I can no longer handle. My husband has a long history of periodically “falling ill” with mystery illnesses the doctors treat as minor everyday issues, but which inevitably result in his being unable to function.
I enjoy reading your column in the Indianapolis Star. Today, I read the column, “How Do I Tell My Kids Our Dog Died?” I believe you were right on target when you wrote that one should avoid saying that the pets just went to sleep.
Dear Annie: I am a 52-year-old man who came to this country when I was 15.
I have a child with a woman who is 20 years younger than me. Having a child was not planned. I’m grateful for our child, but I’m not in love with her mother. I’ve tried to explain to her that I love her for the mother she is but that I’m not in love with her.
My mother died at the age of 67 from COVID-19 in January. My stepfather wanted to wait a year to have the memorial so everyone could attend. Since my mother’s death, my stepfather has remarried. Yup, remarried. And now his new wife has moved into the house.
I’m currently in recovery. I have had two years of being clean and sober, after 13 long, miserable years of addiction.
Dear Annie: In the 12 years since my first child was born (and two more children followed), our military family has yet to actually celebrate Christmas in our own home because we are always traveling to our families’ homes, lest we hear from hurt grandparents bemoaning our absence.
Dear Annie: I am a single mom of four wonderful boys, two of whom are teenagers.
Dear Annie: My wife and I have two boys, 10 and 12. For years, my wife has been either brushing their teeth herself -- long past when it was appropriate -- or hovering over them nightly to ensure they are doing it the "right" way.
My nephew, who was working in a foreign country, married a local woman. They visited my nephew’s father in the U.S. a few times. During one visit, I gave my nephew’s wife a brooch that belonged to my grandmother to welcome her to the family.
My 20-year-old daughter, “Jessica,” was adopted when she was 2 by her mom and her first husband, and I adopted her when she was 15. She decided to reach out to her birth mother in a very small town with very limited opportunities last February, and then she moved across the country to be with her in April.
I’ve been very happily married for several years to a man I love deeply. Suddenly, his son from a previous marriage, who lives in another state, wants Dad to move to his state to be close to him, as he and his wife are planning a family.
In a recent column, a reader stated his wife has a serious addiction to pain pills after years of being prescribed them, hasn’t worked in those years, spends most of her time in bed, breaks into pill safes and begs for more pills.
My boyfriend and I have been talking about moving in together for a very long time. I became pregnant and had our baby, but he didn’t move in with me because he was upset that I was talking to other people about our problems.
About two years ago, my wife of 20 years, “Cynthia,” and I divorced. Our two children are grown and out of the house. Our divorce wasn’t the norm; we did it without a lawyer or mediator. Everything was civil; no one cheated or was abused. I think we both just changed over time.
Our family is like most families -- dysfunctional. Our father worked two jobs most of his life to better himself for the good of his family. My mother was a spender, but my father controlled the money. When my father passed, my mother was finally free to live as she wanted.
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together since we were just out of high school. We’ve been married for 18 years, and we have three glorious children. We have a great relationship, but I recently discovered she was extremely promiscuous in high school and found out she slept with many of our friends, some of whom are still in our social circle.
Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old boy, and my family hates me because I am gay.
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for six years now. Two years ago, I cheated on him, and he found out shortly after when he looked at my phone and saw that I was texting the other guy.
I cannot believe I am asking for advice. Here goes! My mom, with whom I was very close, passed away 21 months ago. Annie, my life has never been the same.
Dear Annie: After my mother died, my father married a woman he found online. She only visited us once in person before she moved in and they got married. She wasn’t always the nicest, and honestly, I was scared of her.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for five years. We have a beautiful daughter, and we've got a son on the way.
Dear Annie: My heart and prayers go out to the "Grieving Grandmother" who is tired of the apathy shown by her daughters-in-law.
My wife and I are in a pickle. We are friends with another couple, “Josh” and “Vanessa.” Vanessa happens to be a teacher at our kids’ school. One day, I was picking up my offspring and started chatting with her. I could tell she was sad and asked her about it. That’s when the floodgates opened.
I am in my late 60s, and my boyfriend, “Mark,” is in his early 70s. We have been living together in my house for a year and a half. We’re both divorced and have adult children from our previous marriages. Mark communicates daily with all five children via phone calls and text messages. My problem is that he’s also regularly in contact with his ex-wife, who lives in the same town as us.
I am a single mother of two teenage girls. After a series of abusive relationships, I hadn’t dated for two years until recently. A few months ago, I met a man, and we’ve been seeing each other and sharing intimate moments. But the way he acts has me very confused.
About a year ago, after talking to a nice guy who could also be a royal pain -- especially when things don’t go his way -- I decided to let him into my heart. I did this even though I am usually pretty well guarded and don’t allow too many people close to me.
Dear Annie: My former boyfriend and I were in a serious, exclusive relationship for nearly six years. While we never lived together, we were intimately close and spent most nights together. He always told me how much he loved me and that I was the best.
Dear Annie: There is tension between some of my relatives and me, and I would appreciate your advice.
Dear Annie: We recently moved from our home of 20 years to a neighboring state that is two hours away by car. Our children are 21 and 19. We had set our sights on moving to this community several years ago, but we waited until our son had graduated from high school.
Dear Annie: I am writing in response to your answer to "Just Want the Same Service," who was frustrated at the slow service she received in a restaurant.
Dear Annie: My husband of a year and I have yet to consummate our marriage.
Dear Annie: In several columns, you’ve mentioned Match.com as a good place for singles to meet other singles. Well, my mother-in-law lost her entire savings, more than $70,000, to a scammer on one of the most popular dating sites.
Dear Annie: My longtime best friend of 15 years and I entered into a romantic relationship in March of last year. It was a nightmare from almost the very beginning.
Dear Annie: My sister and I reunited about five years ago after not speaking for at least 10 years.
Dear Annie: I have been seeing a woman for about eight years now. She is married, and I am not.
Dear Annie: I’m 20 years old and from New York. I’ve been in and out of my house since I was small because my mom and I would get into small arguments and she would just decide to send me to my dad’s house. This takes a toll on me because I feel like she doesn’t want me here.
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 35 years.
Dear Annie: Your solicitation for a Father’s Day story made me contemplate my life. I have been very blessed. My biological father is still with us at 89. He was an example of volunteerism and strength. He was always involved at church and in Boy Scouts.
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 10 years. We have three children who mean the world to me. I'm sure that, on the outside looking in, people think everything is great. However, my wife has developed a drinking problem.
Lately, I find myself thinking a lot about old roommates, friends and co-workers. I’m talking about people from over 30 years ago, whom I haven’t spoken to in decades.
Dear Annie:My older brother and I have been dealing with a touchy situation for years. We are both adopted; our parents divorced when we were very young, and they both remarried.
I am the mother of four adult children. I have many happy memories of all their childhoods, celebrating birthdays, graduations and other milestones. I feel I have wonderful relationships with three of them (and their spouses). The fourth has been challenging, to say the least.
My husband and I got married right before the pandemic.
I met a man about four years ago. We started dating a week after we met, upon his insistence.
Dear Annie: My relationship with my parents has been strained since their divorce 20 years ago. I speak to my father rarely but communicate regularly with my mother.
My family relocated the year I was entering ninth grade, and on the third day at my new school, as I was walking home, a girl I’ll call Ann ran up to my side, introduced herself and insisted on carrying my books to my home, some three blocks away.
I have great neighbors who have two daughters, ages 15 and 16.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have never had an easy marriage, and I am considering leaving him.