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For the past seven months, I’ve been having issues with my husband of 19 years. I found out seven months ago he’s been talking to an old female friend. He claims that she’s just a friend and that he’s interacting with her only via text and calls and that nothing is going on.

I’m a 45-year-old loser. I’ve never been married, have no kids and have never been in a relationship.

When I married my husband, it was me and my 17-year-old daughter.

Dear Annie: I have been with my boyfriend "Scott" for almost 11 years. We have been together since high school.

I’d like to offer an alternative perspective on your advice to “Trying To Heal,” who is finding it hard to forgive her abusive mother. I would argue quite strongly, and from experience, that forgiveness isn’t necessary to healing.

I recently got married to the father of my youngest child, and so far, nothing is going as planned.

Growing up, my siblings and I were not particularly close with my father’s mother. My mom and dad had religious differences with Grandma, and she kept a distance from us. We were like the black sheep of the family!

I recently learned that my spouse had a brief affair with someone else early in our relationship.

Dear Annie: With an estimated 2.5 million couples planning on getting married this year, how can those of us who have successfully navigated marriage over the years help these couples succeed once the honeymoon phase begins to wane?

Dear Annie: My husband has a small family, and his mom is single. My husband and I have two children in elementary school.

Dear Annie: They say it's normal not to forget your first love. Is reaching out to them crossing a line?

An acquaintance from my past (1983) contacted me in July 2019 after searching for and finding me on social media. We have been speaking on and off since then, but he now calls me every day (sometimes two times a day) and says he’s making travel plans to come see me.

I recently separated from my husband, and we are in the process of a divorce. The relationship was a bit toxic. But it was my choice to leave, and I left for my own mental health, as I struggle with anxiety and depression and self-esteem issues. I have reconnected with a man I dated a few years ago.

Is it wrong or unethical to tell a friend that a mutual friend has COVID-19 without securing that individual’s permission to discuss their medical status?

But where do I go from here? I don’t know if the attraction is mutual or not...

Happy Mother’s Day! Below are some beautiful quotes and tributes written about mothers.

Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for 11 years, together for 16.

I’m a 24-year-old man, and I recently moved in with my girlfriend of three years. Since moving in, it seems that the passion she used to have for me is gone physically, though she insists it’s due to hormone issues with her medications.

I am engaged. I have been for six years (I know, I know), but we actually plan to get married in a few months. I am in love with her, but I just don’t know if letting my feelings fall to the wayside is how I want to live the rest of my life.

Dear Annie: I’ve been an admin for many years at many different offices, and the admin’s office/desk is usually equivalent to a home’s kitchen — the gathering spot.

There’s a lot that you and your family can do to alleviate anxiety during these stressful times, especially as we face the potential for an expanding war beyond Ukraine. There are new weapons in play now: cyberattacks, the use of economic sanctions and the expansion of warfare into space.

Dear Annie: I am in my 40s and recently single again after 15 years of marriage. I ended my marriage due to domestic violence.

My wife and I have been married for over 15 years. I have a high metabolism, while she is considered obese. But she wears it well. After having children via cesarean section, her stomach has no muscles left to hold it together. To me, she is beautiful, inside and out.

Dear Annie: My husband took away all sex and everything that went with it 22 years ago. I hate my wasted life.

Several years ago, my sister’s husband passed away. She was married for over 60 years. They had three children. She made plans to have a memorial service on the weekend. He was to be cremated. My family and I made plans to attend.

I have an old flame who has been happily married for many years and lives across the country. I would never cross the line, as I have been on that end, and I wish that pain on no one. How do I get my heart to stop wanting him?

Thank you for the wise advice that you give to your readers. I have often taken your advice and applied it to my situation in life. But this is a new issue for me.

I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years, and we have one child together. We love each other, but we are not married. I keep asking, “Why is he taking so long to propose marriage?”

Dear Annie: I have a friend who is moving out of state in six weeks, and she has a family member who is giving her a hard time. The family member is giving her the, “What about me?” song and dance after my friend did everything in her power to make sure the family member is taken care of.

Dear Annie: I've been involved with the father of my child for 10 years.

Today, Earth Day, is a time for reflection on and gratitude for our beautiful planet. If you are looking for some ways to show your appreciation with time or money, below is a list of organizations devoted to environmental sustainability.

My husband and I have been married for three years. Life together has been good since our relationship blossomed almost five years ago. But my in-laws have never supported our relationship because I’m not a member of the Latter-day Saints church.

I have a question about etiquette in our technological age. I recently discovered that lots of people have cameras inside their own homes, and I found out that one couple with whom we are friendly has several cameras in their home.

I received so many letters about the column “Tactful Reply” that I wanted to honor your feedback and print some of them below. Thank you all for sharing your wonderful words of wisdom and advice on how to handle these situations. I’m hoping that it helps others know they are not alone in their grief.

I have read your column for a long time now, and I always find that you give good advice and wisdom. I've been married for seven years and just recently became separated ...

Wishing you and your families a very happy Easter and Passover week. Spring is a time to get outdoors and play. It is a time for new beginnings and fresh starts. It is a time when the flowers begin to bloom and kittens are born.

I'm writing to share my feelings about giving up and just being done.

I grew up in an extremely abusive household with a functioning (mean, abusive) alcoholic for a mother. Because of the poor examples I had as a child, I ended up becoming a functioning addict in an abusive relationship of my own.

My son is 53 years old — a good person but an alcoholic. He followed me to Florida 10 years ago. I sent thousands of dollars to get him on his feet.

I have a dog who loves people. Whenever my sister-in-law, “Helen,” visits, she does not touch him at all. She has a dog herself and seems to like dogs. This makes my wife feel bad, but Helen doesn’t seem to care.

I am a divorced man in his mid-60s and involved with a woman of the same age. We both have good jobs and enjoy each other’s company.

Below are some uplifting letters about how to find peace and joy even in the midst of uncertainty.

I’m a middle-aged single mom of two great kids. I recently entered into my first serious relationship since my divorce five years ago, and I love him dearly, but there is a huge problem.

Mother's Day and Father's Day always present a dilemma for my family, and I was hoping you and your readers could offer some advice.

