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Dear Annie: I want to share a story with you and your readers about a resource that has helped our family tremendously. They are called memory care centers, which is an alternative to assisted living.
I must disagree with your advice to “Brokenhearted in Ohio.” These adult children should not have to be reminded to call or send a card to their grandmother on her birthday or any holiday.
There’s a pizza place my husband and I go to once in a while near our home that has a really nice wait staff — mostly younger girls — but there is one gal, “Veronica,” who’s older, and we hit it off really well. We were good friends, or so I thought.
I will admit that I am a controlling daughter-in-law. I suffered childhood abuse of many kinds ...
Dear Annie: We're in a bit of a crisis here. My daughter has gone through a messy divorce.
Dear Annie: I've been reading your column for a while and now have a situation of my own I'm hoping you can help me with.
I am a 44-year-old single male who has been struggling with the dating scene. I only started dating in the last 15 years. Though I have met a lot of great people during that time, it seems as if being a gentleman, opening doors, trying to build a relationship, and a little flirting have scared women away, especially in the last few years.
I am 75. Two years ago, my oldest son, age 53, died suddenly from a massive heart attack. He was single and worked hard to amass a very large estate, which he left to me.
I am writing in response to “Angry Neighbor,” published on Aug. 28. “Angry” is upset about a campaign sign in his neighbor’s yard.
Dear Annie: I thoroughly support the comments and book recommendation made by "Enjoying my Life," not just for extroverts who want to understand their introverted loved ones better, but for introverts as well.
Today is Sept. 11. A day that changed America forever. There were many brave men and women who lost their lives this day. Below are some quotes that help to remind us of the preciousness of life and honoring those with incredible courage.
Dear Annie: I've been married to a wonderful woman for almost 50 years.
I recently had my 50th birthday. My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven years, with a two-year break. His friend recently asked me if my boyfriend gave me a present from him.
I am at my wits’ end. I don’t know what to do for my 29-year-old grandson. He needs help, but I don’t know how to help him.
Dear Annie: My brother and I are in our early 50s, and our mom has dementia.
Dear Annie: My fiance's brother and his wife have been married for 10 years. They've been in a "thruple" now for about six months.
My in-laws have been married for more than 50 years. For most of that time, it has not been a marriage of love or respect. My father-in-law “John” has a history of being a womanizer and has treated my mother-in-law “Jane” with constant disrespect.
I love reading your advice, and boy, do I ever need some now! About 20 years ago, my mother-in-law became addicted to drugs, both prescription and illegal, as a way to deal with unresolved childhood trauma. As a result, her marriage to my father-in-law fell apart.
I was raised during an economic depression. I had a sister who was two years older than me and a sister who was six years younger. I was a 6-year-old when my baby sister was born, and my life changed.
My husband passed away a little over 18 months ago. He was part of a family business, and he became disabled while he worked there. Eventually, he was fired by his twin brother. I’m not really sure why, other than the fact that his financial abilities had declined so much.
Frequently, we read letters from your readers who are mystified about the fact that when they send a card or a package carefully wrapped and mailed, the recipient does not even think about the fact that love played a major role in this.
The problem is not with our son, but his wife. They dated in high school and college, and she was friendly and nice to us during those periods, visiting us quite often. They were married after living together for more than five years, and during that time we had good relations with them.
My wife and I are approaching 50 years of marriage. Recently, we went on a cruise with her childhood friend, “Cindy,” and her husband, “Rob.” They have been friends since elementary school and Cindy was the maid of honor at our wedding.
I’m feeling conflicted about my phone. Recently, I deleted all my social media apps — Instagram, TikTok, Twitter — because I was getting so frustrated about all the time I waste on them. I would just open and close them 100 times a day and waste hours endlessly scrolling.
Dear Annie: The "Mother Whose Heart Is Breaking" is absolutely right to be worried about her son.
I’ve been married to the love of my life for 15 years, but the last 10 years have been different from the first five. My wife has been suffering from depression due to some health reasons with her thyroid, but my problem is that she has stopped going to the doctor.
