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Dear Annie: I want to share a story with you and your readers about a resource that has helped our family tremendously. They are called memory care centers, which is an alternative to assisted living.

By Annie Lane September 25, 2022
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I must disagree with your advice to “Brokenhearted in Ohio.” These adult children should not have to be reminded to call or send a card to their grandmother on her birthday or any holiday.

By Annie Lane September 24, 2022
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Dear Annie: Over the years, my tolerance for garlic has gotten so bad that I have cut it out of my diet entirely.

By Annie Lane September 23, 2022
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There’s a pizza place my husband and I go to once in a while near our home that has a really nice wait staff — mostly younger girls — but there is one gal, “Veronica,” who’s older, and we hit it off really well. We were good friends, or so I thought.

By Annie Lane September 22, 2022
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Today marks the first day of a new season and one of my favorites: fall. As we say so long to summer and swap our swimsuits for sweaters, we look ahead to new and exciting memories to come...

By Annie Lane September 21, 2022
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I will be 80 in October 2022. I do not have a problem with aging. It’s better than the alternative. I read this years ago and still think they are great words to live by...

By Annie Lane September 20, 2022
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I will admit that I am a controlling daughter-in-law. I suffered childhood abuse of many kinds ...

By Annie Lane September 19, 2022
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Dear Annie: We're in a bit of a crisis here. My daughter has gone through a messy divorce.

By Annie Lane September 18, 2022
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My grandson was the victim of hazing incidents in the locker room at his private school. It went on for more than a month. Someone made videos of parts of it, and the entire school saw the videos.

By Argus Hamilton September 17, 2022
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Dear Annie: I've been reading your column for a while and now have a situation of my own I'm hoping you can help me with.

September 16, 2022
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I am a 44-year-old single male who has been struggling with the dating scene. I only started dating in the last 15 years. Though I have met a lot of great people during that time, it seems as if being a gentleman, opening doors, trying to build a relationship, and a little flirting have scared women away, especially in the last few years.

By Annie Lane September 15, 2022
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I am 75. Two years ago, my oldest son, age 53, died suddenly from a massive heart attack. He was single and worked hard to amass a very large estate, which he left to me.

By Annie Lane September 14, 2022
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I am writing in response to “Angry Neighbor,” published on Aug. 28. “Angry” is upset about a campaign sign in his neighbor’s yard.

By Annie Lane September 13, 2022
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In the three years we have been married, never once had she ever discussed or hinted at getting any type of plastic surgery. ...

By Annie Lane September 12, 2022
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Dear Annie: I thoroughly support the comments and book recommendation made by "Enjoying my Life," not just for extroverts who want to understand their introverted loved ones better, but for introverts as well.

September 11, 2022
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Today is Sept. 11. A day that changed America forever. There were many brave men and women who lost their lives this day. Below are some quotes that help to remind us of the preciousness of life and honoring those with incredible courage.

By Annie Lane September 10, 2022
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Dear Annie: I've been married to a wonderful woman for almost 50 years.

By Annie Lane September 9, 2022
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I recently had my 50th birthday. My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven years, with a two-year break. His friend recently asked me if my boyfriend gave me a present from him.

By Annie Lane September 8, 2022
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I am at my wits’ end. I don’t know what to do for my 29-year-old grandson. He needs help, but I don’t know how to help him.

By Annie Lane September 7, 2022
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I am a 68-year-old Grammy, and I love to do things with my grandchildren. Unfortunately, as we age, our immunity lowers, and we can become sick more easily.

By Annie Lane September 6, 2022
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I had a seven-year relationship with a man who I thought was the love of my life. I had been married twice ...

By Annie Lane September 5, 2022
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Dear Annie: My brother and I are in our early 50s, and our mom has dementia.

By Annie Lane September 4, 2022
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I’m writing this concerning my family. I have five sons and one daughter who are all grown and have children. My third son, “Jake,” has two adult daughters and an adult son.

By Annie Lane September 3, 2022
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Dear Annie: My fiance's brother and his wife have been married for 10 years. They've been in a "thruple" now for about six months.

By Annie Lane September 2, 2022
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Our son “Kyle” got a divorce after eight years of marriage. (He later told us it was because his ex-wife had an abortion.) Since then, he has had a few girlfriends, but none of them wanted or could have a baby.

By Annie Lane September 1, 2022
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My in-laws have been married for more than 50 years. For most of that time, it has not been a marriage of love or respect. My father-in-law “John” has a history of being a womanizer and has treated my mother-in-law “Jane” with constant disrespect.

By Annie Lane August 31, 2022
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I have been with my girlfriend for three years. She and her physically disabled son have lived with me for almost two years. I’ve been very unhappy in this relationship for a while now.

By Annie Lane August 30, 2022
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I love reading your advice, and boy, do I ever need some now! About 20 years ago, my mother-in-law became addicted to drugs, both prescription and illegal, as a way to deal with unresolved childhood trauma. As a result, her marriage to my father-in-law fell apart.

By Annie Lane August 29, 2022
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I was raised during an economic depression. I had a sister who was two years older than me and a sister who was six years younger. I was a 6-year-old when my baby sister was born, and my life changed.

By Annie Lane August 28, 2022
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My husband passed away a little over 18 months ago. He was part of a family business, and he became disabled while he worked there. Eventually, he was fired by his twin brother. I’m not really sure why, other than the fact that his financial abilities had declined so much.

By Annie Lane August 27, 2022
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Frequently, we read letters from your readers who are mystified about the fact that when they send a card or a package carefully wrapped and mailed, the recipient does not even think about the fact that love played a major role in this.

August 26, 2022
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I am part of a cooking club that meets the second Tuesday of each month. Each member buys food and we cook a recipe chosen by the host. There are 15 members.

By Annie Lane August 25, 2022
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The problem is not with our son, but his wife. They dated in high school and college, and she was friendly and nice to us during those periods, visiting us quite often. They were married after living together for more than five years, and during that time we had good relations with them.

By Annie Lane August 24, 2022
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I live out in the country and have found a consistently wonderful kennel for my dog. The people who work there are the owner and two helpers; all are kind, efficient and obviously dog lovers.

By Annie Lane August 23, 2022
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There was a very attractive 70-plus woman with whom I noticed my husband flirting...

By Annie Lane August 22, 2022
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Annie Lane is off this week. The following column was originally published in 2019.

By Annie Lane August 21, 2022
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My wife and I are approaching 50 years of marriage. Recently, we went on a cruise with her childhood friend, “Cindy,” and her husband, “Rob.” They have been friends since elementary school and Cindy was the maid of honor at our wedding.

August 20, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have been going on a Super Bowl cruise for 14 years with the same group of people, including two couples and two ladies, one of whom is married and the other is single.

By Annie Lane August 19, 2022
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I’m feeling conflicted about my phone. Recently, I deleted all my social media apps — Instagram, TikTok, Twitter — because I was getting so frustrated about all the time I waste on them. I would just open and close them 100 times a day and waste hours endlessly scrolling.

By Annie Lane August 18, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am 40 years old, and I have been eating a plant-based diet since high school.

By Annie Lane August 17, 2022
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I enjoy your daily column in our local paper. Reading the letter from “Still Grieving” brought back memories of the passing of my husband of 44 years.

By Annie Lane August 16, 2022
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Dear Annie: Several dear friends have had to put down beloved pets, and I was wondering if you could print the beautiful poem about the Rainbow Bridge? It helped me so much when I lost my beautiful Lucky!

By Annie Lane August 15, 2022
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Dear Annie: The "Mother Whose Heart Is Breaking" is absolutely right to be worried about her son.

By Annie Lane August 14, 2022
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I’ve been married to the love of my life for 15 years, but the last 10 years have been different from the first five. My wife has been suffering from depression due to some health reasons with her thyroid, but my problem is that she has stopped going to the doctor.

By Annie Lane August 13, 2022
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Dear Annie: I feel like I made a mistake and need someone outside my circle to assess the situation.

By Annie Lane August 12, 2022
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My daughter and her husband have two darling toddler girls who I adore. Their parents had no plans for child care when the first was born and just assumed I would step up. Now the girls are in day care because caring for them full time was too much for me

By Annie Lane August 11, 2022
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Nearly 20 years ago, after a tumultuous breakup, I met and married my current wife. I cared for her, but I did not love her as one should love another when entering into marriage.

By Annie Lane August 10, 2022
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I am a widow who lives alone. I have three children, a son and two daughters. They are grown, married and have their own children. I am seeking your opinion and advice.

By Annie Lane August 9, 2022
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Perhaps you can help me understand the biggest mystery of my life. I was an unwanted, unloved child ...

By Annie Lane August 8, 2022
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Dear Annie: I thought I would share some fantastic advice my husband and I received from a marriage counselor a few years ago during a very difficult patch in our 28-year relationship.

By Annie Lane August 7, 2022
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In the waiting room of a clinic, I had to endure a long one-sided conversation by a woman on her cellphone. I can understand getting a call and quietly telling the caller that they will call them back, but people don't seem to do that.

By Annie Lane August 6, 2022
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Dear Annie: I recently read your column in which you gave advice on how to deal with a toxic relationship between a mother and adult daughter.

By Annie Lane August 5, 2022
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Back in the 1960s, my father inherited some land with houses on it from his uncle who raised him. For some reason, he let his sister, my aunt, and her family move into one of the houses rent-free.

August 4, 2022
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My boyfriend and I don’t really keep track of our spending, but we try to make it pretty even by trading off who pays for different expenses — groceries, date nights, travel costs, etc. We both have good jobs, and we make about the same amount of money.

By Annie Lane August 3, 2022
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I am 67 years old and not getting along well with my oldest daughter, who is 48.

By Annie Lane August 2, 2022
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After reading the letter about the wife who is out capturing feral cats for spaying and neutering, you should be aware of the Herman Bennett Foundation, which provides free vouchers to vets to cover the costs.

By Annie Lane August 1, 2022
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Dear Annie: I wanted to offer a little encouragement to "Opposites" about his relationship.

By Annie Lane July 31, 2022
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I have a wedding invitation etiquette question. My niece is getting married and has only invited five of her six cousins. The one cousin not invited happens to be one of my sons.

By Annie Lane July 30, 2022
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Dear Annie: I've been with my girlfriend for seven years and lived with her for four. She wants to get married and have kids.

July 29, 2022
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My sister “Kendra” and I are not very close and only communicate two to three times per year, mainly in emails. Kendra sold her home and moved out of state. I never commented on how much she made or didn’t make on her old house; I felt that was absolutely none of my business.

By Annie Lane July 27, 2022
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I’ve been reading your column for a long time, and I admire how reasonable and nonjudgmental your advice seems to be. My husband and I were childhood sweethearts. We are currently separated, and I am concerned that this might lead to divorce.

By Annie Lane July 26, 2022
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My son’s wife was pregnant with their third child in November 2022. At that time, even though my wife is severely handicapped, I offered to come over and spend time with the “grandkids” while she gave birth.

July 25, 2022
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Dear Annie: I'm a 45-year-old woman, and my boyfriend is 36.