My three siblings and I are in a terrible situation right now over our 88-year-old mother. When she first moved into her seniors residence almost a year ago, one of the papers that we were asked to fill out was a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) form.

My husband has a friend, “Ralph,” who is half his age and was recently married. Ralph’s wife, “Katherine,” is always texting my husband, and not me, to make plans to go out to eat. She also likes to sit beside my husband.

My family is dealing with an aging mother. Since my father died, she has moved often. Every place she moves to eventually has some issue, and she starts complaining. Soon she is driving me crazy about whatever it is. Even after the problem is solved, she’ll find something else to focus on.

I am feeling so conflicted. My niece, “Melanie,” is getting married in June. Melanie is paying for her own wedding, with a little from her mom. Long story short, things are acrimonious between Melanie and her dad, and she’s decided not to invite him to the wedding.

Dear Annie: My oldest sister has five grown children. Four live out of town, and one lives with his mother.

Dear Annie: I am trying to decide if I should print out the following letter and give it to my wife. What do you think?

Dear Annie: I recently ended a long-term friendship. I feel it was the right choice to make, and I don't regret the decision.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a little over 14 months. We knew each other 30 years ago, as we attended the same church. We never said anything but hello to each other. Fourteen months ago, we connected on Facebook, and a fairytale romance began.

My husband constantly interrupts me. When I open a conversation with him, he immediately starts talking about his thoughts before I even have a chance to finish mine. When with a group of people, I will start to say something about an experience we may have had, and he immediately takes over the conversation.

A great number of you wrote in and responded to “Feeling Powerless” with some wonderful suggestions to help. Below are a few. Thank you very much for your positive input.

My husband and I met 20 years ago and had a passionate, whirlwind courtship. Two years after we were married, intimacy gradually became less and less frequent.

Dear Annie: I am writing to you because I am desperate to find the answer to my problem, which is similar to other letters I have seen in your column.

My daughter goes to college full time and works full time, so she is very busy. When she was in high school, she knew at least four people who committed suicide.

Dear Annie: I am a happily married middle-age woman.

When our sons married and left home, my husband and I decided to make sure our sons and their families would never have to choose who to visit on any holiday. So, we announced that we would always have our holiday get-togethers at our house a week before or after the actual holiday.

I’ve been seeing this guy since early December. He’s perfect in every way, except he seems to be attached to this one woman, “Suzy,” who he became good friends with due to unfortunate pasts connecting the two of them.

This letter is in reference to the aunt and uncle who provided generous gifts to their six nephews, only to be forgotten when it came time for those same nephews to thank them.

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost eight years. We were high school sweethearts, and we are each other’s first everything, so we’ve only been with each other.

Dear Annie: I have two sons. My older one was always a source of difficulty growing up.

Dear Annie: Some years ago, I went to a nearby office supply shop, where I saw a local couple looking around. The woman, a local musician, had Alzheimer’s, but she seemed to recognize me, so we began a conversation.

Dear Annie: I'm still bothered by memories that are over 20 years old.

I recently reconnected with a man I was engaged to as a young girl. We broke up because of a misunderstanding. Now, decades later, we have reunited.

In light of St. Patrick’s Day, I want to share this story from “Same Boat,” who wrote a response recently to share the story of how he reconnected with his fiancee from 28 years ago.

In light of St Patrick’s Day tomorrow, I wanted to share some famous fun quotes and blessings.

Dear Annie: I’ve read a lot of your columns, and it always seems your advice is helpful. I’ve been stuck in a major rut for the last two or three years.

Dear Annie: My husband and I are doctors (academician and orthopedic surgeon).

Dear Annie: You have a lot of common sense, and I am writing to you because I am looking for an outside opinion about my sudden pessimism about current events.

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 30 years. It is our second marriage for both of us.

I am a licensed professional counselor writing in response to “Cleaning the Chaos,” the woman who was sick of cleaning up after her boyfriend. The boyfriend, “Denny,” the apparent slob, has the classic signs of attention deficit disorder.

My soon-to-be ex-wife and I were married for almost five years. When we decided to have kids, we also agreed that she would quit her job and become a full-time stay-at-home mom. I would support her and the kids 100%.

I lost a son in 2014, and now both of my surviving sons don’t want to have anything to do with me.

I am writing in response to the letter from “Concerned Care-Daughter,” who said she was approaching caregiver burnout. It sounds to me like she is very empathic, and her older sister may have some narcissist traits.

About 18 months ago, my daughter, now 29, told my wife and me that she planned to get married in October of this year.

Dear Annie: I have a friend who my partner and I had a good friendship with until she got back together with her boyfriend.

I have a friend who I met when we were classmates, and I hadn’t seen him in years. We finally got together, with me going to his residence, and we had a good time. Afterward, no call or text from him. When we do talk, it’s me making the call.

I’d like an impartial opinion on something that’s been bothering me for a few months now. My husband recently turned 50, and as I wanted to mark this milestone, I decided to throw a small surprise party.

This is in response to “Frustrated Peacemaker,” the woman whose husband constantly corrects her 80-year-old mom, who has dementia.

Dear Annie: I am a middle-aged widow. A few years ago, I reconnected with a longtime family friend.

Dear Annie: I have some thoughts to share with "Avoiding Ex," the man dodging his allegedly drama-creating ex, and any other divorced parents with grown children.

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 10 years.

Dear Annie: My boss is simply a taker, and I'm tired of it.

My husband and I will be married two years in December. Prior to getting married, we had a “good” sex life. We discussed having a child of our own (I have three from a previous marriage), and he doesn’t have any.

Like so many of your readers, I never thought I’d be writing to you for help. But here I am.

This is in response to “Frustrated Peacemaker,” the woman whose husband was treating her mom with dementia in a condescending and critical manner.

I have always looked up to my older sisters. They are twins and six years older than me. We all had difficult childhoods ...

Dear Annie: I was raised in a Southern family that insisted on teaching good manners.

Dear Annie: About a year ago, I started talking to a guy who I had met online, and for the most part, things have gone OK.