My daughter and her husband have two darling toddler girls who I adore. Their parents had no plans for child care when the first was born and just assumed I would step up. Now the girls are in day care because caring for them full time was too much for me
Back in the 1960s, my father inherited some land with houses on it from his uncle who raised him. For some reason, he let his sister, my aunt, and her family move into one of the houses rent-free.
My boyfriend and I don’t really keep track of our spending, but we try to make it pretty even by trading off who pays for different expenses — groceries, date nights, travel costs, etc. We both have good jobs, and we make about the same amount of money.
I have a wedding invitation etiquette question. My niece is getting married and has only invited five of her six cousins. The one cousin not invited happens to be one of my sons.
Dear Annie: I've been with my girlfriend for seven years and lived with her for four. She wants to get married and have kids.
My sister “Kendra” and I are not very close and only communicate two to three times per year, mainly in emails. Kendra sold her home and moved out of state. I never commented on how much she made or didn’t make on her old house; I felt that was absolutely none of my business.
I’ve been reading your column for a long time, and I admire how reasonable and nonjudgmental your advice seems to be. My husband and I were childhood sweethearts. We are currently separated, and I am concerned that this might lead to divorce.
My son’s wife was pregnant with their third child in November 2022. At that time, even though my wife is severely handicapped, I offered to come over and spend time with the “grandkids” while she gave birth.
Dear Annie: I'm a 45-year-old woman, and my boyfriend is 36.
I love your column and am writing to offer a different point of view for the woman whose family does not celebrate her birthday or Mother’s Day or Christmas the way she wants. She says she gives them presents, but they don’t reciprocate.
Dear Annie: My husband and I are a young couple.
I’ve been in a long-distance, exclusive, monogamous relationship for over a year now. I met him at work (we both work remotely), and he reached out and made his feelings clear. We had a work relationship to begin with, so we were always in touch, and feelings just grew.
Last weekend, my beloved sister died from Alzheimer’s after a very long, difficult and painful decline. I was her sole caretaker for the past three years because my other sisters live too far away to help. I was with my sister up until the moment she died.
My wife and I get along well for the most part, but not all the time. She is a control freak who insists on knowing where I am going and what I am doing every second.
My boyfriend and I used to live with my dad, until his girlfriend kicked us out because of her daughter.
Dear Annie: My friend recently asked me to cook her dinner because she was tired of working long hours and eating fast food.
Five years ago, I left my abusive husband because I couldn’t take it any longer. We have been legally married for 31 years but separated for five. I took him back last summer because he promised he was a different man and had learned his lesson.
My husband and I recently moved from out of state to be closer to family. My mother-in-law and her large extended family have regular gatherings. When we first moved, they were so open to us and invited us to holiday parties and gatherings.
I have a wonderful marriage with someone I met when we were teenagers. We have a beautiful family with two boys and some pets, and almost everything is good. However, my wife becomes obsessed with causes at times, and for the past year or so, she is so intensely invested in feral cats.
Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I are really in love, but we are opposites in so many things.
My good friend “Sara” has a son who is getting married at the beginning of August. I have been in constant communication with Sara, offering help and telling her that I would love to be at the wedding. I have known Sara since high school, and we are close.
At the beginning of the pandemic, my son moved in with his longtime girlfriend. Due to confinement, they became very dependent on each other. Now she wants to get engaged and married.
Dear Annie: I have a dear friend from high school who I’ve never lost touch with. We have the kind of friendship where it doesn’t matter if we haven’t talked for months; she is there to listen and stand up for me.
I’ve always been the one who puts everyone first. I always do my best to make sure that when it’s my kids’ or husband’s birthday, I decorate the living room and dining room for them. I spend months searching for that special gift, finding that thing that they didn’t know they wanted.
My husband and I met while he was going through a challenging divorce and instantly fell in love. Because we have a significant age difference, he wanted to get married and start having kids as soon as possible. His best friend “Robert” made it clear that he did not approve of our relationship or engagement.
My husband is passionate about doing what we can as individual citizens to combat climate change. He believes the largest impact any one person can have is decreasing their driving. So, to do his part, he has started using the public transit system as much as possible.
Dear Annie: We appreciate your care for community members in the Spokane, Washington, area and the time that you spend responding to questions from community members who contact you.
Last year, my best friend told me that she and my husband had slept together the year before, after her divorce from my husband’s brother. When I confronted my husband about this information, he wasn’t defensive or argumentative; he just denied that it happened.