By Annie Lane July 24, 2022
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I love your column and am writing to offer a different point of view for the woman whose family does not celebrate her birthday or Mother’s Day or Christmas the way she wants. She says she gives them presents, but they don’t reciprocate.

By Annie Lane July 23, 2022
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Dear Annie: My husband and I are a young couple.

By Annie Lane July 22, 2022
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I’ve been in a long-distance, exclusive, monogamous relationship for over a year now. I met him at work (we both work remotely), and he reached out and made his feelings clear. We had a work relationship to begin with, so we were always in touch, and feelings just grew.

By Annie Lane July 21, 2022
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Last weekend, my beloved sister died from Alzheimer’s after a very long, difficult and painful decline. I was her sole caretaker for the past three years because my other sisters live too far away to help. I was with my sister up until the moment she died.

July 20, 2022
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My wife and I get along well for the most part, but not all the time. She is a control freak who insists on knowing where I am going and what I am doing every second.

By Annie Lane July 19, 2022
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My husband and I have been married for almost 16 years. Two months ago, I found out that he has been having affairs pretty much the whole time.

By Annie Lane July 18, 2022
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My boyfriend and I used to live with my dad, until his girlfriend kicked us out because of her daughter.

By Annie Lane July 17, 2022
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Dear Annie: My friend recently asked me to cook her dinner because she was tired of working long hours and eating fast food.

July 16, 2022
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I've been engaged for eight months. I'm so happy about the fact that I've finally found someone ...

By Annie Lane July 15, 2022
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Five years ago, I left my abusive husband because I couldn’t take it any longer. We have been legally married for 31 years but separated for five. I took him back last summer because he promised he was a different man and had learned his lesson.

By Annie Lane July 14, 2022
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My husband and I recently moved from out of state to be closer to family. My mother-in-law and her large extended family have regular gatherings. When we first moved, they were so open to us and invited us to holiday parties and gatherings.

By Annie Lane July 13, 2022
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I have a wonderful marriage with someone I met when we were teenagers. We have a beautiful family with two boys and some pets, and almost everything is good. However, my wife becomes obsessed with causes at times, and for the past year or so, she is so intensely invested in feral cats.

By Annie Lane July 12, 2022
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After general conversation, this woman reached over and stroked my fiance’s face without uttering a word. ...

By Annie Lane July 11, 2022
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Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I are really in love, but we are opposites in so many things.

By Annie Lane July 10, 2022
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Dear Annie: I recently got married to the greatest guy I’ve ever met, yet I know for a fact that he has cheated on me more than once. I have actually gotten phone calls from the other woman describing his body and my home.

By Annie Lane July 9, 2022
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Dear Annie: A few months ago, I discovered several naked photos of a woman that were in a laptop that had been given to me by my fiance of two years. We live together.

By Annie Lane July 8, 2022
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My good friend “Sara” has a son who is getting married at the beginning of August. I have been in constant communication with Sara, offering help and telling her that I would love to be at the wedding. I have known Sara since high school, and we are close.

By Annie Lane July 7, 2022
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At the beginning of the pandemic, my son moved in with his longtime girlfriend. Due to confinement, they became very dependent on each other. Now she wants to get engaged and married.

By Annie Lane July 6, 2022
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I just read your Father’s Day column, and I am here to say you are SO right! My husband (a well-beloved teacher) passed away in 2016, and shortly after that, he visited me in a dream.

By Annie Lane July 5, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have a dear friend from high school who I’ve never lost touch with. We have the kind of friendship where it doesn’t matter if we haven’t talked for months; she is there to listen and stand up for me.

By Annie Lane July 4, 2022
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Dear readers: I want to wish everyone a very happy Fourth of July.

By Annie Lane July 3, 2022
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I had always held my sister in high regard, and I loved her. She was my big sis, and I felt she loved and cared for me. But things have happened to cause me to change my mind.

By Annie Lane July 2, 2022
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Dear Annie: My wife, "Jill," and I have been married for seven years, together for nine.

By Annie Lane July 1, 2022
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I’ve always been the one who puts everyone first. I always do my best to make sure that when it’s my kids’ or husband’s birthday, I decorate the living room and dining room for them. I spend months searching for that special gift, finding that thing that they didn’t know they wanted.

By Annie Lane June 30, 2022
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My mother-in-law can’t keep a secret to save her life. Neither can my husband, for that matter. She lives for gossip, and my husband joins his parents daily for “happy hour.”

By Annie Lane June 29, 2022
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I have been with my current boyfriend for over three years. My problem is that his father, sister and brother are so against our relationship that we have to hide it.

By Annie Lane June 28, 2022
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“Alex” is my ex-husband and the father of our two sons, ages 21 and 18. Alex and I married when we were young.

By Annie Lane June 27, 2022
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Dear Annie: My husband, "John," and I are dancers, and we give dance lessons.

By Annie Lane June 26, 2022
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I’m 60 years of age. I’ve been trapped my entire life taking care of people — caregiving and people-pleasing. I’m always making sure everyone is OK when I’m all emotionally screwed up.

By Annie Lane June 25, 2022
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Dear Annie: I love my wife of 40 years, but we've had our problems over the course of our marriage.

By Annie Lane June 24, 2022
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My husband and I met while he was going through a challenging divorce and instantly fell in love. Because we have a significant age difference, he wanted to get married and start having kids as soon as possible. His best friend “Robert” made it clear that he did not approve of our relationship or engagement.

By Annie Lane June 23, 2022
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My husband is passionate about doing what we can as individual citizens to combat climate change. He believes the largest impact any one person can have is decreasing their driving. So, to do his part, he has started using the public transit system as much as possible.

By Annie Lane June 22, 2022
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My husband and I got into a pretty bad argument earlier this year, and in a drunken state, he told me to “f--- off.” I was sober and shocked.

By Annie Lane June 21, 2022
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Dear Annie: We appreciate your care for community members in the Spokane, Washington, area and the time that you spend responding to questions from community members who contact you.

By Annie Lane June 20, 2022
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Dear Annie: When my wife was pregnant with our first child, I was worried that once the baby came, I would have tremendous difficulty sacrificing my time for him.

By Annie Lane June 19, 2022
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Dear Readers: Happy Father’s Day. Below is a beautiful letter written for Father’s Day. While there is sadness, there is a wonderful message namely that love is always the answer.

By Annie Lane June 18, 2022
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Dear Annie: I've been seeing this man for eight years.

By Annie Lane June 17, 2022
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My husband has four grown children — one from his first marriage and the other three with his late wife. Talk about drama! Who talks to who? Who can’t stand who? Who gets annoyed when one of them comes to visit us?

By Annie Lane June 16, 2022
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My wife and I married four and a half years ago, the second marriage for both of us. I have had dogs virtually all of my life. My wife was aware of this.

By Annie Lane June 15, 2022
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My husband’s brother and family are somewhat estranged from our family due to one family being “anti-vax” and the other “pro-vax.” Even before COVID-19, we had become more distant because of our opposite political views.

By Annie Lane June 14, 2022
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He told me, in a bragging fashion, that he and this wife had nude couples pool parties at his home. ... I thought the worst: They were swingers.

By Annie Lane June 13, 2022
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Dear Annie: My 19-year-old son has been floating through life since he graduated from high school.

By Annie Lane June 12, 2022
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Dear Annie: So many things have happened to me and my family in the last 10 years that I have often felt the same way as “Holding On,” the woman who is contemplating suicide.

By Annie Lane June 11, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have been with my fiance for the last five years.

By Annie Lane June 10, 2022
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I am a high school sophomore, and my close friend of more than 10 years is suffering from an eating disorder. At lunch, it can be challenging for her to eat, but she takes it out on other people by criticizing and making fun of their food.

By Annie Lane June 9, 2022
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I have been married to my husband for 40 years. Over the years, we have had our ups and downs. About seven years ago, I found an email from one of his co-workers indicating a romantic relationship.

By Annie Lane June 8, 2022
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Please help, as I am out of ideas about what to suggest. I have a small group of friends whom I feel lucky to have known since secondary school.

By Annie Lane June 7, 2022
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I am writing as a parent and as a grandfather. My son and his wife and their 12-year-old son visit almost every Sunday ...

By Annie Lane June 6, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship for almost nine years now.

By Annie Lane June 5, 2022
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Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 66 years.

By Annie Lane June 4, 2022
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Dear Annie: A few months ago, my wife of four years went out for drinks with her girlfriends and did not return home till the next day.

By Annie Lane June 3, 2022
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Last year, my best friend told me that she and my husband had slept together the year before, after her divorce from my husband’s brother. When I confronted my husband about this information, he wasn’t defensive or argumentative; he just denied that it happened.

By Annie Lane June 2, 2022
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My husband, “Jay,” has suffered from depression for years. He is an intellectual and feels he should have a higher position in his particular line of work. He has not been successful in achieving this, which has depressed him.

By Annie Lane June 1, 2022
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I met a woman online a couple of months ago, though we have never met in person. We have talked about getting together, where I would go to her location, and taking things from there. I’m wondering if there are warning flags and what course of action to take.

By Annie Lane May 31, 2022
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I recently moved in with my sister, who is two years older than me. We got into a fight recently because, while she is an extroverted...

By Annie Lane May 30, 2022
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Dear Annie: I'm a 60-year-old male about to reenter the dating world.

May 29, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am having a real hard time right now. My husband — of only five years — and I married quite quickly after we met.

By Annie Lane May 28, 2022
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Dear Annie: Several years ago, at a party of 50-some people, my daughter brought up politics and confronted me about my political pick.

By Annie Lane May 27, 2022
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I wanted to ask this question to see what others think. My boyfriend hasn’t involved me in his family and we have been together for seven years. He has met my family and my kids but is very private about his own family.

By Annie Lane May 26, 2022
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I am a woman in her late 30s and have been working at my current career for the past five years. It is a very demanding, high-paced, glamorous environment -- think entertainment/fashion industry.

By Annie Lane May 25, 2022
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For the past seven months, I’ve been having issues with my husband of 19 years. I found out seven months ago he’s been talking to an old female friend. He claims that she’s just a friend and that he’s interacting with her only via text and calls and that nothing is going on.

By Annie Lane May 24, 2022
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I’m a 45-year-old loser. I’ve never been married, have no kids and have never been in a relationship.

By Annie Lane May 23, 2022
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Dear Annie: I would like to reply to "An Aging Adult Facing Reality." I, too, have profound hearing loss and have been wearing hearing aids since the age of 10.

May 22, 2022
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When I married my husband, it was me and my 17-year-old daughter.

By Annie Lane May 21, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have been with my boyfriend "Scott" for almost 11 years. We have been together since high school.

By Annie Lane May 20, 2022
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I’d like to offer an alternative perspective on your advice to “Trying To Heal,” who is finding it hard to forgive her abusive mother. I would argue quite strongly, and from experience, that forgiveness isn’t necessary to healing.

By Annie Lane May 19, 2022
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I recently got married to the father of my youngest child, and so far, nothing is going as planned.