I read with great interest the letter written by “Nostalgic and Regretful,” who was wondering what could have been with her high school boyfriend 47 years ago. I have a similar story, along with similar guilt, but for different reasons.

I’m a mother of three children who mean everything in the world to me. I gave them everything I could and loved them with all my heart. The pandemic was the start of lots of hard things.

You overwhelmed me with interesting replies to “Too Impersonal,” the letter saying that there is a lack of customer service today. Here is a sampling...

So many letters to you and other columnists have to do with children, grandchildren, nieces and nephews who don’t bother to thank the gift giver.

Dear Readers: Wishing you all a Happy Valentine's Day! May this year be filled with love, forgiveness and joy. Below are a few of some beautiful poems on the subject of love -- both romantic love and the love of nature.

Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship with a man for 10 years, and we have been engaged for four years.

Dear Annie: I am a single and retired homeowner. The problem is that I have a spending addiction where I nickel-and-dime myself to death.

My wife and I have three grandsons, 11, 8 and 6. When the pandemic hit, we were able to help out by taking care of the three boys for about four months. Since the first visit, the boys’ parents divorced. Now my ex-son-in-law will not let the boys come for a visit.

My boyfriend, “Denny,” and I have been together for two years, living together for the last year. He is a slob and oblivious to the mess he makes.

For background, I played and lettered in a variety of sports during school and continued to play on adult soccer teams and flag football as an adult. I was only able to get my sons interested in sports because I agreed to coach their recreational soccer teams.

I have experience as a financial coach, and some of the people I help are researching college scholarship opportunities for their children who are in middle school and high school. ...

Dear Annie: My son has not spoken to me for eight years.

Dear Annie: Two years ago, I lost my husband to terminal cancer after 30 years of marriage.

Please say something about the inadequacy of texting for true communication. My sister is addicted to texting and will no longer use email or the telephone to communicate. All warmth, tone of voice and laughter are lost.

My sister and I are in our sixties. We are less than a year apart in age but have never really been close emotionally. We had a rough childhood, in which it was all about survival. Once we were adults, we both moved away and only saw each other a few times a year.

I am in a bit of a crush of emotions, and I am writing about a common topic that appears in your column. It is the first time I have ever written to anyone for advice, but I do want an opinion.

My wife and I have been married for eight years, and we have four beautiful boys together. A little over a year ago, I caught her having an affair ...

Dear Annie: I'm writing out of concern over your response to "Very Sad Mother of a Very Sweet and Special Daughter," who told you about the abuse that her daughter is experiencing at the hands of her son-in-law.

Dear Annie: I am heartbroken about our 33-year-old daughter.

I’m 70, and my friend “Martha” is 72. We live in the same senior apartment complex and have known each other for about nine months. I’ve helped her a lot, taking her to doctor’s appointments, walking her dog after eye surgery, etc.

Our daughter, son-in-law and grandchildren live in another part of the country, so we are only able to see them a few times a year. On our most recent visit, my wife asked my daughter where she kept some of the very nice, expensive wedding gifts that had been given to them by friends of ours.

Am I the only one who is annoyed by the lack of customer service in our country today? I am in my 70s, and I vividly remember the days when I would call a hotel to make a reservation. A live human being would answer the phone and handle my request.

My husband and I have been married for a long time, and he is a great guy. However, when it comes to my 80-year-old mom, it’s another story.

Dear Annie: I have a very dear friend who is like family. I am 20 years older than she is, and at times I feel more like a surrogate mother than a big sister.

Dear Annie: I just finished reading the letter from “Caged Bird,” and my heart broke for her.

Dear Readers: Before the start of 2022, I asked you all to send me your goals and resolutions for the new year. These are some of my favorite reader submissions:

Dear Annie: I spent my early childhood years with a loving foster family, and today, at age 75, I have a great relationship with my foster brother.

I had a high school boyfriend 47 years ago but left him. He came to my house the day before I was marrying someone else and begged me not to marry him, but I did.

I have been married for more than 24 years, and we have three wonderful daughters. My husband has always been a wonderful father and an OK husband.

I am the person who wrote to you a few years ago about sending a box of thank-you notes and Forever Stamps as gifts to nonresponders.

Dear Readers: Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day! In honor of this great man, I have attached some of the best excerpts from his famous "I Have a Dream" speech.

I am a published author and have been struggling to write my next book. I’ve written a handful of adult-oriented fictional books. My most recent published book came out almost five years ago.

Recently, a friend confronted me about something that I didn’t think was a big deal: Sometimes I forget to respond to texts for a while, and then I reply and say that I just saw the message.

When I was 10, I began asking for a phone. Every kid in my class had one, and I was being left out and bullied because I was the only kid without one. Now, three years later, I finally have a phone!

I used to write every day — mostly poems but also essays. ...

Dear Annie: My twin sister and brother-in-law visited me for the recent holiday. I love my sister, and we have always gotten along well.

Dear Annie: Politics took over as the main topic at our holiday dinner.

Dear Annie:Hope you can give us some sage advice!

Our son has been married to a lovely girl for over 20 years. She is a daughter-in-law everyone should have. She cares for us; she keeps a gracious home; she is a good mother. My problem is with her mother.

My wife and I have been friends with this couple for over 10 years. We met when our kids were in grade school. We would get together with this couple regularly over the years for dinner and drinks, while the kids would stay at home.

I cried when I was reading the letters from parents about not letting go of their children in college. My mother was so strict with me that I was not even allowed to go to college.

Dear Annie: When I was a 21-year-old assistant English instructor (an “intern”) at a summer program for high school seniors in New Hampshire, I developed an interest in one of the students. She was 18.

Dear Annie: My husband and I enjoy your column and often read it out loud to each other and discuss possible answers before reading your response.

Dear Readers: Happy New Year! May the following thoughts encourage, enlighten and inspire you as we begin anew in the chapter of 2022.

You get a lot of letters about people whose partners fell in love with someone else, causing a rift in their partnership. I find a lot of these partners lacked communication, so I thought I’d share my story of what can happen when you just talk.

I am in an interracial relationship and am a stepparent to a 7-year-old daughter. When COVID-19 came, my mother-in-law was without a job and in between places. We have only two bedrooms, one for us and one for my stepdaughter.

