August 8, 2018
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Dear Annie: The other day, my teenage daughter came to me because her good friend is being bullied on social media.
Dear Annie: I have gotten to the point that I no longer like to go out to eat, especially if it is a restaurant that my wife and I have not gone to before. Here’s why.
Dear Annie: I want people to know that depression can happen to someone even if her life appears wonderful.
Dear Annie: Christmas used to be a time that I enjoyed. I have always enjoyed spending time with siblings and cousins who live in other cities and catching up with them.
I am a soon-to-be divorced man who has suffered a great deal of pain after the collapse of my lengthy marriage.
Dear Annie: I recently went on vacation with my mom, stepdad and siblings. We went to the river where my stepdad has been going for about 30 years.
Dear Annie: My husband, “Bob,” and I have been married for over 30 years.
Dear Annie: I am writing to ask your opinion about the change in my sister’s behavior toward me. I have two sisters, and the one I am speaking of is my elder sister, “Ruth.”
Dear Annie: My brother-in-law “Albert” wants to loudly dominate any conversation by either talking about his life or showing his “great” knowledge and opinions on other subjects.
Dear Annie: I’ve played basketball with an informal team of women for well over 10 years.
Dear Annie: Without trying to sound arrogant, I am smarter than the average bear. Not quite a genius but certainly up there.
Dear Annie: I am a published author and have been struggling to write my next book. I’ve written a handful of adult-oriented fictional books. My most recent published book came out almost five years ago.
ecently, a friend confronted me about something that I didn’t think was a big deal: Sometimes I forget to respond to texts for a while, and then I reply and say that I just saw the message.
Dear Annie: When I was 10, I began asking for a phone. Every kid in my class had one, and I was being left out and bullied because I was the only kid without one.
Dear Annie: I used to write every day — mostly poems but also essays.
Dear Annie: My twin sister and brother-in-law visited me for the recent holiday. I love my sister, and we have always gotten along well.
Dear Annie: Politics took over as the main topic at our holiday dinner.
Dear Annie: I love most dogs and have had pets all my life, but there are times and places in which pets should not accompany their owners.
Dear Annie: I have a good friend who has been like a kid brother to me. He has always been a very thoughtful, caring, respectful man whom I’ve gotten along great with.
Dear Annie: The couple who live in the apartment next to mine are, well, noisy.
Dear Annie: I work as an editor at a publishing company. It has been difficult to find capable proofreaders.
Dear Annie: I am the mother of three boys.
Dear Annie: A friend and I enjoy shopping for clothes together. We always have fun.
Dear Annie: My ex-wife, “Daisy,” has custody of our two children. She makes several times my salary, lives in a home where the mortgage and taxes are sky-high, and has an expensive lifestyle.
Dear Annie: I have social anxiety, and I find that it’s really impacting my life.
Dear Readers: To all of the children out there and all of the children young at heart, I wish you all a very merry Christmas.
Dear Annie: I have an addictive personality, and this time of year is really tough for me.
Dear Annie: I have been a widow for almost 10 years.
Dear Annie: A couple with whom I have a very close relationship have recently become friends with their new neighbors.
Dear Annie: I hope you will publish this, as the holiday season is upon us and people will be rushing to the mall and the grocery to shop for Christmas gifts and supplies for festivities.
Dear Annie: I don’t want to continue to let two of my friends steal my time.
Dear Annie: Over the years, my son, his wife and our granddaughter have been the recipients of many gifts from my wife and me.
Dear Annie: I got engaged in June 2017. My fiance and I are planning the wedding for next year, in November 2019. But I’m having some doubts about my fiance. He
Dear Annie: My boyfriend is still taking his ex-girlfriend to see his son and his son’s family, who reside in another state.
Dear Annie: I have two grandchildren, ages 11 and 7, and I am worried about them.
Dear Annie: I have a full-time job, and I love it.
Dear Annie: My husband is friends with a couple from college with whom we have exchanged Christmas cards and graduation announcements over the past 25-plus years.
Dear Annie: A therapist recommended that I try EMDR in order to process past traumas. It sounds intriguing and fancy, but I don’t really understand what it involves.