By Annie Lane May 18, 2022
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Growing up, my siblings and I were not particularly close with my father’s mother. My mom and dad had religious differences with Grandma, and she kept a distance from us. We were like the black sheep of the family!

By Annie Lane May 17, 2022
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I recently learned that my spouse had a brief affair with someone else early in our relationship.

By Annie Lane May 16, 2022
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Dear Annie: With an estimated 2.5 million couples planning on getting married this year, how can those of us who have successfully navigated marriage over the years help these couples succeed once the honeymoon phase begins to wane?

By Annie Lane May 15, 2022
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Dear Annie: My husband has a small family, and his mom is single. My husband and I have two children in elementary school.

By Annie Lane May 14, 2022
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Dear Annie: They say it's normal not to forget your first love. Is reaching out to them crossing a line?

By Annie Lane May 13, 2022
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An acquaintance from my past (1983) contacted me in July 2019 after searching for and finding me on social media. We have been speaking on and off since then, but he now calls me every day (sometimes two times a day) and says he’s making travel plans to come see me.

By Annie Lane May 12, 2022
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I recently separated from my husband, and we are in the process of a divorce. The relationship was a bit toxic. But it was my choice to leave, and I left for my own mental health, as I struggle with anxiety and depression and self-esteem issues. I have reconnected with a man I dated a few years ago.

By Annie Lane May 11, 2022
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Is it wrong or unethical to tell a friend that a mutual friend has COVID-19 without securing that individual’s permission to discuss their medical status?

By Annie Lane May 10, 2022
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But where do I go from here? I don’t know if the attraction is mutual or not...

By Annie Lane May 9, 2022
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Dear Annie: I frequently hear older relatives complain that the younger generation does not want to host holiday gatherings and would rather travel to a beach vacation or ski vacation.

May 8, 2022
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Happy Mother’s Day! Below are some beautiful quotes and tributes written about mothers.

By Annie Lane May 7, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for 11 years, together for 16.

By Annie Lane May 6, 2022
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I’m a 24-year-old man, and I recently moved in with my girlfriend of three years. Since moving in, it seems that the passion she used to have for me is gone physically, though she insists it’s due to hormone issues with her medications.

By Annie Lane May 5, 2022
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I am engaged. I have been for six years (I know, I know), but we actually plan to get married in a few months. I am in love with her, but I just don’t know if letting my feelings fall to the wayside is how I want to live the rest of my life.

By Annie Lane May 4, 2022
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Dear Annie: I’ve been an admin for many years at many different offices, and the admin’s office/desk is usually equivalent to a home’s kitchen — the gathering spot.

By Annie Lane May 3, 2022
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There’s a lot that you and your family can do to alleviate anxiety during these stressful times, especially as we face the potential for an expanding war beyond Ukraine. There are new weapons in play now: cyberattacks, the use of economic sanctions and the expansion of warfare into space.

May 2, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am in my 40s and recently single again after 15 years of marriage. I ended my marriage due to domestic violence.

By Annie Lane May 1, 2022
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My wife and I have been married for over 15 years. I have a high metabolism, while she is considered obese. But she wears it well. After having children via cesarean section, her stomach has no muscles left to hold it together. To me, she is beautiful, inside and out.

By Annie Lane April 30, 2022
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Dear Annie: My husband took away all sex and everything that went with it 22 years ago. I hate my wasted life.

By Annie Lane April 29, 2022
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Several years ago, my sister’s husband passed away. She was married for over 60 years. They had three children. She made plans to have a memorial service on the weekend. He was to be cremated. My family and I made plans to attend.

By Annie Lane April 28, 2022
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I have an old flame who has been happily married for many years and lives across the country. I would never cross the line, as I have been on that end, and I wish that pain on no one. How do I get my heart to stop wanting him?

By Annie Lane April 27, 2022
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Thank you for the wise advice that you give to your readers. I have often taken your advice and applied it to my situation in life. But this is a new issue for me.

By Annie Lane April 26, 2022
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I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years, and we have one child together. We love each other, but we are not married. I keep asking, “Why is he taking so long to propose marriage?”

By Annie Lane April 25, 2022
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Dear Annie: Something not spoken about regarding oppression, disadvantages and privilege is the privilege people have when they have family.

April 24, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have a friend who is moving out of state in six weeks, and she has a family member who is giving her a hard time. The family member is giving her the, “What about me?” song and dance after my friend did everything in her power to make sure the family member is taken care of.

By Annie Lane April 23, 2022
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Dear Annie: I've been involved with the father of my child for 10 years.

By Annie Lane April 22, 2022
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Today, Earth Day, is a time for reflection on and gratitude for our beautiful planet. If you are looking for some ways to show your appreciation with time or money, below is a list of organizations devoted to environmental sustainability.

By Annie Lane April 21, 2022
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My husband and I have been married for three years. Life together has been good since our relationship blossomed almost five years ago. But my in-laws have never supported our relationship because I’m not a member of the Latter-day Saints church.

By Annie Lane April 20, 2022
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I have a question about etiquette in our technological age. I recently discovered that lots of people have cameras inside their own homes, and I found out that one couple with whom we are friendly has several cameras in their home.

By Annie Lane April 19, 2022
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I received so many letters about the column “Tactful Reply” that I wanted to honor your feedback and print some of them below. Thank you all for sharing your wonderful words of wisdom and advice on how to handle these situations. I’m hoping that it helps others know they are not alone in their grief.

By Annie Lane April 18, 2022
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I have read your column for a long time now, and I always find that you give good advice and wisdom. I've been married for seven years and just recently became separated ...

By Annie Lane April 17, 2022
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Wishing you and your families a very happy Easter and Passover week. Spring is a time to get outdoors and play. It is a time for new beginnings and fresh starts. It is a time when the flowers begin to bloom and kittens are born.

By Annie Lane April 16, 2022
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I'm writing to share my feelings about giving up and just being done.

By Annie Lane April 15, 2022
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I grew up in an extremely abusive household with a functioning (mean, abusive) alcoholic for a mother. Because of the poor examples I had as a child, I ended up becoming a functioning addict in an abusive relationship of my own.

By Annie Lane April 14, 2022
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My son is 53 years old — a good person but an alcoholic. He followed me to Florida 10 years ago. I sent thousands of dollars to get him on his feet.

By Annie Lane April 13, 2022
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I have a dog who loves people. Whenever my sister-in-law, “Helen,” visits, she does not touch him at all. She has a dog herself and seems to like dogs. This makes my wife feel bad, but Helen doesn’t seem to care.

By Annie Lane April 12, 2022
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I am a divorced man in his mid-60s and involved with a woman of the same age. We both have good jobs and enjoy each other’s company.

By Annie Lane April 11, 2022
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Below are some uplifting letters about how to find peace and joy even in the midst of uncertainty.

By Annie Lane April 10, 2022
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I’m a middle-aged single mom of two great kids. I recently entered into my first serious relationship since my divorce five years ago, and I love him dearly, but there is a huge problem.

By Annie Lane April 9, 2022
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Mother's Day and Father's Day always present a dilemma for my family, and I was hoping you and your readers could offer some advice.

By Annie Lane April 8, 2022
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My three siblings and I are in a terrible situation right now over our 88-year-old mother. When she first moved into her seniors residence almost a year ago, one of the papers that we were asked to fill out was a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) form.

By Annie Lane April 7, 2022
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My husband has a friend, “Ralph,” who is half his age and was recently married. Ralph’s wife, “Katherine,” is always texting my husband, and not me, to make plans to go out to eat. She also likes to sit beside my husband.

By Annie Lane April 6, 2022
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My family is dealing with an aging mother. Since my father died, she has moved often. Every place she moves to eventually has some issue, and she starts complaining. Soon she is driving me crazy about whatever it is. Even after the problem is solved, she’ll find something else to focus on.

By Annie Lane April 5, 2022
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I am feeling so conflicted. My niece, “Melanie,” is getting married in June. Melanie is paying for her own wedding, with a little from her mom. Long story short, things are acrimonious between Melanie and her dad, and she’s decided not to invite him to the wedding.

By Annie Lane April 4, 2022
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Dear Annie: My oldest sister has five grown children. Four live out of town, and one lives with his mother.

By Annie Lane April 3, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am trying to decide if I should print out the following letter and give it to my wife. What do you think?

By Annie Lane April 2, 2022
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Dear Annie: I recently ended a long-term friendship. I feel it was the right choice to make, and I don't regret the decision.

By Annie Lane April 1, 2022
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I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a little over 14 months. We knew each other 30 years ago, as we attended the same church. We never said anything but hello to each other. Fourteen months ago, we connected on Facebook, and a fairytale romance began.

By Annie Lane March 31, 2022
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My husband constantly interrupts me. When I open a conversation with him, he immediately starts talking about his thoughts before I even have a chance to finish mine. When with a group of people, I will start to say something about an experience we may have had, and he immediately takes over the conversation.

By Annie Lane March 30, 2022
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A great number of you wrote in and responded to “Feeling Powerless” with some wonderful suggestions to help. Below are a few. Thank you very much for your positive input.

By Annie Lane March 29, 2022
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My husband and I met 20 years ago and had a passionate, whirlwind courtship. Two years after we were married, intimacy gradually became less and less frequent.

By Annie Lane March 28, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am writing to you because I am desperate to find the answer to my problem, which is similar to other letters I have seen in your column.

By Annie Lane March 27, 2022
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My daughter goes to college full time and works full time, so she is very busy. When she was in high school, she knew at least four people who committed suicide.

By Annie Lane March 26, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am a happily married middle-age woman.

By Annie Lane March 25, 2022
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When our sons married and left home, my husband and I decided to make sure our sons and their families would never have to choose who to visit on any holiday. So, we announced that we would always have our holiday get-togethers at our house a week before or after the actual holiday.

By Annie Lane March 24, 2022
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I’ve been seeing this guy since early December. He’s perfect in every way, except he seems to be attached to this one woman, “Suzy,” who he became good friends with due to unfortunate pasts connecting the two of them.

By Annie Lane March 23, 2022
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This letter is in reference to the aunt and uncle who provided generous gifts to their six nephews, only to be forgotten when it came time for those same nephews to thank them.

By Annie Lane March 22, 2022
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I have been dating my boyfriend for almost eight years. We were high school sweethearts, and we are each other’s first everything, so we’ve only been with each other.

By Annie Lane March 21, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have two sons. My older one was always a source of difficulty growing up.

By Annie Lane March 20, 2022
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Dear Annie: Some years ago, I went to a nearby office supply shop, where I saw a local couple looking around. The woman, a local musician, had Alzheimer’s, but she seemed to recognize me, so we began a conversation.

By Annie Lane March 19, 2022
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Dear Annie: I'm still bothered by memories that are over 20 years old.

By Annie Lane March 18, 2022
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I recently reconnected with a man I was engaged to as a young girl. We broke up because of a misunderstanding. Now, decades later, we have reunited.

By Annie Lane March 17, 2022
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In light of St. Patrick’s Day, I want to share this story from “Same Boat,” who wrote a response recently to share the story of how he reconnected with his fiancee from 28 years ago.