I met a woman online a couple of months ago, though we have never met in person. We have talked about getting together, where I would go to her location, and taking things from there. I’m wondering if there are warning flags and what course of action to take.
Dear Annie: I'm a 60-year-old male about to reenter the dating world.
I wanted to ask this question to see what others think. My boyfriend hasn’t involved me in his family and we have been together for seven years. He has met my family and my kids but is very private about his own family.
For the past seven months, I’ve been having issues with my husband of 19 years. I found out seven months ago he’s been talking to an old female friend. He claims that she’s just a friend and that he’s interacting with her only via text and calls and that nothing is going on.
Dear Annie: I would like to reply to "An Aging Adult Facing Reality." I, too, have profound hearing loss and have been wearing hearing aids since the age of 10.
I’d like to offer an alternative perspective on your advice to “Trying To Heal,” who is finding it hard to forgive her abusive mother. I would argue quite strongly, and from experience, that forgiveness isn’t necessary to healing.
Growing up, my siblings and I were not particularly close with my father’s mother. My mom and dad had religious differences with Grandma, and she kept a distance from us. We were like the black sheep of the family!
Dear Annie: With an estimated 2.5 million couples planning on getting married this year, how can those of us who have successfully navigated marriage over the years help these couples succeed once the honeymoon phase begins to wane?
An acquaintance from my past (1983) contacted me in July 2019 after searching for and finding me on social media. We have been speaking on and off since then, but he now calls me every day (sometimes two times a day) and says he’s making travel plans to come see me.
I recently separated from my husband, and we are in the process of a divorce. The relationship was a bit toxic. But it was my choice to leave, and I left for my own mental health, as I struggle with anxiety and depression and self-esteem issues. I have reconnected with a man I dated a few years ago.
Dear Annie: I frequently hear older relatives complain that the younger generation does not want to host holiday gatherings and would rather travel to a beach vacation or ski vacation.
I am engaged. I have been for six years (I know, I know), but we actually plan to get married in a few months. I am in love with her, but I just don’t know if letting my feelings fall to the wayside is how I want to live the rest of my life.
There’s a lot that you and your family can do to alleviate anxiety during these stressful times, especially as we face the potential for an expanding war beyond Ukraine. There are new weapons in play now: cyberattacks, the use of economic sanctions and the expansion of warfare into space.
Dear Annie: I am in my 40s and recently single again after 15 years of marriage. I ended my marriage due to domestic violence.
My wife and I have been married for over 15 years. I have a high metabolism, while she is considered obese. But she wears it well. After having children via cesarean section, her stomach has no muscles left to hold it together. To me, she is beautiful, inside and out.
Several years ago, my sister’s husband passed away. She was married for over 60 years. They had three children. She made plans to have a memorial service on the weekend. He was to be cremated. My family and I made plans to attend.
Dear Annie: Something not spoken about regarding oppression, disadvantages and privilege is the privilege people have when they have family.
Dear Annie: I have a friend who is moving out of state in six weeks, and she has a family member who is giving her a hard time. The family member is giving her the, “What about me?” song and dance after my friend did everything in her power to make sure the family member is taken care of.
Today, Earth Day, is a time for reflection on and gratitude for our beautiful planet. If you are looking for some ways to show your appreciation with time or money, below is a list of organizations devoted to environmental sustainability.
My husband and I have been married for three years. Life together has been good since our relationship blossomed almost five years ago. But my in-laws have never supported our relationship because I’m not a member of the Latter-day Saints church.
I have a question about etiquette in our technological age. I recently discovered that lots of people have cameras inside their own homes, and I found out that one couple with whom we are friendly has several cameras in their home.
I received so many letters about the column “Tactful Reply” that I wanted to honor your feedback and print some of them below. Thank you all for sharing your wonderful words of wisdom and advice on how to handle these situations. I’m hoping that it helps others know they are not alone in their grief.
I'm writing to share my feelings about giving up and just being done.
My three siblings and I are in a terrible situation right now over our 88-year-old mother. When she first moved into her seniors residence almost a year ago, one of the papers that we were asked to fill out was a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) form.