I’m a 45-year-old-male and have had many traumatic events in my past, including abuses too bad to name. My problem is, as I was growing up, I was so mistreated that I never learned how to feel.

Dear Readers: I hope you enjoy some quotes below from one of my favorite poets, Henry David Thoreau. May he inspire you to live your lives to the fullest, spend time with nature, seek truth and always choose kindness and love.

Dear Annie: I don't know how to begin, so I'll just start by saying that after my father passed away 20 years ago, my sisters abandoned me.

Dear Annie: I need some advice on how to approach my older sister about how both she and her husband conduct themselves at family gatherings.

Dear readers: On Thanksgiving Day, I asked you to submit responses about what you're grateful for this year. In the spirit of the season — love, gratitude, family and cheer — I want to share some of your lovely responses.

Dear Readers: Below is one of my favorite poems for Christmas. Please enjoy, and wishing all of you and your families a joyous, peaceful and bright holiday season.

My husband is 68, and I am 66. He has two boys, and I have one, all fully grown and out on their own with children and even grandchildren

Around five years ago, still reeling from hosting our 15th or so yearly sit-down Thanksgiving extravaganza (out-of-town guests, family, friends, random strays, you get the picture), always fun but always exhausting, I was asked what we were doing for Christmas.

Dear Annie: We need help in handling a family situation that arose during a Thanksgiving visit. My brother-in-law has no table manners.

Dear Annie: I recently lost my son, and Thanksgiving without him was very painful.

Dear Annie: After paying my dues with bad relationships, including a toxic marriage that took me way too long to leave, I have finally found real love with a man whom I’ve known since we were teenagers.

My wife is borderline addicted to “Words With Friends” (an app game similar to Scrabble), and it’s causing me concern, in addition to creating some strife within our marriage. It would be one thing if she were only playing with other female players, but she also has an ongoing game with a former male classmate.

I am a baby boomer and appreciate the 20th-century tradition of “rising to the occasion” and taking in meals if a family member is ill or if there has been a death in the family. It is a kind and thoughtful gesture.

I have an old and close friend I’ve known for 50 years. We live far apart, and the only way to talk is by telephone. Over the past several years, my friend has started to suddenly interrupt our calls when there is a click on the line signaling another call.

Last weekend, I got a text from my dad that said: “I’m going vegan LOL.” (Yes, he says “LOL.” He’s hip like that.) I laughed and brushed it aside...

Dear Annie: I am asking you to reprint your column with the letter from “Neil,” who lost his wife to cancer and was having a difficult time coping with his grief.

Dear Annie: My husband works with a guy,"Dave."

I have been married for almost 24 years and have known my husband since high school. Throughout our early 20s, we would break up every once in a while, but it would be a short period of time and then we would be back together.

I have been in a friend group that plays board games nearly every month for 25 years. We all know one another from working at a startup in Colorado nearly 30 years ago. We don’t work together anymore, but we still play games together frequently.

Dear Annie: I have a 47-year-old son who lives with me. He pays no rent, and he does not help with the bills. He does help with some of the yard work and housecleaning, but he ignores it if I ask him to help with something that I would like.

How do I convey to my adult married children that I do not like being around my ex for the holidays?

Dear Annie: My wife of 44 years passed away after a nine-day bout with cancer.

Dear Readers: Thank you for all your responses to "Letting Go Is Hard to Do."

Dear Annie: Both my adult daughter and her husband are employed. Since they do not cook, when my husband and I visit them, which is approximately four times a year, they send out for food and ask us to pay our share of the bill, or, on occasion, she will use my credit card to pay for the whole bill.

I am a single mother to my one daughter, who is now 29. She moved from our hometown because that’s where she met her husband, and she now has a son, my grandson, who is 1 1/2 years old.

This letter is addressed to all those who think back on a first love and believe their feelings are undiminished.

Please tell “Ready to Die” that she can get disability payments because she has a mental health disorder.

Dear Annie: I have read the “Ask Ann Landers” column and now the “Dear Annie” column since I was a little girl, and I am writing to you at age 66. I always wanted to write into the column but never did.

Dear Annie: I am a 76-year-old woman who is still not over her teenage friendship troubles.

My brother has been dating a woman for several years, and they recently became engaged. I do like her, but here is my issue: She is another nationality, and her family (in another country) does not like her dating a “white guy.” They refer to him as “white trash,” though he is well-educated and makes good money.

As I’m sure you all know, today is Thanksgiving, a holiday dedicated to celebrating the things we’re grateful for. To get in the spirit, I’d love to hear what you are grateful for this year. Send your responses to dearannie@creators.com.

I am an 80-year-old female, a widow. I live alone. I have a history of having arthritis, and I can’t take medications for arthritis due to having had stomach ulcers. I had a hip replacement in the spring, and I had hoped I would be able to walk without the use of a walker.

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for six years. We’re older, and it’s the third marriage for both of us.

Dear Annie: I was a little amused by the letter on tip jars.

My spouse and I have been married for over 40 years. Our children are married with children of their own. They seem happy and well-adjusted, and our whole family seems happy and healthy. I am very blessed and glad things are the way they are.

I have been technically single all my life. I did have a casual long-term relationship with a man that lasted for 12 years. We were never exclusive. We would have never worked exclusively, and we both knew that.

Many of you wrote about why the husband of “Neglected Spouse” has not had sex with her in years. ...

I am a 47-year-old woman and have been happily married for 24 years. I have a great relationship with our only daughter, who is 24 years old and thriving. My problem is with my mom.

Dear Annie: My fiance and I are well underway in planning our wedding with less than two months to go.

I’ve been in a relationship with “Jason” since April 2001. We got engaged in 2007. I lived apart from him with my three kids as they were still young and in school. I moved in with him in 2010.

I have been married for the past 15 years and have three children (one adult, two teenagers). I cheated on my husband 10 years ago and have apologized, and I thought we had worked through it.

I’ve been married to a man for 17 years. But not long after the marriage, he stopped being a husband.