By Annie Lane March 16, 2022
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In light of St Patrick’s Day tomorrow, I wanted to share some famous fun quotes and blessings.

By Annie Lane March 15, 2022
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Dear Annie: I’ve read a lot of your columns, and it always seems your advice is helpful. I’ve been stuck in a major rut for the last two or three years.

By Annie Lane March 14, 2022
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Dear Annie: My husband and I are doctors (academician and orthopedic surgeon).

By Annie Lane March 13, 2022
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Dear Annie: You have a lot of common sense, and I am writing to you because I am looking for an outside opinion about my sudden pessimism about current events.

By Annie Lane March 12, 2022
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Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 30 years. It is our second marriage for both of us.

By Annie Lane March 11, 2022
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I am a licensed professional counselor writing in response to “Cleaning the Chaos,” the woman who was sick of cleaning up after her boyfriend. The boyfriend, “Denny,” the apparent slob, has the classic signs of attention deficit disorder.

By Annie Lane March 10, 2022
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My soon-to-be ex-wife and I were married for almost five years. When we decided to have kids, we also agreed that she would quit her job and become a full-time stay-at-home mom. I would support her and the kids 100%.

By Annie Lane March 9, 2022
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I lost a son in 2014, and now both of my surviving sons don’t want to have anything to do with me.

By Annie Lane March 8, 2022
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I am writing in response to the letter from “Concerned Care-Daughter,” who said she was approaching caregiver burnout. It sounds to me like she is very empathic, and her older sister may have some narcissist traits.

By Annie Lane March 7, 2022
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Dear Annie: I love your column and the advice you give. I never thought I'd be sending a letter to you.

March 6, 2022
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About 18 months ago, my daughter, now 29, told my wife and me that she planned to get married in October of this year.

By Annie Lane March 4, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have a friend who my partner and I had a good friendship with until she got back together with her boyfriend.

By Annie Lane March 4, 2022
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I have a friend who I met when we were classmates, and I hadn’t seen him in years. We finally got together, with me going to his residence, and we had a good time. Afterward, no call or text from him. When we do talk, it’s me making the call.

By Annie Lane March 3, 2022
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I’d like an impartial opinion on something that’s been bothering me for a few months now. My husband recently turned 50, and as I wanted to mark this milestone, I decided to throw a small surprise party.

By Annie Lane March 2, 2022
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This is in response to “Frustrated Peacemaker,” the woman whose husband constantly corrects her 80-year-old mom, who has dementia.

By Annie Lane March 1, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am a middle-aged widow. A few years ago, I reconnected with a longtime family friend.

By Annie Lane February 28, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have some thoughts to share with "Avoiding Ex," the man dodging his allegedly drama-creating ex, and any other divorced parents with grown children.

By Annie Lane February 27, 2022
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Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 10 years.

By Annie Lane February 26, 2022
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Dear Annie: My boss is simply a taker, and I'm tired of it.

By Annie Lane February 25, 2022
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My husband and I will be married two years in December. Prior to getting married, we had a “good” sex life. We discussed having a child of our own (I have three from a previous marriage), and he doesn’t have any.

By Annie Lane February 24, 2022
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Like so many of your readers, I never thought I’d be writing to you for help. But here I am.

By Annie Lane February 23, 2022
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This is in response to “Frustrated Peacemaker,” the woman whose husband was treating her mom with dementia in a condescending and critical manner.

By Annie Lane February 22, 2022
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I have always looked up to my older sisters. They are twins and six years older than me. We all had difficult childhoods ...

By Annie Lane February 21, 2022
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Dear Annie: I was raised in a Southern family that insisted on teaching good manners.

By Annie Lane February 20, 2022
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Dear Annie: About a year ago, I started talking to a guy who I had met online, and for the most part, things have gone OK.

By Annie Lane February 19, 2022
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Dear Annie:I'm a recent widow with an in-law problem.

February 18, 2022
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I read with great interest the letter written by “Nostalgic and Regretful,” who was wondering what could have been with her high school boyfriend 47 years ago. I have a similar story, along with similar guilt, but for different reasons.

By Annie Lane February 17, 2022
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I’m a mother of three children who mean everything in the world to me. I gave them everything I could and loved them with all my heart. The pandemic was the start of lots of hard things.

By Annie Lane February 16, 2022
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You overwhelmed me with interesting replies to “Too Impersonal,” the letter saying that there is a lack of customer service today. Here is a sampling...

By Annie Lane February 15, 2022
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So many letters to you and other columnists have to do with children, grandchildren, nieces and nephews who don’t bother to thank the gift giver.

By Annie Lane February 14, 2022
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Dear Readers: Wishing you all a Happy Valentine's Day! May this year be filled with love, forgiveness and joy. Below are a few of some beautiful poems on the subject of love -- both romantic love and the love of nature.

By Annie Lane February 13, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship with a man for 10 years, and we have been engaged for four years.

By Annie Lane February 12, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am a single and retired homeowner. The problem is that I have a spending addiction where I nickel-and-dime myself to death.

By Annie Lane February 11, 2022
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My wife and I have three grandsons, 11, 8 and 6. When the pandemic hit, we were able to help out by taking care of the three boys for about four months. Since the first visit, the boys’ parents divorced. Now my ex-son-in-law will not let the boys come for a visit.

By Annie Lane February 10, 2022
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My boyfriend, “Denny,” and I have been together for two years, living together for the last year. He is a slob and oblivious to the mess he makes.

By Annie Lane February 9, 2022
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For background, I played and lettered in a variety of sports during school and continued to play on adult soccer teams and flag football as an adult. I was only able to get my sons interested in sports because I agreed to coach their recreational soccer teams.

By Annie Lane February 8, 2022
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I have experience as a financial coach, and some of the people I help are researching college scholarship opportunities for their children who are in middle school and high school. ...

By Annie Lane February 7, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am 29 years old, and the guy I've been seeing is in his early 30s. The issue that I'm having is that he has no ambition.

February 6, 2022
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Dear Annie: My son has not spoken to me for eight years.

By Annie Lane February 5, 2022
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Dear Annie: Two years ago, I lost my husband to terminal cancer after 30 years of marriage.

By Annie Lane February 4, 2022
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Please say something about the inadequacy of texting for true communication. My sister is addicted to texting and will no longer use email or the telephone to communicate. All warmth, tone of voice and laughter are lost.

By Annie Lane February 3, 2022
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My sister and I are in our sixties. We are less than a year apart in age but have never really been close emotionally. We had a rough childhood, in which it was all about survival. Once we were adults, we both moved away and only saw each other a few times a year.

By Annie Lane February 2, 2022
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I am in a bit of a crush of emotions, and I am writing about a common topic that appears in your column. It is the first time I have ever written to anyone for advice, but I do want an opinion.

By Annie Lane February 1, 2022
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My wife and I have been married for eight years, and we have four beautiful boys together. A little over a year ago, I caught her having an affair ...

By Annie Lane January 31, 2022
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Dear Annie: I'm writing out of concern over your response to "Very Sad Mother of a Very Sweet and Special Daughter," who told you about the abuse that her daughter is experiencing at the hands of her son-in-law.

By Annie Lane January 30, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am heartbroken about our 33-year-old daughter.

By Annie Lane January 29, 2022
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Dear Annie: My neighbor and I have been friends for the last year and a half.

January 28, 2022
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I’m 70, and my friend “Martha” is 72. We live in the same senior apartment complex and have known each other for about nine months. I’ve helped her a lot, taking her to doctor’s appointments, walking her dog after eye surgery, etc.

By Annie Lane January 27, 2022
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Our daughter, son-in-law and grandchildren live in another part of the country, so we are only able to see them a few times a year. On our most recent visit, my wife asked my daughter where she kept some of the very nice, expensive wedding gifts that had been given to them by friends of ours.

By Annie Lane January 26, 2022
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Am I the only one who is annoyed by the lack of customer service in our country today? I am in my 70s, and I vividly remember the days when I would call a hotel to make a reservation. A live human being would answer the phone and handle my request.

By Annie Lane January 25, 2022
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My husband and I have been married for a long time, and he is a great guy. However, when it comes to my 80-year-old mom, it’s another story.

By Annie Lane January 24, 2022
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Dear Annie: I have a very dear friend who is like family. I am 20 years older than she is, and at times I feel more like a surrogate mother than a big sister.

By Annie Lane January 23, 2022
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Dear Annie: I just finished reading the letter from “Caged Bird,” and my heart broke for her.

By Annie Lane January 22, 2022
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Dear Readers: Before the start of 2022, I asked you all to send me your goals and resolutions for the new year. These are some of my favorite reader submissions:

By Annie Lane January 21, 2022
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Dear Annie: I spent my early childhood years with a loving foster family, and today, at age 75, I have a great relationship with my foster brother.

By Annie Lane January 20, 2022
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I had a high school boyfriend 47 years ago but left him. He came to my house the day before I was marrying someone else and begged me not to marry him, but I did.

By Annie Lane January 19, 2022
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I have been married for more than 24 years, and we have three wonderful daughters. My husband has always been a wonderful father and an OK husband.

By Annie Lane January 18, 2022
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I am the person who wrote to you a few years ago about sending a box of thank-you notes and Forever Stamps as gifts to nonresponders.

By Annie Lane January 17, 2022
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Dear Readers: Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day! In honor of this great man, I have attached some of the best excerpts from his famous "I Have a Dream" speech.

By Annie Lane January 16, 2022
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Dear Annie: My relationship with my in-laws is a bit strange.

January 15, 2022
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Dear Annie: Without trying to sound arrogant, I am smarter than the average bear.

January 14, 2022
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I am a published author and have been struggling to write my next book. I’ve written a handful of adult-oriented fictional books. My most recent published book came out almost five years ago.

By Annie Lane January 13, 2022
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Recently, a friend confronted me about something that I didn’t think was a big deal: Sometimes I forget to respond to texts for a while, and then I reply and say that I just saw the message.

By Annie Lane January 12, 2022
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When I was 10, I began asking for a phone. Every kid in my class had one, and I was being left out and bullied because I was the only kid without one. Now, three years later, I finally have a phone!

By Annie Lane January 11, 2022
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I used to write every day — mostly poems but also essays. ...

By Annie Lane January 10, 2022
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Dear Annie: My twin sister and brother-in-law visited me for the recent holiday. I love my sister, and we have always gotten along well.

By Annie Lane January 9, 2022
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Dear Annie: Politics took over as the main topic at our holiday dinner.

By Annie Lane January 8, 2022
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Dear Annie:Hope you can give us some sage advice!

By Annie Lane January 7, 2022
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Our son has been married to a lovely girl for over 20 years. She is a daughter-in-law everyone should have. She cares for us; she keeps a gracious home; she is a good mother. My problem is with her mother.

By Annie Lane January 6, 2022
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My wife and I have been friends with this couple for over 10 years. We met when our kids were in grade school. We would get together with this couple regularly over the years for dinner and drinks, while the kids would stay at home.