My family is dealing with an aging mother. Since my father died, she has moved often. Every place she moves to eventually has some issue, and she starts complaining. Soon she is driving me crazy about whatever it is. Even after the problem is solved, she’ll find something else to focus on.
I am feeling so conflicted. My niece, “Melanie,” is getting married in June. Melanie is paying for her own wedding, with a little from her mom. Long story short, things are acrimonious between Melanie and her dad, and she’s decided not to invite him to the wedding.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a little over 14 months. We knew each other 30 years ago, as we attended the same church. We never said anything but hello to each other. Fourteen months ago, we connected on Facebook, and a fairytale romance began.
My husband constantly interrupts me. When I open a conversation with him, he immediately starts talking about his thoughts before I even have a chance to finish mine. When with a group of people, I will start to say something about an experience we may have had, and he immediately takes over the conversation.
My daughter goes to college full time and works full time, so she is very busy. When she was in high school, she knew at least four people who committed suicide.
When our sons married and left home, my husband and I decided to make sure our sons and their families would never have to choose who to visit on any holiday. So, we announced that we would always have our holiday get-togethers at our house a week before or after the actual holiday.
I’ve been seeing this guy since early December. He’s perfect in every way, except he seems to be attached to this one woman, “Suzy,” who he became good friends with due to unfortunate pasts connecting the two of them.
Dear Annie: I'm still bothered by memories that are over 20 years old.
I recently reconnected with a man I was engaged to as a young girl. We broke up because of a misunderstanding. Now, decades later, we have reunited.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 30 years. It is our second marriage for both of us.
I am a licensed professional counselor writing in response to “Cleaning the Chaos,” the woman who was sick of cleaning up after her boyfriend. The boyfriend, “Denny,” the apparent slob, has the classic signs of attention deficit disorder.
I lost a son in 2014, and now both of my surviving sons don’t want to have anything to do with me.
Dear Annie: I love your column and the advice you give. I never thought I'd be sending a letter to you.
Dear Annie: I have a friend who my partner and I had a good friendship with until she got back together with her boyfriend.
I have a friend who I met when we were classmates, and I hadn’t seen him in years. We finally got together, with me going to his residence, and we had a good time. Afterward, no call or text from him. When we do talk, it’s me making the call.
I’d like an impartial opinion on something that’s been bothering me for a few months now. My husband recently turned 50, and as I wanted to mark this milestone, I decided to throw a small surprise party.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 10 years.
This is in response to “Frustrated Peacemaker,” the woman whose husband was treating her mom with dementia in a condescending and critical manner.
I have always looked up to my older sisters. They are twins and six years older than me. We all had difficult childhoods ...
Dear Annie:I'm a recent widow with an in-law problem.
I read with great interest the letter written by “Nostalgic and Regretful,” who was wondering what could have been with her high school boyfriend 47 years ago. I have a similar story, along with similar guilt, but for different reasons.
You overwhelmed me with interesting replies to “Too Impersonal,” the letter saying that there is a lack of customer service today. Here is a sampling...
Dear Annie: I am a single and retired homeowner. The problem is that I have a spending addiction where I nickel-and-dime myself to death.
My wife and I have three grandsons, 11, 8 and 6. When the pandemic hit, we were able to help out by taking care of the three boys for about four months. Since the first visit, the boys’ parents divorced. Now my ex-son-in-law will not let the boys come for a visit.
For background, I played and lettered in a variety of sports during school and continued to play on adult soccer teams and flag football as an adult. I was only able to get my sons interested in sports because I agreed to coach their recreational soccer teams.
Dear Annie: I am 29 years old, and the guy I've been seeing is in his early 30s. The issue that I'm having is that he has no ambition.
Dear Annie: Two years ago, I lost my husband to terminal cancer after 30 years of marriage.
Please say something about the inadequacy of texting for true communication. My sister is addicted to texting and will no longer use email or the telephone to communicate. All warmth, tone of voice and laughter are lost.
My sister and I are in our sixties. We are less than a year apart in age but have never really been close emotionally. We had a rough childhood, in which it was all about survival. Once we were adults, we both moved away and only saw each other a few times a year.
My wife and I have been married for eight years, and we have four beautiful boys together. A little over a year ago, I caught her having an affair ...