Dear Annie: I love being a grandpa, but it seems all my fellow adults have a totally different impression of what a grandfather is supposed to be. My wife says I should be a role model and authority figure, which to me translates to being stern and official. Our daughter says essentially the same thing as her mother.
Dear Annie: Two years ago, I met a homeless man and took him in.
Dear Annie: I have a sibling who struggles with an eating disorder. I give her constant love and support and do everything I can to help her.
Dear Annie: Whenever Christmas rolls around, I feel sick.
Dear Annie: I was recently out of town for a long weekend with some girlfriends.
Dear Annie: As the holidays draw near, I like to be prepared and buy my gifts early.
For years, I’ve used ziplock bags for storing leftovers. Over the past two years, he’s insisted on buying a kind that has to be lined up perfectly to be pressed together. I hate these bags, and he knows it.
Dear Annie: I have not seen this problem discussed in your column and would really like your advice on this situation, as it’s damaged a 50-year friendship.
Dear Annie: I’m a 26-year-old man who’s very nice, thoughtful and kind.
Dear Annie: My problem certainly is not unique, yet I’m at my wits’ end on how to handle it.
Dear Annie: I want to do therapy, but I don’t think I can afford it right now.
Dear Annie: My daughter and son-in-law live in another state. He is a doctor, and she is a nurse.
Dear Annie: What is the etiquette with handicapped stalls in restrooms? When I go into a public restroom and there are multiple stalls to choose from, I like to go with the handicapped one because it’s roomier.
I am a widowed stepmother of a man and a woman. My husband and I had a cordial relationship with their mother. I grew to love her, and I think she liked me.
Dear Annie: I have a tricky problem going on right now. I am married and have been for a while — 20-plus years. It’s been a typical marriage, with its ups and downs, but I’d say I’ve been fairly content and things have been pretty good.
Dear Annie: I recently dated a woman for five months.
Dear Annie: We would like your advice before there is a problem. We will be moving later this year to live with our son and his family.
Dear Annie: Nearly a year ago, my sister was in a devastating accident. She had been drinking heavily.
In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I would like to thank all of you - my readers.
Dear Annie: Over the past year, I’ve discovered that there are some people in this world who are OK with “just getting by” with what is available — including leaning on or using what another person under the same roof has.
Dear Annie: My sister and I grew up in a pretty troubled home.
Dear Annie: I have a work colleague whose married son died about six months ago of cancer. His son was in his 40s.
Dear Annie: Ever since we moved to a place that is central to all my husband’s relatives, they have treated us as the Free Holiday Inn.
Dear Annie: I am the youngest of five siblings between the ages of 63 and 72.
Dear Annie: I am a college student and have met few people I would consider friends.
Dear Annie: Many years ago, I was in the U.S. military. I was sent to Southeast Asia and served three six-month tours.
Dear Annie: A former co-worker of my husband’s invited us to his son’s wedding. We received the usual “save the date” card one year prior to the ceremony. For the whole year, he asked us whether we would be attending every other week.
With the upcoming gift season, a question regarding dollar limits set by clubs.
Dear Annie: My son and his wife hardly ever really clean their house.
Dear Annie: Yesterday my husband and I spent three hours on the road, traveling from our home to our nephew’s college football game.
Dear Annie: For almost three years after college, I worked at a science camp in the nearby mountains year-round.
Dear Annie: I started to gradually notice changes in my friendship with “Marla” while I was having marital trouble.
Dear Annie: I’m wondering whether you have a copy of a piece that I believe was in an Ann Landers column.
Dear Annie: I am an active member of my small community and have served on many boards, including as an elected official.
My husband and I have been together for nine years and married for four years. His ex-wife remarried 12 years ago, but she is not happy in her marriage.
Dear Annie: I am writing about a friend I’ve had for 35 years. My friend is 60 years old.
Dear Annie: My supervisor hired a friend for a job when there were others who appeared to be more qualified.
Dear Annie: My husband of 23 years has been working for a four-man department for that whole time.
Dear Annie: I have read columns like yours since I was a child in the 1980s and always figured, “Yeah, I have problems, but I can handle them.”
Time for these ghouls to go haunt somewhere else.
Dear Annie: I’ve been dating a gentle, kind and loving man for a while. He goes to church, constantly reads his Bible and plays Christian music. We get along great.