By Annie Lane January 5, 2022
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I cried when I was reading the letters from parents about not letting go of their children in college. My mother was so strict with me that I was not even allowed to go to college.

By Annie Lane January 4, 2022
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Dear Annie: When I was a 21-year-old assistant English instructor (an “intern”) at a summer program for high school seniors in New Hampshire, I developed an interest in one of the students. She was 18.

By Annie Lane January 3, 2022
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Dear Annie: My husband and I enjoy your column and often read it out loud to each other and discuss possible answers before reading your response.

By Annie Lane January 2, 2022
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Dear Annie: I am a 62-year-old Nana of two beautiful girls, ages 6 months and 3 years. My son and his wife live 2 1/2 hours away, so I visit them every six weeks or so.

January 1, 2022
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Dear Readers: Happy New Year! May the following thoughts encourage, enlighten and inspire you as we begin anew in the chapter of 2022.

By Annie Lane December 31, 2021
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You get a lot of letters about people whose partners fell in love with someone else, causing a rift in their partnership. I find a lot of these partners lacked communication, so I thought I’d share my story of what can happen when you just talk.

By Annie Lane December 30, 2021
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I am in an interracial relationship and am a stepparent to a 7-year-old daughter. When COVID-19 came, my mother-in-law was without a job and in between places. We have only two bedrooms, one for us and one for my stepdaughter.

By Annie Lane December 29, 2021
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I’m a 45-year-old-male and have had many traumatic events in my past, including abuses too bad to name. My problem is, as I was growing up, I was so mistreated that I never learned how to feel.

By Annie Lane December 28, 2021
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Dear Readers: I hope you enjoy some quotes below from one of my favorite poets, Henry David Thoreau. May he inspire you to live your lives to the fullest, spend time with nature, seek truth and always choose kindness and love.

By Annie Lane December 27, 2021
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Dear Annie: I don't know how to begin, so I'll just start by saying that after my father passed away 20 years ago, my sisters abandoned me.

By Annie Lane December 26, 2021
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Dear Annie: I need some advice on how to approach my older sister about how both she and her husband conduct themselves at family gatherings.

By Annie Lane December 25, 2021
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Dear readers: On Thanksgiving Day, I asked you to submit responses about what you're grateful for this year. In the spirit of the season — love, gratitude, family and cheer — I want to share some of your lovely responses.

By Annie Lane December 24, 2021
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Dear Readers: Below is one of my favorite poems for Christmas. Please enjoy, and wishing all of you and your families a joyous, peaceful and bright holiday season.

By Annie Lane December 23, 2021
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My husband is 68, and I am 66. He has two boys, and I have one, all fully grown and out on their own with children and even grandchildren

By Annie Lane December 22, 2021
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Around five years ago, still reeling from hosting our 15th or so yearly sit-down Thanksgiving extravaganza (out-of-town guests, family, friends, random strays, you get the picture), always fun but always exhausting, I was asked what we were doing for Christmas.

By Annie Lane December 21, 2021
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Dear Annie: We need help in handling a family situation that arose during a Thanksgiving visit. My brother-in-law has no table manners.

By Annie Lane December 20, 2021
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Dear Annie: I recently lost my son, and Thanksgiving without him was very painful.

By Annie Lane December 19, 2021
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Dear Annie: After paying my dues with bad relationships, including a toxic marriage that took me way too long to leave, I have finally found real love with a man whom I’ve known since we were teenagers.

By Annie Lane December 18, 2021
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Dear Annie: My middle-aged confirmed bachelor brother-in-law is a frequent and welcome dinner guest at our house.

December 17, 2021
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My wife is borderline addicted to “Words With Friends” (an app game similar to Scrabble), and it’s causing me concern, in addition to creating some strife within our marriage. It would be one thing if she were only playing with other female players, but she also has an ongoing game with a former male classmate.

By Annie Lane December 16, 2021
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I am a baby boomer and appreciate the 20th-century tradition of “rising to the occasion” and taking in meals if a family member is ill or if there has been a death in the family. It is a kind and thoughtful gesture.

By Annie Lane December 15, 2021
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I have an old and close friend I’ve known for 50 years. We live far apart, and the only way to talk is by telephone. Over the past several years, my friend has started to suddenly interrupt our calls when there is a click on the line signaling another call.

By Annie Lane December 14, 2021
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Last weekend, I got a text from my dad that said: “I’m going vegan LOL.” (Yes, he says “LOL.” He’s hip like that.) I laughed and brushed it aside...

By Annie Lane December 13, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have a loving daughter, and I respect her husband greatly.

December 12, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am asking you to reprint your column with the letter from “Neil,” who lost his wife to cancer and was having a difficult time coping with his grief.

By Annie Lane December 11, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband works with a guy,"Dave."

By Annie Lane December 10, 2021
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I have been married for almost 24 years and have known my husband since high school. Throughout our early 20s, we would break up every once in a while, but it would be a short period of time and then we would be back together.

By Annie Lane December 9, 2021
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I have been in a friend group that plays board games nearly every month for 25 years. We all know one another from working at a startup in Colorado nearly 30 years ago. We don’t work together anymore, but we still play games together frequently.

By Annie Lane December 8, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have a 47-year-old son who lives with me. He pays no rent, and he does not help with the bills. He does help with some of the yard work and housecleaning, but he ignores it if I ask him to help with something that I would like.

By Annie Lane December 7, 2021
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How do I convey to my adult married children that I do not like being around my ex for the holidays?

By Annie Lane December 6, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband of 19 years had an office gathering at our home in mid-August.

December 5, 2021
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Dear Annie: My wife of 44 years passed away after a nine-day bout with cancer.

By Annie Lane December 4, 2021
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Dear Readers: Thank you for all your responses to "Letting Go Is Hard to Do."

By Annie Lane December 3, 2021
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Dear Annie: Both my adult daughter and her husband are employed. Since they do not cook, when my husband and I visit them, which is approximately four times a year, they send out for food and ask us to pay our share of the bill, or, on occasion, she will use my credit card to pay for the whole bill.

By Annie Lane December 2, 2021
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I am a single mother to my one daughter, who is now 29. She moved from our hometown because that’s where she met her husband, and she now has a son, my grandson, who is 1 1/2 years old.

By Annie Lane December 1, 2021
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This letter is addressed to all those who think back on a first love and believe their feelings are undiminished.

By Annie Lane November 30, 2021
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Please tell “Ready to Die” that she can get disability payments because she has a mental health disorder.

By Annie Lane November 29, 2021
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Dear Annie: I knew my husband had a Twitter account, and I thought he only followed groups.

November 28, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have read the “Ask Ann Landers” column and now the “Dear Annie” column since I was a little girl, and I am writing to you at age 66. I always wanted to write into the column but never did.

By Annie Lane November 27, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a 76-year-old woman who is still not over her teenage friendship troubles.

By Annie Lane November 26, 2021
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My brother has been dating a woman for several years, and they recently became engaged. I do like her, but here is my issue: She is another nationality, and her family (in another country) does not like her dating a “white guy.” They refer to him as “white trash,” though he is well-educated and makes good money.

By Annie Lane November 25, 2021
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As I’m sure you all know, today is Thanksgiving, a holiday dedicated to celebrating the things we’re grateful for. To get in the spirit, I’d love to hear what you are grateful for this year. Send your responses to dearannie@creators.com.

By Annie Lane November 24, 2021
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I am an 80-year-old female, a widow. I live alone. I have a history of having arthritis, and I can’t take medications for arthritis due to having had stomach ulcers. I had a hip replacement in the spring, and I had hoped I would be able to walk without the use of a walker.

By Annie Lane November 23, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for six years. We’re older, and it’s the third marriage for both of us.

By Annie Lane November 22, 2021
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Dear Annie: I was a little amused by the letter on tip jars.

By Annie Lane November 21, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband is a chronic procrastinator. He puts off everything.

November 20, 2021
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Dear Annie: I need help. I've let my niece move in with me, my husband and my 17-year-old daughter after her husband committed suicide.

November 19, 2021
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My spouse and I have been married for over 40 years. Our children are married with children of their own. They seem happy and well-adjusted, and our whole family seems happy and healthy. I am very blessed and glad things are the way they are.

By Annie Lane November 18, 2021
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I have been technically single all my life. I did have a casual long-term relationship with a man that lasted for 12 years. We were never exclusive. We would have never worked exclusively, and we both knew that.

By Annie Lane November 17, 2021
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Many of you wrote about why the husband of “Neglected Spouse” has not had sex with her in years. ...

By Annie Lane November 16, 2021
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I am a 47-year-old woman and have been happily married for 24 years. I have a great relationship with our only daughter, who is 24 years old and thriving. My problem is with my mom.

By Annie Lane November 15, 2021
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Dear Annie: My uncle has a reputation for being extremely cheap, but he did something recently that has left me fuming.

November 14, 2021
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Dear Annie: Forty-two years ago, my then-boyfriend and I decided to move in together in the house he was building.

November 13, 2021
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Dear Annie: My fiance and I are well underway in planning our wedding with less than two months to go.

By Annie Lane November 12, 2021
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I’ve been in a relationship with “Jason” since April 2001. We got engaged in 2007. I lived apart from him with my three kids as they were still young and in school. I moved in with him in 2010.

By Annie Lane November 11, 2021
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I have been married for the past 15 years and have three children (one adult, two teenagers). I cheated on my husband 10 years ago and have apologized, and I thought we had worked through it.

By Annie Lane November 10, 2021
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I’ve been married to a man for 17 years. But not long after the marriage, he stopped being a husband.

By Annie Lane November 9, 2021
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Dear Annie: Staying close to family is not easy, but it is really important.

November 8, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a 43-year-old woman who has had severe treatment for resistant bipolar depression, with psychotic features, my whole life.

By Annie Lane November 7, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have two very good friends who I go to breakfast with every Saturday.

By Annie Lane November 6, 2021
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Dear Annie: I've dated this woman for over five months.

November 5, 2021
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I’m in my 70s, as is my boyfriend. For the most part, we get along. But lately, I’m starting to worry about him. He lost his fiancee about five years ago, and I lost my husband six years ago, so we both know grief.

By Annie Lane November 4, 2021
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Five months ago, I started dating a 58-year-old man. We met online and exchanged phone numbers. Our conversations were great, so we met for a date and started a relationship.

November 3, 2021
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In your response to “Loss and Regret,” concerning a teenager being sexually abused by an older female, you dismissed the legal aspect of this out of hand. The older woman should be brought up on sexual abuse charges against a minor.

By Annie Lane November 2, 2021
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Dear Annie: Nearly 50 years ago, while a high school student, I met an upperclassman who completely swept me off my feet. We clicked with each other almost immediately and loved being together as much as possible.

By Annie Lane November 1, 2021
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Dear Annie: As I was reading the letter from "Burnt Out," the woman whose husband was chronically ill at moments of pressure, I wanted to say that the advice you gave about how this could be a mind/body issue sounds spot on to me, based on my personal experience.

By Annie Lane October 31, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have an ex-boyfriend, and our relationship has been off and on for more than eight years.