Dear Annie: I'm writing out of concern over your response to "Very Sad Mother of a Very Sweet and Special Daughter," who told you about the abuse that her daughter is experiencing at the hands of her son-in-law.
Dear Annie: My neighbor and I have been friends for the last year and a half.
I’m 70, and my friend “Martha” is 72. We live in the same senior apartment complex and have known each other for about nine months. I’ve helped her a lot, taking her to doctor’s appointments, walking her dog after eye surgery, etc.
Our daughter, son-in-law and grandchildren live in another part of the country, so we are only able to see them a few times a year. On our most recent visit, my wife asked my daughter where she kept some of the very nice, expensive wedding gifts that had been given to them by friends of ours.
Am I the only one who is annoyed by the lack of customer service in our country today? I am in my 70s, and I vividly remember the days when I would call a hotel to make a reservation. A live human being would answer the phone and handle my request.
Dear Annie: My relationship with my in-laws is a bit strange.
Dear Annie: Without trying to sound arrogant, I am smarter than the average bear.
Dear Annie:Hope you can give us some sage advice!
Dear Annie: When I was a 21-year-old assistant English instructor (an “intern”) at a summer program for high school seniors in New Hampshire, I developed an interest in one of the students. She was 18.
Dear Annie: My husband and I enjoy your column and often read it out loud to each other and discuss possible answers before reading your response.
Dear Annie: I am a 62-year-old Nana of two beautiful girls, ages 6 months and 3 years. My son and his wife live 2 1/2 hours away, so I visit them every six weeks or so.
You get a lot of letters about people whose partners fell in love with someone else, causing a rift in their partnership. I find a lot of these partners lacked communication, so I thought I’d share my story of what can happen when you just talk.
I am in an interracial relationship and am a stepparent to a 7-year-old daughter. When COVID-19 came, my mother-in-law was without a job and in between places. We have only two bedrooms, one for us and one for my stepdaughter.
I’m a 45-year-old-male and have had many traumatic events in my past, including abuses too bad to name. My problem is, as I was growing up, I was so mistreated that I never learned how to feel.
Dear readers: On Thanksgiving Day, I asked you to submit responses about what you're grateful for this year. In the spirit of the season — love, gratitude, family and cheer — I want to share some of your lovely responses.
My husband is 68, and I am 66. He has two boys, and I have one, all fully grown and out on their own with children and even grandchildren
Around five years ago, still reeling from hosting our 15th or so yearly sit-down Thanksgiving extravaganza (out-of-town guests, family, friends, random strays, you get the picture), always fun but always exhausting, I was asked what we were doing for Christmas.
Dear Annie: After paying my dues with bad relationships, including a toxic marriage that took me way too long to leave, I have finally found real love with a man whom I’ve known since we were teenagers.
Dear Annie: My middle-aged confirmed bachelor brother-in-law is a frequent and welcome dinner guest at our house.
My wife is borderline addicted to “Words With Friends” (an app game similar to Scrabble), and it’s causing me concern, in addition to creating some strife within our marriage. It would be one thing if she were only playing with other female players, but she also has an ongoing game with a former male classmate.
I have an old and close friend I’ve known for 50 years. We live far apart, and the only way to talk is by telephone. Over the past several years, my friend has started to suddenly interrupt our calls when there is a click on the line signaling another call.
Dear Annie: I have a loving daughter, and I respect her husband greatly.
Dear Annie: My husband works with a guy,"Dave."
I have been in a friend group that plays board games nearly every month for 25 years. We all know one another from working at a startup in Colorado nearly 30 years ago. We don’t work together anymore, but we still play games together frequently.
Dear Annie: I have a 47-year-old son who lives with me. He pays no rent, and he does not help with the bills. He does help with some of the yard work and housecleaning, but he ignores it if I ask him to help with something that I would like.
Dear Annie: My husband of 19 years had an office gathering at our home in mid-August.
Dear Readers: Thank you for all your responses to "Letting Go Is Hard to Do."
Dear Annie: Both my adult daughter and her husband are employed. Since they do not cook, when my husband and I visit them, which is approximately four times a year, they send out for food and ask us to pay our share of the bill, or, on occasion, she will use my credit card to pay for the whole bill.