Dear Annie: I’ve always been great at gift-giving. I enjoy giving others things that they will thoroughly enjoy.
Dear Annie: I am still in high school, meaning that having an interconnected friend group is very important.
Dear Annie: My ex-daughter-in-law believes that her 10-year-old son, my grandson, has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.
Dear Annie: I’m engaged to an amazing man, and we spend our days in a cute little house with our wonderful daughter.
Dear Annie: My adult daughter recently visited from out of state, and she has developed some odd and off-putting habits.
Dear Annie: I had something happen this weekend and am wondering what the solution should have been and who was in the right.
I’m 64. I have known “Ashley” for seven years. She is a mother of two young boys, ages 7 and 5.
Dear Annie: I am in my mid-20s, and I’ve found myself in a tough spot.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have become friends with another couple from church.
Dear Annie: Last year, I wrote to you about my beautiful 35-year-old daughter and the kidney transplant she’d just received through the United Network for Organ Sharing. I am “A Very Grateful Mom.”
Dear Annie: I wrote to you several months ago. I’m “Trapped by Parents.” I have a disability that has caused me to have great difficulty in both obtaining and retaining jobs.
Dear Annie: I am writing to you about the adult son of a friend of mine. This young man, “Dwayne,” has had a bad couple of years.
Dear Annie: My father has late-stage Alzheimer’s and is in a nursing home.
Annie: My husband has adult children from his first wife. My new daughter-in-law has become quite vocal about jewelry items that I wear.
Dear Annie: I have a question and hope your advice will make me see the light. I have been dating and living with my boyfriend off and on for 12 years.
Dear Annie: I was widowed two years ago. I joined a group last year that gets out and does things together.
Is there such a thing as mobile phone etiquette? The general answer to your question is no, it is not OK for people to be on their phones while in your presence.
Dear Annie: I’m a retired man. My elderly mom lived with me for a long time, and I stayed busy with her.
Today we’ll hear from parents who, if given the chance to start over, would opt not to have children.
Dear Readers: In a column last month, I posed a question: “If you had to do it all over again, would you have kids?”
Several weeks ago, someone requested that I pose a question to my readers that Ann Landers asked in 1975: “If you had to do it all over again, would you have kids?”
Dear Annie: I am currently in my second (and final!) marriage.
Dear Annie: My husband and I are alcoholics in recovery with multiple years of sobriety.
Dear Annie: I thought my husband and I had a great marriage - until I looked on his phone and found text messages to another woman. I was crushed.
Dear Annie: My niece, “Becky,” is getting married next month, and according to my younger brother “John,” I can’t attend the wedding because I have a beard.
Dear Annie: Recently, I’ve noticed that a “friend” on Facebook has been making very erratic posts, sometimes going on religious, political and metaphysical rants for hours on end.
Dear Annie: I started dating this wonderful man. It was a perfect courtship, with the exception of some minor troubled-teen issues in his life — we both have teenagers — that he was working on but didn’t tell me much about.
Dear Annie: I just started high school, and it’s been going great, but it’s kind of crazy.
Dear Annie: My wife is a self-employed accountant, and she did work for some friends a few years ago.
Dear Annie: I wish I had listened to my mom when she told me to go to college. I was 18 and didn’t want to do it.
Dear Annie: Ever meet someone who plays the victim and always needs a villain in her life?
What’s with people saying “I apologize” instead of “I’m sorry”? The former is just used to tell somebody that you know you did something wrong. When you tell somebody that you apologize, to me it means nothing.
Dear Annie: This is a burning question I’ve had for a while. As a student, I always have homework, but should I procrastinate or spread out the work over a longer period? Both end up with similar results for me.
Dear Annie: My husband and I enjoy getting together with a group of friends every couple of months.
Dear Annie: My brother-in-law, “Ted,” and his wife decided to call it quits over the holidays after being together since high school (about 25 years).
Dear Annie: Many years ago, my cat-loving sister clipped out an Ann Landers column called “How to Give Your Cat a Pill.”
My wife and I have been married for many years. She was and is my business partner and a great businesswoman. We would not be where we are today without her business acumen, drive and determination.