By Annie Lane October 30, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a 64-year-old man with a 54-year-old wife. We've been married for 21 years now.

By Annie Lane October 29, 2021
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I am 38 years old with three kids ages 18, 15 and 13. I just recently moved back home with my mom because I was in an abusive relationship. Well, my mom is treating me like a 15-year-old.

By Annie Lane October 28, 2021
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My slightly older brother and his spouse (in their mid-30s) are moving to Texas from California with their three toddler-aged children for no other reason than politics — politics to which no one else in the family subscribes.

By Annie Lane October 27, 2021
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I have three children: two sons from my marriage, both in their 20s, and my daughter, who is 14, from an ex-girlfriend. When my oldest son was thrown out of his mother’s home, I had him move in right away.

By Annie Lane October 26, 2021
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I read your column every day, and I read with great interest the letter from the wife whose husband had an affair 20 years earlier. She was bitter that none of her friends told her about it.

By Annie Lane October 25, 2021
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Dear Annie: I've been married for nearly 30 years. After our first year of marriage, my husband lost interest in sex with me and refused to discuss his reasons.

By Annie Lane October 24, 2021
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Dear Annie: I identified with the military family who was expected to go to their parents’ homes for the holidays.

By Annie Lane October 23, 2021
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Dear Readers: Thank you for your heartfelt and humbling responses to Second Wife, who is bothered that her second husband continues to carry a photo of his late wife in his billfold.

By Annie Lane October 22, 2021
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Dear Annie: Under what circumstances is it OK to cancel your plans with one friend in order to spend time with someone else?

By Annie Lane October 21, 2021
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I need help, but I’m so lost on what to do. Please help with some advice. I’m 52 years old and so broken. My mom passed away on Sept. 14, 2019, at home. I’ve had to live with my brother “Ed” ever since. Or, should I say, he has had to live with me.

By Annie Lane October 20, 2021
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My husband is 59 years old and thinks it is OK to ogle young girls younger than 18 — more like 15 to 16.

By Annie Lane October 19, 2021
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Dear Annie: I’ve been in a relationship for about three years. Both of us are estranged from our spouses. We stayed in marriages because of our children and are still married now for other reasons.

By Annie Lane October 18, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a 72-year-old woman who used to live with my daughter and her family. I moved out last January.

October 17, 2021
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Dear Annie: I’m here to offer the European perspective on tipping.

October 16, 2021
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Dear Annie: How much is appropriate to share in the workplace when it comes to personal matters?

October 15, 2021
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I was in a nine-month relationship up until about a month ago. Without going into a lot of detail, the guy I was seeing decided to ghost me without any warning. We had a great conversation on Thursday, and then on Friday morning, he blocked my calls, emails, etc.

By Annie Lane October 14, 2021
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I’ve been with my significant other for almost three years now. We live together and have a pretty good life. ...

By Annie Lane October 13, 2021
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I’m struggling with a situation I can no longer handle. My husband has a long history of periodically “falling ill” with mystery illnesses the doctors treat as minor everyday issues, but which inevitably result in his being unable to function.

By Annie Lane October 12, 2021
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I enjoy reading your column in the Indianapolis Star. Today, I read the column, “How Do I Tell My Kids Our Dog Died?” I believe you were right on target when you wrote that one should avoid saying that the pets just went to sleep.

By Annie Lane October 11, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband used to check out other women in an obvious way, but no more.

By Annie Lane October 10, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a 52-year-old man who came to this country when I was 15.

October 9, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a single 70-year-old lady. I just found out I am going to have to wear a CPAP due to breathing issues when I sleep.

By Annie Lane October 8, 2021
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I have a child with a woman who is 20 years younger than me. Having a child was not planned. I’m grateful for our child, but I’m not in love with her mother. I’ve tried to explain to her that I love her for the mother she is but that I’m not in love with her.

By Annie Lane October 7, 2021
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My mother died at the age of 67 from COVID-19 in January. My stepfather wanted to wait a year to have the memorial so everyone could attend. Since my mother’s death, my stepfather has remarried. Yup, remarried. And now his new wife has moved into the house.

By Annie Lane October 6, 2021
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I’m currently in recovery. I have had two years of being clean and sober, after 13 long, miserable years of addiction.

By Annie Lane October 5, 2021
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Dear Annie: In the 12 years since my first child was born (and two more children followed), our military family has yet to actually celebrate Christmas in our own home because we are always traveling to our families’ homes, lest we hear from hurt grandparents bemoaning our absence.

By Annie Lane October 4, 2021
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Dear Annie: A dear neighbor has just lost her husband.

By Annie Lane October 3, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a single mom of four wonderful boys, two of whom are teenagers.

By Annie Lane October 2, 2021
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Dear Annie: My wife and I have two boys, 10 and 12. For years, my wife has been either brushing their teeth herself -- long past when it was appropriate -- or hovering over them nightly to ensure they are doing it the "right" way.

By Annie Lane October 1, 2021
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My nephew, who was working in a foreign country, married a local woman. They visited my nephew’s father in the U.S. a few times. During one visit, I gave my nephew’s wife a brooch that belonged to my grandmother to welcome her to the family.

By Annie Lane September 30, 2021
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My 20-year-old daughter, “Jessica,” was adopted when she was 2 by her mom and her first husband, and I adopted her when she was 15. She decided to reach out to her birth mother in a very small town with very limited opportunities last February, and then she moved across the country to be with her in April.

By Annie Lane September 29, 2021
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Please tell me, how do I deal with my husband’s depression and phone addiction? It’s starting to hurt my self-esteem, leaving me feeling as if I’m incapable of making him happy.

By Annie Lane September 28, 2021
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Dear Mothers: Thank you so much for loving your children unconditionally. May your letters comfort any child who doesn’t feel completely loved and accepted by their parents for any reason.

By Annie Lane September 27, 2021
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Dear Annie: This is in response to "Let the Truth Out."

By Annie Lane September 26, 2021
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Dear Annie: I’ve been friends with “Keith” for 15 years. We talk almost daily, enjoy the same things and go on some road trips every year.

By Annie Lane September 25, 2021
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Dear Annie: I moved to a new neighborhood a few weeks ago. I really love the bustle and the energy; however, there is one drawback — the noise.

By Annie Lane September 24, 2021
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For close to 50 years, my friend “Chloe” and I have met for dinner once a week, and she always discusses her husband’s past affair, which occurred over 50 years ago and lasted a year.

By Annie Lane September 23, 2021
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I’ve been very happily married for several years to a man I love deeply. Suddenly, his son from a previous marriage, who lives in another state, wants Dad to move to his state to be close to him, as he and his wife are planning a family.

By Annie Lane September 22, 2021
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In a recent column, a reader stated his wife has a serious addiction to pain pills after years of being prescribed them, hasn’t worked in those years, spends most of her time in bed, breaks into pill safes and begs for more pills.

By Annie Lane September 21, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for nearly three decades. Up until seven years ago, my husband, who is very sensitive, had a difficult time making friends.

By Annie Lane September 20, 2021
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Dear Annie: My daughter is a 57-year-old divorced mom of four.

By Annie Lane September 19, 2021
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Dear Annie: One of our two sweet dogs died recently. Do you have any suggestions for how to explain it to our two children, who are 3 and 7 years old?

By Annie Lane September 18, 2021
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Dear Annie: My mother passed away earlier this year. I'm sad to say that I did not like her.

By Annie Lane September 17, 2021
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Dear Readers: Being a good neighbor can be more complicated than it sounds, at least when it comes to finding financial help for the elderly who are seeking home care.

By Annie Lane September 12, 2021
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Dear Annie: I feel the need to provide a different view to the “Grieving Grandmothers” who wrote in saying that their daughters-in-law keep their grandkids and sons away from them.

By Annie Lane September 11, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a woman in my mid-30s, and my wife is in her early 40s.

By Annie Lane September 10, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 34 years. We have two grown children, both of whom still live with us.

By Annie Lane September 9, 2021
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My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 10 years. We’ve had a lot of trials but always managed to hold onto each other and weather the storms.

By Annie Lane September 8, 2021
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My boyfriend and I have been talking about moving in together for a very long time. I became pregnant and had our baby, but he didn’t move in with me because he was upset that I was talking to other people about our problems.

By Annie Lane September 7, 2021
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Dear Annie:My wife “Monica” has been having a mostly texting affair with “Mike” for almost two years.

By Annie Lane September 6, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband passed away in April after suffering for many years from chronic obstructive pulmonary disease.

By Annie Lane September 5, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am disabled and use a mobility device and oxygen due to emphysema, which was caused by my 30 years of cigarette smoking. I quit before my diagnosis, but it was too late.

By Annie Lane September 4, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a 75-year-old woman in good health, and I've been married for 54 years. I have wonderful children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

By Annie Lane September 3, 2021
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Dear Annie: I would like your opinion on a recent incident that happened to me.

By Annie Lane September 2, 2021
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About two years ago, my wife of 20 years, “Cynthia,” and I divorced. Our two children are grown and out of the house. Our divorce wasn’t the norm; we did it without a lawyer or mediator. Everything was civil; no one cheated or was abused. I think we both just changed over time.

By Annie Lane September 1, 2021
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Our family is like most families -- dysfunctional. Our father worked two jobs most of his life to better himself for the good of his family. My mother was a spender, but my father controlled the money. When my father passed, my mother was finally free to live as she wanted.

By Annie Lane August 31, 2021
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Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together since we were just out of high school. We’ve been married for 18 years, and we have three glorious children. We have a great relationship, but I recently discovered she was extremely promiscuous in high school and found out she slept with many of our friends, some of whom are still in our social circle.

By Annie Lane August 30, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old boy, and my family hates me because I am gay.

By Annie Lane August 29, 2021
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After going to college out of state and graduating a few years ago, I moved home with my parents so I could save money while attending graduate school. Recently, my mom has started to get on my last nerve.

By Annie Lane August 28, 2021
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Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for six years now. Two years ago, I cheated on him, and he found out shortly after when he looked at my phone and saw that I was texting the other guy.

By Annie Lane August 27, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have been working at the same company for 12 years, and I haven’t gotten a raise in five years.

By Annie Lane August 26, 2021
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I cannot believe I am asking for advice. Here goes! My mom, with whom I was very close, passed away 21 months ago. Annie, my life has never been the same.

By Annie Lane August 25, 2021
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I am a 70-year-old retired man with no children. My wife died in 2016, and we had a very happy relationship together for more than 28 years.

By Annie Lane August 24, 2021
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My husband and I are trying to figure out how to emotionally support our adult daughter, who is 40 years old. She is going through a very emotional period in her life.

By Annie Lane August 23, 2021
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I have had many odd symptoms over the years that got worse, and it has taken much research to finally get help.

By Annie Lane August 22, 2021
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Dear Annie: My daughter and her father and I were always close. We talked daily, telling one another about our days. She has three children.

By Annie Lane August 21, 2021
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Dear Annie: I know this awesome guy. Let's call him "Luke." We're both teens, and we see each other because our little sisters are best friends and our dads get along well. I really like Luke -- a lot.