Dear Annie: I knew my husband had a Twitter account, and I thought he only followed groups.
My brother has been dating a woman for several years, and they recently became engaged. I do like her, but here is my issue: She is another nationality, and her family (in another country) does not like her dating a “white guy.” They refer to him as “white trash,” though he is well-educated and makes good money.
As I’m sure you all know, today is Thanksgiving, a holiday dedicated to celebrating the things we’re grateful for. To get in the spirit, I’d love to hear what you are grateful for this year. Send your responses to firstname.lastname@example.org.
I am an 80-year-old female, a widow. I live alone. I have a history of having arthritis, and I can’t take medications for arthritis due to having had stomach ulcers. I had a hip replacement in the spring, and I had hoped I would be able to walk without the use of a walker.
Dear Annie: My husband is a chronic procrastinator. He puts off everything.
Dear Annie: I need help. I've let my niece move in with me, my husband and my 17-year-old daughter after her husband committed suicide.
My spouse and I have been married for over 40 years. Our children are married with children of their own. They seem happy and well-adjusted, and our whole family seems happy and healthy. I am very blessed and glad things are the way they are.
I have been technically single all my life. I did have a casual long-term relationship with a man that lasted for 12 years. We were never exclusive. We would have never worked exclusively, and we both knew that.
Many of you wrote about why the husband of “Neglected Spouse” has not had sex with her in years. ...
Dear Annie: My uncle has a reputation for being extremely cheap, but he did something recently that has left me fuming.
Dear Annie: Forty-two years ago, my then-boyfriend and I decided to move in together in the house he was building.
Dear Annie: Staying close to family is not easy, but it is really important.
Dear Annie: I've dated this woman for over five months.
I’m in my 70s, as is my boyfriend. For the most part, we get along. But lately, I’m starting to worry about him. He lost his fiancee about five years ago, and I lost my husband six years ago, so we both know grief.
Five months ago, I started dating a 58-year-old man. We met online and exchanged phone numbers. Our conversations were great, so we met for a date and started a relationship.
In your response to “Loss and Regret,” concerning a teenager being sexually abused by an older female, you dismissed the legal aspect of this out of hand. The older woman should be brought up on sexual abuse charges against a minor.
Dear Annie: Nearly 50 years ago, while a high school student, I met an upperclassman who completely swept me off my feet. We clicked with each other almost immediately and loved being together as much as possible.
Dear Annie: As I was reading the letter from "Burnt Out," the woman whose husband was chronically ill at moments of pressure, I wanted to say that the advice you gave about how this could be a mind/body issue sounds spot on to me, based on my personal experience.
My slightly older brother and his spouse (in their mid-30s) are moving to Texas from California with their three toddler-aged children for no other reason than politics — politics to which no one else in the family subscribes.
I have three children: two sons from my marriage, both in their 20s, and my daughter, who is 14, from an ex-girlfriend. When my oldest son was thrown out of his mother’s home, I had him move in right away.
I need help, but I’m so lost on what to do. Please help with some advice. I’m 52 years old and so broken. My mom passed away on Sept. 14, 2019, at home. I’ve had to live with my brother “Ed” ever since. Or, should I say, he has had to live with me.
Dear Annie: I am a 72-year-old woman who used to live with my daughter and her family. I moved out last January.
Dear Annie: I’m here to offer the European perspective on tipping.
Dear Annie: How much is appropriate to share in the workplace when it comes to personal matters?
I was in a nine-month relationship up until about a month ago. Without going into a lot of detail, the guy I was seeing decided to ghost me without any warning. We had a great conversation on Thursday, and then on Friday morning, he blocked my calls, emails, etc.
I’m struggling with a situation I can no longer handle. My husband has a long history of periodically “falling ill” with mystery illnesses the doctors treat as minor everyday issues, but which inevitably result in his being unable to function.
I enjoy reading your column in the Indianapolis Star. Today, I read the column, “How Do I Tell My Kids Our Dog Died?” I believe you were right on target when you wrote that one should avoid saying that the pets just went to sleep.
Dear Annie: I am a 52-year-old man who came to this country when I was 15.