Dear Annie: I am a 43-year-old woman who has had severe treatment for resistant bipolar depression, with psychotic features, my whole life.

Dear Annie: I have two very good friends who I go to breakfast with every Saturday.

I’m in my 70s, as is my boyfriend. For the most part, we get along. But lately, I’m starting to worry about him. He lost his fiancee about five years ago, and I lost my husband six years ago, so we both know grief.

In your response to “Loss and Regret,” concerning a teenager being sexually abused by an older female, you dismissed the legal aspect of this out of hand. The older woman should be brought up on sexual abuse charges against a minor.

Dear Annie: Nearly 50 years ago, while a high school student, I met an upperclassman who completely swept me off my feet. We clicked with each other almost immediately and loved being together as much as possible.

Dear Annie: As I was reading the letter from "Burnt Out," the woman whose husband was chronically ill at moments of pressure, I wanted to say that the advice you gave about how this could be a mind/body issue sounds spot on to me, based on my personal experience.

Dear Annie: I have an ex-boyfriend, and our relationship has been off and on for more than eight years.

Dear Annie: I am a 64-year-old man with a 54-year-old wife. We've been married for 21 years now.

I am 38 years old with three kids ages 18, 15 and 13. I just recently moved back home with my mom because I was in an abusive relationship. Well, my mom is treating me like a 15-year-old.

My slightly older brother and his spouse (in their mid-30s) are moving to Texas from California with their three toddler-aged children for no other reason than politics — politics to which no one else in the family subscribes.

I have three children: two sons from my marriage, both in their 20s, and my daughter, who is 14, from an ex-girlfriend. When my oldest son was thrown out of his mother’s home, I had him move in right away.

I read your column every day, and I read with great interest the letter from the wife whose husband had an affair 20 years earlier. She was bitter that none of her friends told her about it.

Dear Annie: I've been married for nearly 30 years. After our first year of marriage, my husband lost interest in sex with me and refused to discuss his reasons.

Dear Annie: I identified with the military family who was expected to go to their parents’ homes for the holidays.

Dear Readers: Thank you for your heartfelt and humbling responses to Second Wife, who is bothered that her second husband continues to carry a photo of his late wife in his billfold.

Dear Annie: Under what circumstances is it OK to cancel your plans with one friend in order to spend time with someone else?

I need help, but I’m so lost on what to do. Please help with some advice. I’m 52 years old and so broken. My mom passed away on Sept. 14, 2019, at home. I’ve had to live with my brother “Ed” ever since. Or, should I say, he has had to live with me.

My husband is 59 years old and thinks it is OK to ogle young girls younger than 18 — more like 15 to 16.

Dear Annie: I’ve been in a relationship for about three years. Both of us are estranged from our spouses. We stayed in marriages because of our children and are still married now for other reasons.

I was in a nine-month relationship up until about a month ago. Without going into a lot of detail, the guy I was seeing decided to ghost me without any warning. We had a great conversation on Thursday, and then on Friday morning, he blocked my calls, emails, etc.

I’ve been with my significant other for almost three years now. We live together and have a pretty good life. ...

I’m struggling with a situation I can no longer handle. My husband has a long history of periodically “falling ill” with mystery illnesses the doctors treat as minor everyday issues, but which inevitably result in his being unable to function.

I enjoy reading your column in the Indianapolis Star. Today, I read the column, “How Do I Tell My Kids Our Dog Died?” I believe you were right on target when you wrote that one should avoid saying that the pets just went to sleep.

Dear Annie: My husband used to check out other women in an obvious way, but no more.

Dear Annie: I am a single 70-year-old lady. I just found out I am going to have to wear a CPAP due to breathing issues when I sleep.

I have a child with a woman who is 20 years younger than me. Having a child was not planned. I’m grateful for our child, but I’m not in love with her mother. I’ve tried to explain to her that I love her for the mother she is but that I’m not in love with her.

My mother died at the age of 67 from COVID-19 in January. My stepfather wanted to wait a year to have the memorial so everyone could attend. Since my mother’s death, my stepfather has remarried. Yup, remarried. And now his new wife has moved into the house.

I’m currently in recovery. I have had two years of being clean and sober, after 13 long, miserable years of addiction.

Dear Annie: In the 12 years since my first child was born (and two more children followed), our military family has yet to actually celebrate Christmas in our own home because we are always traveling to our families’ homes, lest we hear from hurt grandparents bemoaning our absence.

Dear Annie: A dear neighbor has just lost her husband.

Dear Annie: I am a single mom of four wonderful boys, two of whom are teenagers.

Dear Annie: My wife and I have two boys, 10 and 12. For years, my wife has been either brushing their teeth herself -- long past when it was appropriate -- or hovering over them nightly to ensure they are doing it the "right" way.

My nephew, who was working in a foreign country, married a local woman. They visited my nephew’s father in the U.S. a few times. During one visit, I gave my nephew’s wife a brooch that belonged to my grandmother to welcome her to the family.

My 20-year-old daughter, “Jessica,” was adopted when she was 2 by her mom and her first husband, and I adopted her when she was 15. She decided to reach out to her birth mother in a very small town with very limited opportunities last February, and then she moved across the country to be with her in April.

Please tell me, how do I deal with my husband’s depression and phone addiction? It’s starting to hurt my self-esteem, leaving me feeling as if I’m incapable of making him happy.

Dear Mothers: Thank you so much for loving your children unconditionally. May your letters comfort any child who doesn’t feel completely loved and accepted by their parents for any reason.

Dear Annie: This is in response to "Let the Truth Out."

Dear Annie: I’ve been friends with “Keith” for 15 years. We talk almost daily, enjoy the same things and go on some road trips every year.

Dear Annie: I moved to a new neighborhood a few weeks ago. I really love the bustle and the energy; however, there is one drawback — the noise.

For close to 50 years, my friend “Chloe” and I have met for dinner once a week, and she always discusses her husband’s past affair, which occurred over 50 years ago and lasted a year.

I’ve been very happily married for several years to a man I love deeply. Suddenly, his son from a previous marriage, who lives in another state, wants Dad to move to his state to be close to him, as he and his wife are planning a family.