Dear Annie: I live in a neighborhood with two non-state-maintained roads. One is a long, straight, steep hill with about 20 residences. My neighbor “Sally” lives in the middle of the hill. She lets her pets roam free in her yard and has toddler grandchildren.
I have been at my job for almost 12 years. About three years ago, I met a girl who had recently started working there.
Dear Annie: I go to school and often see some of my classmates who are considered “popular” teasing my classmates and friends.
My wife has been guarding her phone since I found out she had been texting a guy she first claimed was a childhood friend.
Dear Annie: I have been overweight my entire life. Because of a diabetes scare a couple of years ago, I lost 50 pounds, primarily through running and modifying my diet.
Dear Annie: My husband of over 30 years is a great person, successful and well-educated. I love him dearly except for one annoying thing. He draws on people’s photos in magazines and newspapers.
Dear Annie: Next month, I’m moving into an apartment that’s smaller than my current one. So in the meantime, I’ve been going through all of my stuff, trying to purge anything I don’t use.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for seven years. Having both been married and divorced before, we committed and agreed before we married that the words “separation” and “divorce” would never be discussed in our future.
Dear Annie: I have a dear friend who lives nearby, but for some reason, he will not contact me.
Dear Annie: I’m an old guy with some advice for other older people in the workforce.
Dear Annie: I have been married for one year to a classmate whom I reconnected with at our 50th high school class reunion. While he was courting me, he seemed perfect.
I am always fascinated to hear diametrically opposed yet equally valid viewpoints. Such was the case with the following two letters, which appeared in my inbox on the same day in response to “Undecided in Ohio,” who isn’t sure whether she wants kids. Read on. ...
Dear Annie: My husband and I have four young children. Generally, our children are well-behaved; however, sometimes they don’t listen to me or my husband.
Dear Annie: During the past year, I have had some health issues that have required that I stay in a hospital and then a nursing facility for several months.
Dear Annie: I have a problem with my brother, “Josh.” Josh seems to want to cut me and our mom out of his life.
Dear Annie: OK, I realize there are innumerable insurmountable, earth-shaking universal problems in our world.
Dear Annie: You recently wrote that an adult daughter was wrong to discard her mother’s pantry food without asking her first — even food that had expired.
A couple of years ago, when I was starting a business, a friend put me in touch with her friend “Margaret,” who had just started her own boutique marketing and public relations firm.
Dear Annie: I was recently shopping in a department store, when I heard the very loud screams of a child. Because the screaming was so abnormal, I wanted to seek the child out to see what was causing it.
Dear Annie: I read your column daily, but this is my first time writing to you.
Dear Annie: Next month, I will be moving into my boyfriend’s apartment, which he shares with two other guys.
Dear Annie: I need advice regarding a recent nanny experience.
Dear Annie: I’m writing about my 53-year-old stepson, “Sam.” I helped to raise Sam starting when he was 11.
Dear Annie: I’m worried that my boyfriend is abusing his prescription drugs.
Dear Annie: I’m not writing in about any problem you can solve. This letter is about a much bigger problem — namely, the state of the world today.
I have been trying to decipher my recent bad feelings toward a friend who is much wealthier than I am.
Dear Annie: It’s important to have etiquette on the phone, no matter to whom you are speaking.
Dear Annie: My best friend’s 20-something-year-old stepdaughter, “Tina,” unsuccessfully attempted to seduce my husband of 25 years, “Brad.”
Dear Annie: As a college student with no job, I made the foolish decision to sign a lease with a friend to move in together.
Dear Annie: I am seeking some advice. I have a disability, and my place of employment is discriminating against me based on that disability.
Dear Annie: I am married to a man with two children from a previous marriage.
Dear Annie: I hope you can offer a solution to my dilemma.
Dear Annie: My family (my husband, our young kids and I) vacations with two other families once or twice a year.
A man who extends his hand demanding a handshake is presumptuous and arrogant.
Dear Annie: I know I am stuck in the “old ways,” but I am trying to adapt to changing times. It is becoming very common for couples to live together before marriage.
Dear Annie: I have a friend, “Rosie,” who kicked me out to the curb (metaphorically speaking) when her sister moved into her mobile home park.
Dear Annie: My granddaughter, “Melanie,” thinks that she has a half-sister 24 years younger.