I have a child with a woman who is 20 years younger than me. Having a child was not planned. I’m grateful for our child, but I’m not in love with her mother. I’ve tried to explain to her that I love her for the mother she is but that I’m not in love with her.
My mother died at the age of 67 from COVID-19 in January. My stepfather wanted to wait a year to have the memorial so everyone could attend. Since my mother’s death, my stepfather has remarried. Yup, remarried. And now his new wife has moved into the house.
I’m currently in recovery. I have had two years of being clean and sober, after 13 long, miserable years of addiction.
Dear Annie: In the 12 years since my first child was born (and two more children followed), our military family has yet to actually celebrate Christmas in our own home because we are always traveling to our families’ homes, lest we hear from hurt grandparents bemoaning our absence.
Dear Annie: I am a single mom of four wonderful boys, two of whom are teenagers.
Dear Annie: My wife and I have two boys, 10 and 12. For years, my wife has been either brushing their teeth herself -- long past when it was appropriate -- or hovering over them nightly to ensure they are doing it the "right" way.
My nephew, who was working in a foreign country, married a local woman. They visited my nephew’s father in the U.S. a few times. During one visit, I gave my nephew’s wife a brooch that belonged to my grandmother to welcome her to the family.
My 20-year-old daughter, “Jessica,” was adopted when she was 2 by her mom and her first husband, and I adopted her when she was 15. She decided to reach out to her birth mother in a very small town with very limited opportunities last February, and then she moved across the country to be with her in April.
I’ve been very happily married for several years to a man I love deeply. Suddenly, his son from a previous marriage, who lives in another state, wants Dad to move to his state to be close to him, as he and his wife are planning a family.
In a recent column, a reader stated his wife has a serious addiction to pain pills after years of being prescribed them, hasn’t worked in those years, spends most of her time in bed, breaks into pill safes and begs for more pills.
My boyfriend and I have been talking about moving in together for a very long time. I became pregnant and had our baby, but he didn’t move in with me because he was upset that I was talking to other people about our problems.
About two years ago, my wife of 20 years, “Cynthia,” and I divorced. Our two children are grown and out of the house. Our divorce wasn’t the norm; we did it without a lawyer or mediator. Everything was civil; no one cheated or was abused. I think we both just changed over time.
Our family is like most families -- dysfunctional. Our father worked two jobs most of his life to better himself for the good of his family. My mother was a spender, but my father controlled the money. When my father passed, my mother was finally free to live as she wanted.
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together since we were just out of high school. We’ve been married for 18 years, and we have three glorious children. We have a great relationship, but I recently discovered she was extremely promiscuous in high school and found out she slept with many of our friends, some of whom are still in our social circle.
Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old boy, and my family hates me because I am gay.
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for six years now. Two years ago, I cheated on him, and he found out shortly after when he looked at my phone and saw that I was texting the other guy.
I cannot believe I am asking for advice. Here goes! My mom, with whom I was very close, passed away 21 months ago. Annie, my life has never been the same.
Dear Annie: After my mother died, my father married a woman he found online. She only visited us once in person before she moved in and they got married. She wasn’t always the nicest, and honestly, I was scared of her.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for five years. We have a beautiful daughter, and we've got a son on the way.
Dear Annie: My heart and prayers go out to the "Grieving Grandmother" who is tired of the apathy shown by her daughters-in-law.
My wife and I are in a pickle. We are friends with another couple, “Josh” and “Vanessa.” Vanessa happens to be a teacher at our kids’ school. One day, I was picking up my offspring and started chatting with her. I could tell she was sad and asked her about it. That’s when the floodgates opened.
I am in my late 60s, and my boyfriend, “Mark,” is in his early 70s. We have been living together in my house for a year and a half. We’re both divorced and have adult children from our previous marriages. Mark communicates daily with all five children via phone calls and text messages. My problem is that he’s also regularly in contact with his ex-wife, who lives in the same town as us.
I am a single mother of two teenage girls. After a series of abusive relationships, I hadn’t dated for two years until recently. A few months ago, I met a man, and we’ve been seeing each other and sharing intimate moments. But the way he acts has me very confused.
About a year ago, after talking to a nice guy who could also be a royal pain -- especially when things don’t go his way -- I decided to let him into my heart. I did this even though I am usually pretty well guarded and don’t allow too many people close to me.
