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Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@creators.com, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.

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Annie's Mailbox: A tearful farewell to our readers

Dear Readers: For the past 14 years, we have done our best to advise, consult, admonish and assuage. We are writing today with tears in our eyes as we say farewell.

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Annie's Mailbox: Offer to split cost of extra medical bills

Dear Annie: A month ago, my wife was bitten by our neighbor’s foster dog.

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Annie's Mailbox: No happy ending for this feuding family

Dear Annie: Several years ago, our son lived with a very immature young woman.

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Annie's Mailbox: Hoarder daughter needs serious help

My 55-year-old daughter is a hoarder. She cannot pick up her clothes or keep them in order.

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Annie's Mailbox: Friend won’t comply with different meeting place

Dear Annie: “Iris” and I have been friends for 20 years. She is married, retired and has grown children. I have a long-term boyfriend and a full-time job.

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Annie's Mailbox: It’s daughter’s beef with family, not yours

After years of attending and giving gifts for weddings, showers, birthday parties and graduations, my 34-year-old daughter is getting married. But she is getting the shaft from my huge family.

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Annie's Mailbox: He should accept wife’s physical limitations

Dear Annie: My wife and I are in our 60s and recently celebrated our 15th anniversary. I know she loves me, but the physical side of our marriage has gone completely down the toilet.

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Annie's Mailbox: Stop posting political messages on Facebook page

Dear Annie: How do I tell my 91-year-old mother to stop posting political messages on my 16-year-old daughter’s Facebook page, especially when Mom supports Donald Trump and knows that my daughter supports Bernie Sanders?

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Annie's Mailbox: Be kind to friend with memory issues

Dear Annie: Our card game is in a quandary. We have one member who is having memory problems.

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Annie's Mailbox: Speak with employee who smells like dog

The problem is, the caregiver has dogs and smells like it. I am allergic to dogs, and her scent gives me a headache as soon as I return home, and it continues the following day.

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Annie's Mailbox: Happy Father’s Day to all dads out there

Dear Readers: Happy Father’s Day to all of the men in our reading audience who have had the pleasures and responsibilities of raising children.

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Annie's Mailbox: Over meal not place for health questions

Recently, I witnessed someone being grilled about his current cancer treatment and felt sorry for him.

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Annie's Mailbox: Sister might not need help with bully husband

Dear Annie: What is the best way to deal with someone who is a bully and verbally abusive? My brother-in-law is very demeaning to my sister.

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Annie's Mailbox: How do I handle granddaughter’s third wedding?

Dear Annie: When is enough, enough? My granddaughter is getting married for the third time in August. We received a “save the date” card six months ago.

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Annie's Mailbox: Get doctor’s instructions in writing

Dear Annie: I’ve seen several doctors recently, and each time I noticed that they gave a lot of information so quickly that I could not absorb it all, nor could I remember it entirely.

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Annie's Mailbox: Hoarder hubby needs help for OCD

My husband is a good, dependable man, but he is a terrible hoarder.

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Annie's Mailbox: Ignore rude clerk, wear favorite earrings

Dear Annie: Yesterday, a store clerk complimented my ear cuffs, then had the gall to ask whether anyone had told me that I was too old to wear them.

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Annie's Mailbox: Women sound off about stinky men

Dear Annie: You printed a letter from “Wondering,” who asked why older men smell bad, don’t change their clothes and live in filthy homes.

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Annie's Mailbox: Baby shower not a crowdfunding event

Dear Annie: I just received a baby shower invitation that makes me feel more like a fundraising target than a loving family member.

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Annie's Mailbox: She might be better off without husband

Dear Annie: My husband does not like to have any physical contact whatsoever, except for a peck hello or goodbye.

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Annie's Mailbox: Wife should not breastfeed teenage son

Dear Annie: My wife and I are expecting our fourth child. ...

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Annie's Mailbox: How can I get stepbrother to like me?

Dear Annie: I need help getting my stepbrother to like me. I am a 12-year-old boy.

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Annie's Mailbox: Teen girl encouraged to chase dreams

Dear Annie: I write a blog on science and spaceflight in particular. I had to respond to “Trapped in the Grave of a Dream,” the teenage girl whose strict parents only want her to become a doctor or lawyer, when she dreams of being an astronaut.

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Annie's Mailbox: Don’t seek intimacy elsewhere, fix marriage

Dear Annie: My wife and I have been good friends with “Bill and June” for 30 years.