In a recent column, a reader stated his wife has a serious addiction to pain pills after years of being prescribed them, hasn’t worked in those years, spends most of her time in bed, breaks into pill safes and begs for more pills.

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for nearly three decades. Up until seven years ago, my husband, who is very sensitive, had a difficult time making friends.

Dear Annie: My daughter is a 57-year-old divorced mom of four.

Dear Annie: One of our two sweet dogs died recently. Do you have any suggestions for how to explain it to our two children, who are 3 and 7 years old?

Dear Annie: My mother passed away earlier this year. I'm sad to say that I did not like her.

Dear Readers: Being a good neighbor can be more complicated than it sounds, at least when it comes to finding financial help for the elderly who are seeking home care.

Dear Annie: I feel the need to provide a different view to the “Grieving Grandmothers” who wrote in saying that their daughters-in-law keep their grandkids and sons away from them.

Dear Annie: I am a woman in my mid-30s, and my wife is in her early 40s.

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 34 years. We have two grown children, both of whom still live with us.

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 10 years. We’ve had a lot of trials but always managed to hold onto each other and weather the storms.

My boyfriend and I have been talking about moving in together for a very long time. I became pregnant and had our baby, but he didn’t move in with me because he was upset that I was talking to other people about our problems.

Dear Annie:My wife “Monica” has been having a mostly texting affair with “Mike” for almost two years.

Dear Annie: My husband passed away in April after suffering for many years from chronic obstructive pulmonary disease.

Dear Annie: I am disabled and use a mobility device and oxygen due to emphysema, which was caused by my 30 years of cigarette smoking. I quit before my diagnosis, but it was too late.

Dear Annie: I am a 75-year-old woman in good health, and I've been married for 54 years. I have wonderful children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

Dear Annie: I would like your opinion on a recent incident that happened to me.

About two years ago, my wife of 20 years, “Cynthia,” and I divorced. Our two children are grown and out of the house. Our divorce wasn’t the norm; we did it without a lawyer or mediator. Everything was civil; no one cheated or was abused. I think we both just changed over time.

Our family is like most families -- dysfunctional. Our father worked two jobs most of his life to better himself for the good of his family. My mother was a spender, but my father controlled the money. When my father passed, my mother was finally free to live as she wanted.

Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together since we were just out of high school. We’ve been married for 18 years, and we have three glorious children. We have a great relationship, but I recently discovered she was extremely promiscuous in high school and found out she slept with many of our friends, some of whom are still in our social circle.

Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old boy, and my family hates me because I am gay.

After going to college out of state and graduating a few years ago, I moved home with my parents so I could save money while attending graduate school. Recently, my mom has started to get on my last nerve.

Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for six years now. Two years ago, I cheated on him, and he found out shortly after when he looked at my phone and saw that I was texting the other guy.

Dear Annie: I have been working at the same company for 12 years, and I haven’t gotten a raise in five years.

I cannot believe I am asking for advice. Here goes! My mom, with whom I was very close, passed away 21 months ago. Annie, my life has never been the same.

I am a 70-year-old retired man with no children. My wife died in 2016, and we had a very happy relationship together for more than 28 years.

My husband and I are trying to figure out how to emotionally support our adult daughter, who is 40 years old. She is going through a very emotional period in her life.

I have had many odd symptoms over the years that got worse, and it has taken much research to finally get help.

Dear Annie: My daughter and her father and I were always close. We talked daily, telling one another about our days. She has three children.

Dear Annie: I know this awesome guy. Let's call him "Luke." We're both teens, and we see each other because our little sisters are best friends and our dads get along well. I really like Luke -- a lot.

Dear Annie: After my mother died, my father married a woman he found online. She only visited us once in person before she moved in and they got married. She wasn’t always the nicest, and honestly, I was scared of her.

I am in my late 50s, the proud mother of two grown men who have families of their own. I’ve been successful in my career and always accomplished whatever I set my mind to. But I always had a secret. I have ADHD.

I love reading your column. I found out three years ago that my husband of 33 years was having an affair with his bookkeeper. We have a business together, but I stepped out of the business part years ago to become a nurse.

I’ve known this guy “Henry” for about six years now. We never got the timing right...

Dear Annie: I have been married for 11 years and have a wonderful 10-year-old son; however, my marriage is on very shaky ground.

A few years ago, my son’s wife decided to divorce him because she didn’t love him anymore. We accepted that and showed our support for her despite her decision.

Dear Annie: I have a neighbor who is 90 years old.

I am a 29-year-old woman, and I’ve been having an ongoing debate with my boyfriend of 10 years. I wear makeup because I am insecure about my skin and my face in general.

I made the decision to put down my phone for a while, and the results have been wonderful.

I want to know why people think it’s OK to harass and abuse other people. My ex brought his girlfriend home, and they spent the night in the garage. That was when we were still married.

I have a friend who spent many years in an emotionally abusive relationship that seems similar to what “Sad Grandma” described.

Dear Annie: My grandfather had severe Alzheimer's disease. Unfortunately, it lasted for a while.

My heart hurts so much. Last January, my nephew was diagnosed with leukemia.

My significant other and I were in a relationship for 15 years. One evening, I was feeling insecure and asked whether there was someone else. Very soon after that, my significant other completely cut off all contact with me.

Dear Annie: I am a 49-year-old father of twins, a boy and girl.

I’ve been working at the same car dealership for five years, since I graduated high school. When I started, it was just a job.

My 10-year-old's school administrators are over-the-top nosey and won't stay out of our business.

My wife and I are in a pickle. We are friends with another couple, “Josh” and “Vanessa.” Vanessa happens to be a teacher at our kids’ school. One day, I was picking up my offspring and started chatting with her. I could tell she was sad and asked her about it. That’s when the floodgates opened.

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about two years. He's actually my ex-husband from 25 years ago...

I am in my late 60s, and my boyfriend, “Mark,” is in his early 70s. We have been living together in my house for a year and a half. We’re both divorced and have adult children from our previous marriages. Mark communicates daily with all five children via phone calls and text messages. My problem is that he’s also regularly in contact with his ex-wife, who lives in the same town as us.