Dear Annie: My former boyfriend and I were in a serious, exclusive relationship for nearly six years. While we never lived together, we were intimately close and spent most nights together. He always told me how much he loved me and that I was the best.
Dear Annie: There is tension between some of my relatives and me, and I would appreciate your advice.
Dear Annie: We recently moved from our home of 20 years to a neighboring state that is two hours away by car. Our children are 21 and 19. We had set our sights on moving to this community several years ago, but we waited until our son had graduated from high school.
Dear Annie: I am writing in response to your answer to "Just Want the Same Service," who was frustrated at the slow service she received in a restaurant.
Dear Annie: My husband of a year and I have yet to consummate our marriage.
Dear Annie: In several columns, you’ve mentioned Match.com as a good place for singles to meet other singles. Well, my mother-in-law lost her entire savings, more than $70,000, to a scammer on one of the most popular dating sites.
Dear Annie: My longtime best friend of 15 years and I entered into a romantic relationship in March of last year. It was a nightmare from almost the very beginning.
Dear Annie: My sister and I reunited about five years ago after not speaking for at least 10 years.
Dear Annie: I have been seeing a woman for about eight years now. She is married, and I am not.
Dear Annie: I’m 20 years old and from New York. I’ve been in and out of my house since I was small because my mom and I would get into small arguments and she would just decide to send me to my dad’s house. This takes a toll on me because I feel like she doesn’t want me here.
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 35 years.
Dear Annie: Your solicitation for a Father’s Day story made me contemplate my life. I have been very blessed. My biological father is still with us at 89. He was an example of volunteerism and strength. He was always involved at church and in Boy Scouts.
Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 10 years. We have three children who mean the world to me. I'm sure that, on the outside looking in, people think everything is great. However, my wife has developed a drinking problem.
Lately, I find myself thinking a lot about old roommates, friends and co-workers. I’m talking about people from over 30 years ago, whom I haven’t spoken to in decades.
Dear Annie:My older brother and I have been dealing with a touchy situation for years. We are both adopted; our parents divorced when we were very young, and they both remarried.
I am the mother of four adult children. I have many happy memories of all their childhoods, celebrating birthdays, graduations and other milestones. I feel I have wonderful relationships with three of them (and their spouses). The fourth has been challenging, to say the least.
My husband and I got married right before the pandemic.
I met a man about four years ago. We started dating a week after we met, upon his insistence.
Dear Annie: My relationship with my parents has been strained since their divorce 20 years ago. I speak to my father rarely but communicate regularly with my mother.
My family relocated the year I was entering ninth grade, and on the third day at my new school, as I was walking home, a girl I’ll call Ann ran up to my side, introduced herself and insisted on carrying my books to my home, some three blocks away.
I have great neighbors who have two daughters, ages 15 and 16.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have never had an easy marriage, and I am considering leaving him.
A cousin of mine found out that we get all the different sports networks in our cable package, and ever since, he has invited himself over to watch games at our house all the time, on a weekly basis.
I just wanted to thank you for encouraging the 63-year-old mom who is trying to complete her vocational nursing degree.
Dear Annie: I’m thrilled to finally be planning trips with friends again, now that we’re all vaccinated and things are opening back up.
I’ve been married for 26 years
I’m married to a wonderful man, and we have four beautiful children.
My sister-in-law has been living with her parents for over a year, after her college graduation ceremony was canceled because of COVID-19.
We occasionally will have friends over for dinner, and there have been times when they simply won’t leave.
Dear Annie: Just wanted to say thank you for including the letters from people who really love and appreciate their spouses. Life has been difficult lately for many of us, and reading positive words is uplifting.
On International Women’s Day, March 8, I answered a reader who has three boys and wants to add a girl to their family.
I have a friend, “Raphie,” with a wife, “Diana,” who has abused him physically and verbally over the years and is very controlling.
Dear Annie: I was raised, along with my two sisters, in a very strict religion that frowns upon cultivating personal relationships outside of the church.
I have been with my husband for 21 years, and we have been married for 15 years. I have been with my husband for 21 years, and we have been married for 15 years.
I am a 41-year-old single man who has pretty much given up on intimate relationships.