By Annie Lane August 20, 2021
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Dear Annie: After my mother died, my father married a woman he found online. She only visited us once in person before she moved in and they got married. She wasn’t always the nicest, and honestly, I was scared of her.

By Annie Lane August 19, 2021
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I am in my late 50s, the proud mother of two grown men who have families of their own. I’ve been successful in my career and always accomplished whatever I set my mind to. But I always had a secret. I have ADHD.

By Annie Lane August 18, 2021
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I love reading your column. I found out three years ago that my husband of 33 years was having an affair with his bookkeeper. We have a business together, but I stepped out of the business part years ago to become a nurse.

By Annie Lane August 17, 2021
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I’ve known this guy “Henry” for about six years now. We never got the timing right...

By Annie Lane August 16, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have been married for 11 years and have a wonderful 10-year-old son; however, my marriage is on very shaky ground.

By Annie Lane August 15, 2021
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A few years ago, my son’s wife decided to divorce him because she didn’t love him anymore. We accepted that and showed our support for her despite her decision.

By Annie Lane August 14, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for five years. We have a beautiful daughter, and we've got a son on the way.

August 13, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have a neighbor who is 90 years old.

By Annie Lane August 12, 2021
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I am a 29-year-old woman, and I’ve been having an ongoing debate with my boyfriend of 10 years. I wear makeup because I am insecure about my skin and my face in general.

By Annie Lane August 11, 2021
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I made the decision to put down my phone for a while, and the results have been wonderful.

By Annie Lane August 10, 2021
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I want to know why people think it’s OK to harass and abuse other people. My ex brought his girlfriend home, and they spent the night in the garage. That was when we were still married.

By Annie Lane August 9, 2021
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Dear Annie: My heart and prayers go out to the "Grieving Grandmother" who is tired of the apathy shown by her daughters-in-law.

August 8, 2021
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I have a friend who spent many years in an emotionally abusive relationship that seems similar to what “Sad Grandma” described.

By Annie Lane August 7, 2021
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Dear Annie: My grandfather had severe Alzheimer's disease. Unfortunately, it lasted for a while.

By Annie Lane August 6, 2021
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My heart hurts so much. Last January, my nephew was diagnosed with leukemia.

By Annie Lane August 5, 2021
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My significant other and I were in a relationship for 15 years. One evening, I was feeling insecure and asked whether there was someone else. Very soon after that, my significant other completely cut off all contact with me.

By Annie Lane August 4, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am a 49-year-old father of twins, a boy and girl.

By Annie Lane August 3, 2021
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I’ve been working at the same car dealership for five years, since I graduated high school. When I started, it was just a job.

By Annie Lane August 2, 2021
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My 10-year-old's school administrators are over-the-top nosey and won't stay out of our business.

By Annie Lane August 1, 2021
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My wife and I are in a pickle. We are friends with another couple, “Josh” and “Vanessa.” Vanessa happens to be a teacher at our kids’ school. One day, I was picking up my offspring and started chatting with her. I could tell she was sad and asked her about it. That’s when the floodgates opened.

By Annie Lane July 31, 2021
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I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about two years. He's actually my ex-husband from 25 years ago...

By Annie Lane July 30, 2021
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I am in my late 60s, and my boyfriend, “Mark,” is in his early 70s. We have been living together in my house for a year and a half. We’re both divorced and have adult children from our previous marriages. Mark communicates daily with all five children via phone calls and text messages. My problem is that he’s also regularly in contact with his ex-wife, who lives in the same town as us.

By Annie Lane July 29, 2021
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I am a single mother of two teenage girls. After a series of abusive relationships, I hadn’t dated for two years until recently. A few months ago, I met a man, and we’ve been seeing each other and sharing intimate moments. But the way he acts has me very confused.

By Annie Lane July 28, 2021
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My ex-husband was very controlling and always had to have the upper hand in conversations. Today, we do all of our communicating through email only, but he still needs to end all correspondence on his terms.

By Annie Lane July 27, 2021
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Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for four years. I have never been married before, and my wife, “Gertrude,” was divorced when we married.

By Annie Lane July 26, 2021
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My son is soon to be 23 years old. He was two courses short of earning his Bachelor of Science degree in computer science when something bad happened.

By Annie Lane July 25, 2021
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About a year ago, after talking to a nice guy who could also be a royal pain -- especially when things don’t go his way -- I decided to let him into my heart. I did this even though I am usually pretty well guarded and don’t allow too many people close to me.

By Annie Lane July 24, 2021
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I'm a happily married woman with two young children. My problem is that I'm very overweight.

By Annie Lane July 23, 2021
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Dear Annie: I’m a father of two amazing children and completely loyal husband of more than 20 years. But I have an ongoing issue with my parents-in-law, especially my father-in-law.

By Annie Lane July 22, 2021
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Dear Annie: My former boyfriend and I were in a serious, exclusive relationship for nearly six years. While we never lived together, we were intimately close and spent most nights together. He always told me how much he loved me and that I was the best.

By Annie Lane July 21, 2021
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Dear Annie: I recently dined out with three friends. The restaurant was very busy, and we waited for nearly two hours for our food. We were drinking and enjoying a band, so it wasn’t that bad.

By Annie Lane July 20, 2021
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I retired 11 years ago, but I could have been the obsessed woman addicted to her iPhone before I retired.

By Annie Lane July 19, 2021
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Dear Annie: There is tension between some of my relatives and me, and I would appreciate your advice.

July 18, 2021
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Dear Annie: We recently moved from our home of 20 years to a neighboring state that is two hours away by car. Our children are 21 and 19. We had set our sights on moving to this community several years ago, but we waited until our son had graduated from high school.

July 17, 2021
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Dear Annie: I live in a small town. My mother died a couple of years ago, and around that same time, a friend of mine had just lost his home and was looking for someplace to live.

By Annie Lane July 16, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have been married to my wife for just over two years.

By Annie Lane July 15, 2021
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Dear Annie: I was in a very controlling and abusive relationship from the time I was 15 until three years ago, when my ex passed away. We were both in our late 30s at the time.

By Annie Lane July 14, 2021
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Dear Annie: This will be my first time writing to you. I have read your previous work, and you give sound advice, so I pray you can do the same for me.

By Annie Lane July 13, 2021
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Dear Annie: I believe the most valuable lesson my father instilled in me was to do one good deed every day.

By Annie Lane July 12, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am writing in response to your answer to "Just Want the Same Service," who was frustrated at the slow service she received in a restaurant.

By Annie Lane July 11, 2021
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Dear Annie: I’m in a situation where I’m not sure what to do.

By Annie Lane July 10, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband of a year and I have yet to consummate our marriage.

By Annie Lane July 9, 2021
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Dear Annie: In several columns, you’ve mentioned Match.com as a good place for singles to meet other singles. Well, my mother-in-law lost her entire savings, more than $70,000, to a scammer on one of the most popular dating sites.

July 8, 2021
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Dear Annie: When kids graduate from high school, parents and grandparents obviously are very proud of their kids. Rightfully so.

By Annie Lane July 7, 2021
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Dear Annie: I come from a big family. I have seven brothers and two sisters, and I’m their third sister.

By Annie Lane July 6, 2021
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Dear Annie: When I was a child, I had many chilling things happen to me. I barely remember some incidents, and they don’t seem to affect me now — well, other than the mental illness running through my entire body.

By Annie Lane July 5, 2021
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Dear Annie:I will open with how much I love your advice column.

By Annie Lane July 4, 2021
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Dear Annie: My longtime best friend of 15 years and I entered into a romantic relationship in March of last year. It was a nightmare from almost the very beginning.

July 3, 2021
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Dear Annie: My sister and I reunited about five years ago after not speaking for at least 10 years.

By Annie Lane July 2, 2021
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Dear Annie: I ended a relationship about a year ago when it turned abusive.

By Annie Lane July 1, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have been seeing a woman for about eight years now. She is married, and I am not.

June 30, 2021
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Dear Annie: I’m 20 years old and from New York. I’ve been in and out of my house since I was small because my mom and I would get into small arguments and she would just decide to send me to my dad’s house. This takes a toll on me because I feel like she doesn’t want me here.

By Annie Lane June 29, 2021
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Dear Annie: I recently attended a wedding where one woman and her spouse brought their six kids.

By Annie Lane June 28, 2021
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Lately, I have been feeling like I am not good enough. I have anxiety and depression, which I have had since I was young, to the point where I attempted suicide four times.

By Annie Lane June 26, 2021
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Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 35 years.

June 25, 2021
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Dear Annie: The guy I’ve been seeing for five years has been seeing a married woman for 18 years. For context, we’re all seniors. He’s in his 80s; I’m in my 70s. The married woman is in her 60s.

By Annie Lane June 24, 2021
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Dear Annie: Your solicitation for a Father’s Day story made me contemplate my life. I have been very blessed. My biological father is still with us at 89. He was an example of volunteerism and strength. He was always involved at church and in Boy Scouts.

By Annie Lane June 23, 2021
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Dear Annie: My father instilled in me two thoughts that I hold onto every day. I have passed these on to my grandchildren.

By Annie Lane June 22, 2021
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Dear Annie: A year ago, my best friend, “Tia,” got her real estate license, and she has been working very hard to build her clientele. She has succeeded in selling two homes and being the buyer’s agent for three.

By Annie Lane June 21, 2021
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Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 10 years. We have three children who mean the world to me. I'm sure that, on the outside looking in, people think everything is great. However, my wife has developed a drinking problem.

By Annie Lane June 20, 2021
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Dear Readers: A few weeks ago, I asked you to share the most valuable trait that a dad (or dad figure) instilled in you.

By Annie Lane June 19, 2021
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Dear Annie: My former spouse, "Ted," was extremely abusive -- not physically but emotionally, psychologically and financially.

By Annie Lane June 18, 2021
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I have been married for 20 years.

By Annie Lane June 17, 2021
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Lately, I find myself thinking a lot about old roommates, friends and co-workers. I’m talking about people from over 30 years ago, whom I haven’t spoken to in decades.

By Annie Lane June 16, 2021
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Dear Annie:My older brother and I have been dealing with a touchy situation for years. We are both adopted; our parents divorced when we were very young, and they both remarried.

June 15, 2021
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Dear Annie: My daughter is the co-owner of a salon in Florida.

By Annie Lane June 14, 2021
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Dear Annie: I just finished sending a baby gift to the daughter of a friend of mine. She had a registry, and I selected a gift and had it mailed to her with a congratulatory message.

By Annie Lane June 13, 2021
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Dear Annie: I live in a retirement community.

By Annie Lane June 12, 2021
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Dear Annie: My "Laura" is the light of my life. It's been more than a year since we found each other, but my whole body still shakes with anticipation every time I see her.

By Annie Lane June 11, 2021
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I am a man in my late 50s. Until recently, I was in a long-distance relationship with a woman — let’s call her “Maria” — who lives about a thousand miles away from me.