I am a single mother of two teenage girls. After a series of abusive relationships, I hadn’t dated for two years until recently. A few months ago, I met a man, and we’ve been seeing each other and sharing intimate moments. But the way he acts has me very confused.

My ex-husband was very controlling and always had to have the upper hand in conversations. Today, we do all of our communicating through email only, but he still needs to end all correspondence on his terms.

Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for four years. I have never been married before, and my wife, “Gertrude,” was divorced when we married.

My son is soon to be 23 years old. He was two courses short of earning his Bachelor of Science degree in computer science when something bad happened.

About a year ago, after talking to a nice guy who could also be a royal pain -- especially when things don’t go his way -- I decided to let him into my heart. I did this even though I am usually pretty well guarded and don’t allow too many people close to me.

I'm a happily married woman with two young children. My problem is that I'm very overweight.

Dear Annie: I’m a father of two amazing children and completely loyal husband of more than 20 years. But I have an ongoing issue with my parents-in-law, especially my father-in-law.

Dear Annie: My former boyfriend and I were in a serious, exclusive relationship for nearly six years. While we never lived together, we were intimately close and spent most nights together. He always told me how much he loved me and that I was the best.

Dear Annie: I recently dined out with three friends. The restaurant was very busy, and we waited for nearly two hours for our food. We were drinking and enjoying a band, so it wasn’t that bad.

I retired 11 years ago, but I could have been the obsessed woman addicted to her iPhone before I retired.

Dear Annie: I live in a small town. My mother died a couple of years ago, and around that same time, a friend of mine had just lost his home and was looking for someplace to live.

Dear Annie: I have been married to my wife for just over two years.

Dear Annie: I was in a very controlling and abusive relationship from the time I was 15 until three years ago, when my ex passed away. We were both in our late 30s at the time.

Dear Annie: This will be my first time writing to you. I have read your previous work, and you give sound advice, so I pray you can do the same for me.

Dear Annie: I believe the most valuable lesson my father instilled in me was to do one good deed every day.

Dear Annie: I am writing in response to your answer to "Just Want the Same Service," who was frustrated at the slow service she received in a restaurant.

Dear Annie: I’m in a situation where I’m not sure what to do.

Dear Annie: My husband of a year and I have yet to consummate our marriage.

Dear Annie: When kids graduate from high school, parents and grandparents obviously are very proud of their kids. Rightfully so.

Dear Annie: I come from a big family. I have seven brothers and two sisters, and I’m their third sister.

Dear Annie: When I was a child, I had many chilling things happen to me. I barely remember some incidents, and they don’t seem to affect me now — well, other than the mental illness running through my entire body.

Dear Annie:I will open with how much I love your advice column.

Dear Annie: My sister and I reunited about five years ago after not speaking for at least 10 years.

Dear Annie: I ended a relationship about a year ago when it turned abusive.

Dear Annie: I’m 20 years old and from New York. I’ve been in and out of my house since I was small because my mom and I would get into small arguments and she would just decide to send me to my dad’s house. This takes a toll on me because I feel like she doesn’t want me here.

Dear Annie: I recently attended a wedding where one woman and her spouse brought their six kids.

Lately, I have been feeling like I am not good enough. I have anxiety and depression, which I have had since I was young, to the point where I attempted suicide four times.

Dear Annie: The guy I’ve been seeing for five years has been seeing a married woman for 18 years. For context, we’re all seniors. He’s in his 80s; I’m in my 70s. The married woman is in her 60s.

Dear Annie: Your solicitation for a Father’s Day story made me contemplate my life. I have been very blessed. My biological father is still with us at 89. He was an example of volunteerism and strength. He was always involved at church and in Boy Scouts.

Dear Annie: My father instilled in me two thoughts that I hold onto every day. I have passed these on to my grandchildren.

Dear Annie: A year ago, my best friend, “Tia,” got her real estate license, and she has been working very hard to build her clientele. She has succeeded in selling two homes and being the buyer’s agent for three.

Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 10 years. We have three children who mean the world to me. I'm sure that, on the outside looking in, people think everything is great. However, my wife has developed a drinking problem.

Dear Readers: A few weeks ago, I asked you to share the most valuable trait that a dad (or dad figure) instilled in you.

Dear Annie: My former spouse, "Ted," was extremely abusive -- not physically but emotionally, psychologically and financially.

Lately, I find myself thinking a lot about old roommates, friends and co-workers. I’m talking about people from over 30 years ago, whom I haven’t spoken to in decades.

Dear Annie: My daughter is the co-owner of a salon in Florida.

Dear Annie: I just finished sending a baby gift to the daughter of a friend of mine. She had a registry, and I selected a gift and had it mailed to her with a congratulatory message.

Dear Annie: My "Laura" is the light of my life. It's been more than a year since we found each other, but my whole body still shakes with anticipation every time I see her.

I am a man in my late 50s. Until recently, I was in a long-distance relationship with a woman — let’s call her “Maria” — who lives about a thousand miles away from me.

I’ve been seeing this guy for almost a year now. The problem is that two of my sons aren’t happy about or accepting of our relationship.

I am the mother of four adult children. I have many happy memories of all their childhoods, celebrating birthdays, graduations and other milestones. I feel I have wonderful relationships with three of them (and their spouses). The fourth has been challenging, to say the least.

A great many of you wrote to say that I suggested that yoga and diet can cure depression. In no way, shape or form do I believe that.

I believe your answer to “Canine Cacophony” provided some practical advice about how to deal with noisy dogs next door.

Dear Annie: I have dated a guy for the last six years, always long-distance.

A few years ago, after many, many years of going to doctors and having tests done, I found out that I am disabled. The only problem is that I don’t LOOK disabled.

Dear Annie: My relationship with my parents has been strained since their divorce 20 years ago. I speak to my father rarely but communicate regularly with my mother.

Dear Annie: My husband and I met in high school and have been married for 23 years.

Dear Annie: I have a daughter who is sometimes very kind and sweet to me but other times feels like a cancer who destroys every cell in my heart.

I have a family situation that I am not sure how to handle.

Dear Annie: I work in health and wellness for the largest retailer in the world.