By Annie Lane June 10, 2021
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I’ve been seeing this guy for almost a year now. The problem is that two of my sons aren’t happy about or accepting of our relationship.

By Annie Lane June 9, 2021
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I am the mother of four adult children. I have many happy memories of all their childhoods, celebrating birthdays, graduations and other milestones. I feel I have wonderful relationships with three of them (and their spouses). The fourth has been challenging, to say the least.

By Annie Lane June 8, 2021
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A great many of you wrote to say that I suggested that yoga and diet can cure depression. In no way, shape or form do I believe that.

By Annie Lane June 7, 2021
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My husband and I got married right before the pandemic.

June 6, 2021
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I believe your answer to “Canine Cacophony” provided some practical advice about how to deal with noisy dogs next door.

By Annie Lane June 5, 2021
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I met a man about four years ago. We started dating a week after we met, upon his insistence.

June 4, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have dated a guy for the last six years, always long-distance.

By Annie Lane June 3, 2021
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A few years ago, after many, many years of going to doctors and having tests done, I found out that I am disabled. The only problem is that I don’t LOOK disabled.

By Annie Lane June 2, 2021
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Dear Annie: My relationship with my parents has been strained since their divorce 20 years ago. I speak to my father rarely but communicate regularly with my mother.

By Annie Lane June 1, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband and I met in high school and have been married for 23 years.

By Annie Lane May 31, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have a daughter who is sometimes very kind and sweet to me but other times feels like a cancer who destroys every cell in my heart.

By Annie Lane May 30, 2021
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I have a family situation that I am not sure how to handle.

By Annie Lane May 29, 2021
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Dear Annie: I work in health and wellness for the largest retailer in the world.

By Annie Lane May 28, 2021
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Dear Annie: I read your column in my local paper, and you seem to respond in an unbiased manner, so I am turning to you for advice.

By Annie Lane May 27, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have a problem I do not know what to do about.

By Annie Lane May 26, 2021
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I am a doctor and have a friend whom I see at medical conferences once or twice a year.

By Annie Lane May 25, 2021
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My family relocated the year I was entering ninth grade, and on the third day at my new school, as I was walking home, a girl I’ll call Ann ran up to my side, introduced herself and insisted on carrying my books to my home, some three blocks away.

May 24, 2021
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Last fall, my friend "Olive" and her boyfriend of five years, "John," broke up. Of course, I wasn't happy to see her going through the tough emotions ...

By Annie Lane May 23, 2021
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I am in a quandary about a situation.

By Annie Lane May 22, 2021
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I started dating my husband 11 years ago, married six years ago. Our biggest problem is his 29-year-old son.

By Annie Lane May 21, 2021
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I am 47 years old. I lost my husband of 23 years two years ago.

By Annie Lane May 20, 2021
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Over the course of the pandemic, my husband and I have found ourselves drinking more than we used to.

By Annie Lane May 19, 2021
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This is in response to the letter from “Outside the Bottle Looking In,” whose wife is an alcoholic.

By Annie Lane May 18, 2021
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I have great neighbors who have two daughters, ages 15 and 16.

By Annie Lane May 17, 2021
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I met my husband in junior high and chased him for many of our teen years and even into early adulthood.

By Annie Lane May 16, 2021
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I have been married to my husband for three years.

By Annie Lane May 15, 2021
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My father-in-law died unexpectedly a few years ago.

By Annie Lane May 14, 2021
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I have an adult son who is married and lives on the East Coast. I follow them on social media to keep up with their lives, as we are in the Midwest.

By Annie Lane May 13, 2021
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After years of being in an ice-cold marriage for many years, I have finally divorced.

By Annie Lane May 12, 2021
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I have been with my husband for more than 25 years, and I have allowed things to get out of hand.

By Annie Lane May 11, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have never had an easy marriage, and I am considering leaving him.

May 10, 2021
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Dear Annie: My 32-year-old daughter is not watching my 10-year-old grandson's diet and is allowing him to become overweight.

By Annie Lane May 9, 2021
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My husband had been looking for a new job for three years. He is incredibly smart, talented and hardworking. ...

By Annie Lane May 8, 2021
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I'm a 34-year-old man with a superb wife. We've been married eight years, and things are great between us. The problem is my mother-in-law. I'm sleeping with her.

By Annie Lane May 7, 2021
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Dear Annie: I’ve been with the same guy for three years. At first, he was incredibly thoughtful and sweet.

By Annie Lane May 6, 2021
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My husband and l have been married for 22 years.

By Annie Lane May 5, 2021
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Please help me convince my 72-year-old husband to stop engaging in conversations with telephone solicitors.

By Annie Lane May 4, 2021
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I have been married for more than 30 years, and we have one teenage daughter who will be attending college in the fall.

By Annie Lane May 3, 2021
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I'm so confused, and I don't know what to do. I have been married for four months, and I truly love my husband and believe that he loves me.

By Annie Lane May 2, 2021
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I have a daughter and a son, who are now 27 and 30, respectively.

By Annie Lane May 1, 2021
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I have been married to my husband for 15 years. During that time, I have had several retail and grocery store jobs.

By Annie Lane April 30, 2021
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Dear Annie: My second husband and I were together for 20 years.

By Annie Lane April 29, 2021
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A cousin of mine found out that we get all the different sports networks in our cable package, and ever since, he has invited himself over to watch games at our house all the time, on a weekly basis.

By Annie Lane April 28, 2021
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I just wanted to thank you for encouraging the 63-year-old mom who is trying to complete her vocational nursing degree.

April 27, 2021
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My daughter-in-law could probably have written the letter about the person trying too hard to please their disapproving mother-in-law.

By Annie Lane April 26, 2021
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This is about the 40-year-old alcoholic with two kids who is refusing rehab.

By Annie Lane April 25, 2021
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I think there’s a better way to end the evening after you and your guests have had dinner and dessert than your response to, “To Leave or Not to Leave.”

By Annie Lane April 24, 2021
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I am 70 years old and have just relocated to the U.S. from overseas, after an unexpected divorce.

By Annie Lane April 23, 2021
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Dear Annie: I’m thrilled to finally be planning trips with friends again, now that we’re all vaccinated and things are opening back up.

By Annie Lane April 22, 2021
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I have friends and family who have traveled for vacations during the COVID-19 pandemic.

By Annie Lane April 21, 2021
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I have never written anything like this before, but I’m beside myself with anger and sadness.

By Annie Lane April 20, 2021
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I’ve been married for 26 years

By Annie Lane April 19, 2021
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Dear Annie: Here's a poem I wrote called "In the time of COVID."

By Annie Lane April 18, 2021
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Dear Annie: I would like to comment on the letter you received about the daughter-in-law who is a people pleaser and wants her mother-in-law to like her.

By Annie Lane April 17, 2021
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Dear Annie: I notice many readers have problems and anxieties. Maybe something my mother taught me will help them.

By Annie Lane April 16, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have let myself get involved with a significantly younger guy.

By Annie Lane April 15, 2021
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I’m a mom and have been married for nearly six years.

By Annie Lane April 14, 2021
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A few months ago, someone wrote to you about how uncomfortable the bad manners of children of a relative made her feel at large family gatherings and dinners.

By Annie Lane April 13, 2021
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I’m married to a wonderful man, and we have four beautiful children.

By Annie Lane April 12, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have been married for 15 years. A little over a year ago, I started having an affair with an ex-girlfriend. The affair ended a month ago. It is over and done with.

By Annie Lane April 11, 2021
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What we do have an issue with is our supervisor helping himself to the coffee without ever offering to chip in for his share.

By Annie Lane April 10, 2021
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I am a stepmother to a beautiful woman whom I love very much. She has given us three beautiful granddaughters and a handsome grandson. Sadly, my husband has a very rare and very aggressive form of cancer and it looks terminal.

By Annie Lane April 9, 2021
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Dear Annie: I am 57 years old and autistic. Due to my inability to read people and my own bad choices, I am the single mother of three adult children, whom I love and am indescribably proud of. But I have never been loved.

By Annie Lane April 8, 2021
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My ex and I got married when I was 19.

By Annie Lane April 7, 2021
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My sister-in-law has been living with her parents for over a year, after her college graduation ceremony was canceled because of COVID-19.

By Annie Lane April 6, 2021
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We occasionally will have friends over for dinner, and there have been times when they simply won’t leave.

April 5, 2021
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Dear Annie: I raised my son, who is now 41, as a single mom. I am 75. My son and I have always been very close.

By Annie Lane April 4, 2021
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I wish you all an enjoyable Easter and Passover. Here’s to a spring season filled with new beginnings and lots of hope, happiness and joy.

By Annie Lane April 3, 2021
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Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years. We have been together for almost 20 years and have three beautiful children.

By Annie Lane April 2, 2021
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I’ve been in a relationship with “Stuart” for almost three years now.

By Annie Lane April 1, 2021
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years.

By Annie Lane March 31, 2021
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Dear Annie: Just wanted to say thank you for including the letters from people who really love and appreciate their spouses. Life has been difficult lately for many of us, and reading positive words is uplifting.

By Annie Lane March 30, 2021
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On International Women’s Day, March 8, I answered a reader who has three boys and wants to add a girl to their family.

March 29, 2021
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Dear Annie: I have struggled almost all of my married life with never being accepted by my mother-in-law. I have tried everything, just shy of learning how to do backflips. No matter what I do, it is never right.

By Annie Lane March 28, 2021
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I am a 63-year-old mother of two, who are in their 20s.

By Annie Lane March 27, 2021
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Dear Annie: I'm in my mid-60s and have worked for the same hotel chain for almost five years now.

By Annie Lane March 26, 2021
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Dear Annie: When I was in my early 50s, I became very ill and eventually found out I had severe rheumatoid arthritis. During that time I was in and out of hospitals.

By Annie Lane March 25, 2021
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I have a friend, “Raphie,” with a wife, “Diana,” who has abused him physically and verbally over the years and is very controlling.

March 24, 2021
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Dear Annie: I was raised, along with my two sisters, in a very strict religion that frowns upon cultivating personal relationships outside of the church.

By Annie Lane March 23, 2021
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I have been with my husband for 21 years, and we have been married for 15 years. I have been with my husband for 21 years, and we have been married for 15 years.

By Annie Lane March 22, 2021
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Dear Annie: I found out a month ago that my wife has been sleeping with a plethora of men that she's met on a dating app.

By Annie Lane March 21, 2021
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I am a 41-year-old single man who has pretty much given up on intimate relationships.

March 20, 2021
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My son, "Tim," is engaged to "Jennifer," a woman whom he's been seeing for many years. They have two small children together. My problem is that Jennifer will not get a job.

By Annie Lane March 19, 2021
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My whole life, I’ve been a worrywart, and my worries always seem to make their way into my stomach.

By Annie Lane March 18, 2021
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I have been with my “boyfriend” on and off for three years. I put “boyfriend” in quotes because he says he doesn’t like labels. ...

By Annie Lane March 17, 2021
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Dear Readers: March 17 is a day to celebrate the patron saint of Ireland, St. Patrick.

By Annie Lane March 16, 2021
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