Dear Annie: I read your column in my local paper, and you seem to respond in an unbiased manner, so I am turning to you for advice.

Dear Annie: I have a problem I do not know what to do about.

I am a doctor and have a friend whom I see at medical conferences once or twice a year.

Last fall, my friend "Olive" and her boyfriend of five years, "John," broke up. Of course, I wasn't happy to see her going through the tough emotions ...

I am in a quandary about a situation.

I started dating my husband 11 years ago, married six years ago. Our biggest problem is his 29-year-old son.

I am 47 years old. I lost my husband of 23 years two years ago.

Over the course of the pandemic, my husband and I have found ourselves drinking more than we used to.

This is in response to the letter from “Outside the Bottle Looking In,” whose wife is an alcoholic.

I have great neighbors who have two daughters, ages 15 and 16.

I met my husband in junior high and chased him for many of our teen years and even into early adulthood.

I have been married to my husband for three years.

My father-in-law died unexpectedly a few years ago.

I have an adult son who is married and lives on the East Coast. I follow them on social media to keep up with their lives, as we are in the Midwest.

After years of being in an ice-cold marriage for many years, I have finally divorced.

I have been with my husband for more than 25 years, and I have allowed things to get out of hand.

Dear Annie: My 32-year-old daughter is not watching my 10-year-old grandson's diet and is allowing him to become overweight.

My husband had been looking for a new job for three years. He is incredibly smart, talented and hardworking. ...

I'm a 34-year-old man with a superb wife. We've been married eight years, and things are great between us. The problem is my mother-in-law. I'm sleeping with her.

Dear Annie: I’ve been with the same guy for three years. At first, he was incredibly thoughtful and sweet.

My husband and l have been married for 22 years.

Please help me convince my 72-year-old husband to stop engaging in conversations with telephone solicitors.

I have been married for more than 30 years, and we have one teenage daughter who will be attending college in the fall.

I'm so confused, and I don't know what to do. I have been married for four months, and I truly love my husband and believe that he loves me.

I have a daughter and a son, who are now 27 and 30, respectively.

I have been married to my husband for 15 years. During that time, I have had several retail and grocery store jobs.

Dear Annie: My second husband and I were together for 20 years.

A cousin of mine found out that we get all the different sports networks in our cable package, and ever since, he has invited himself over to watch games at our house all the time, on a weekly basis.

My daughter-in-law could probably have written the letter about the person trying too hard to please their disapproving mother-in-law.

This is about the 40-year-old alcoholic with two kids who is refusing rehab.

I think there’s a better way to end the evening after you and your guests have had dinner and dessert than your response to, “To Leave or Not to Leave.”

I am 70 years old and have just relocated to the U.S. from overseas, after an unexpected divorce.

Dear Annie: I’m thrilled to finally be planning trips with friends again, now that we’re all vaccinated and things are opening back up.

I have friends and family who have traveled for vacations during the COVID-19 pandemic.

I have never written anything like this before, but I’m beside myself with anger and sadness.

I’ve been married for 26 years

Dear Annie: Here's a poem I wrote called "In the time of COVID."

Dear Annie: I would like to comment on the letter you received about the daughter-in-law who is a people pleaser and wants her mother-in-law to like her.

Dear Annie: I notice many readers have problems and anxieties. Maybe something my mother taught me will help them.

Dear Annie: I have let myself get involved with a significantly younger guy.

I’m a mom and have been married for nearly six years.

A few months ago, someone wrote to you about how uncomfortable the bad manners of children of a relative made her feel at large family gatherings and dinners.

I’m married to a wonderful man, and we have four beautiful children.

Dear Annie: I have been married for 15 years. A little over a year ago, I started having an affair with an ex-girlfriend. The affair ended a month ago. It is over and done with.

What we do have an issue with is our supervisor helping himself to the coffee without ever offering to chip in for his share.

I am a stepmother to a beautiful woman whom I love very much. She has given us three beautiful granddaughters and a handsome grandson. Sadly, my husband has a very rare and very aggressive form of cancer and it looks terminal.

Dear Annie: I am 57 years old and autistic. Due to my inability to read people and my own bad choices, I am the single mother of three adult children, whom I love and am indescribably proud of. But I have never been loved.

My sister-in-law has been living with her parents for over a year, after her college graduation ceremony was canceled because of COVID-19.

Dear Annie: I raised my son, who is now 41, as a single mom. I am 75. My son and I have always been very close.

I wish you all an enjoyable Easter and Passover. Here’s to a spring season filled with new beginnings and lots of hope, happiness and joy.

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years. We have been together for almost 20 years and have three beautiful children.

I’ve been in a relationship with “Stuart” for almost three years now.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years.

Dear Annie: Just wanted to say thank you for including the letters from people who really love and appreciate their spouses. Life has been difficult lately for many of us, and reading positive words is uplifting.

Dear Annie: I have struggled almost all of my married life with never being accepted by my mother-in-law. I have tried everything, just shy of learning how to do backflips. No matter what I do, it is never right.

I am a 63-year-old mother of two, who are in their 20s.

Dear Annie: I'm in my mid-60s and have worked for the same hotel chain for almost five years now.

Dear Annie: When I was in my early 50s, I became very ill and eventually found out I had severe rheumatoid arthritis. During that time I was in and out of hospitals.

Dear Annie: I was raised, along with my two sisters, in a very strict religion that frowns upon cultivating personal relationships outside of the church.

I have been with my husband for 21 years, and we have been married for 15 years. I have been with my husband for 21 years, and we have been married for 15 years.

Dear Annie: I found out a month ago that my wife has been sleeping with a plethora of men that she's met on a dating app.

My son, "Tim," is engaged to "Jennifer," a woman whom he's been seeing for many years. They have two small children together. My problem is that Jennifer will not get a job.

My whole life, I’ve been a worrywart, and my worries always seem to make their way into my stomach.

I have been with my “boyfriend” on and off for three years. I put “boyfriend” in quotes because he says he doesn’t like labels. ...

Dear Readers: March 17 is a day to celebrate the patron saint of Ireland, St. Patrick.