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Annie's Mailbox: Controlling husband takes car and bank account

Dear Annie: I’ve been married for 29 years.

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Annie's Mailbox: Suck it up, invite sis’ boyfriend to wedding

Dear Annie: I am planning my wedding, which will take place next year.

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Annie's Mailbox: Lodging dispute not dealt with productively

Dear Annie: When my wife and I took a trip to Canada, my granddaughter and her live-in boyfriend at the time called to ask for permission to spend a week in our house, which is near a beach.

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Annie's Mailbox: Readers’ poems right for Memorial Day

When we asked you to try your hand at a gender-inclusive piece for Independence Day, we also received several poems that seemed more appropriate for Memorial Day.

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Annie's Mailbox: Renting rooms to balance cost of living

Dear Annie: Because the cost of living is so high around here, I now rent bedrooms in my home to a couple of young adults in their 20s.

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Annie's Mailbox: Gay son receives few gifts at wedding

Dear Annie: In the past five years, I have attended 14 weddings (several were expensive destination weddings), hosted seven baby showers, four bridal luncheons, six wedding showers and purchased 36 presents for various friends and relatives.

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Annie's Mailbox: Get used to adult child tagging along

Dear Annie: There is a couple that socializes with us and our friends.

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Annie's Mailbox: Grown kids’ll break your heart if you let them

Dear Annie: Until two years ago, I thought we had a loving family, even though my husband and I are divorced.

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Annie's Mailbox: It's unlikely neighbor's estate will pay

Dear Annie: I am 71 years old, and I have taken care of my neighbor, “Martha,” for 15 years.

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Annie's Mailbox: Keep dogs off lawn with these tips

Dear Annie: We live in a friendly town. Yet, we have some residents who are terribly disrespectful people of other people’s property.

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Annie's Mailbox: Tell coworker she’s a distraction – nicely

Dear Annie: I work in an area where we are allowed to listen to the radio during work hours. This is great, as I enjoy the music. The problem is, one of our co-workers feels the need to loudly sing along to the songs. It is extremely annoying and also distracting.

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Annie's Mailbox: Not feeling well, when skip social events?

Dear Annie: I recently attended a large social event fundraiser with some close friends.

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Annie's Mailbox: Concerns over abusive marriage, what kids see

Dear Annie: “Can’t Win in Tennessee” said his wife calls him names, constantly criticizes him and threatens divorce.

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Annie's Mailbox: Dealing with a loud mouth in public

Dear Annie: I have increasingly noticed how loud people can be in public places.

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Annie's Mailbox: Long-term boyfriend becomes unfaithful

Dear Annie: I’ve been living with my boyfriend for nine years and we have a son together.

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Annie's Mailbox: Be firm with friend about night driving

Dear Annie: I am a widow in my 70s.

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Annie's Mailbox: He dodged bullet with hard-to-please fiancee

Dear Annie: Several months ago, my fiancee of two years announced that she wanted to date other people.

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Annie's Mailbox: Time to go over boss’ head to get results on slacking coworker

Dear Annie: I have a co-worker who often shows up late, constantly complains about how he doesn’t want to be “here” (in this city, at this job, etc.), spends most of his time reading Facebook posts aloud or trying to chat with the rest of the people in our department and generally wastes his time when he’s supposed to be working.

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Annie's Mailbox: Nanny’s role in the family is changing

Dear Annie: Last weekend, my youngest daughter got her driver’s license.

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Annie's Mailbox: Response to, ‘The Family Mistake’ letter

Dear Annie: I read the letter from “The Family Mistake,” the 12-year-old boy whose nearest sibling is 29.

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Trying to fix relationship between fiancee and mother

Dear Annie: I’d like to fix the relationship between my fiancee and my mother before things get out of hand.

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Annie's Mailbox: Report oldest sister for elder abuse

Dear Annie: After my mother died 10 years ago, Dad asked his four daughters what to do with the small cabin he owned upstate.

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Annie's Mailbox: Keep things positive with distant son

Dear Annie: We raised our son in the Midwest, and paid for his tuition to follow his dream to go to an Ivy League college where he met his future wife.

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Annie's Mailbox: Respect host’s feelings about carrying a gun

Dear Annie: What is the polite thing to do with a guest who carries a gun?

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Annie's Mailbox: Sister may not be best source of support

Dear Annie: I have suffered with lymphoma for 17 years, but praise God, I am doing well now.

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Annie's Mailbox: A heartfelt approach to Mother’s Day

Dear Readers: Happy Mother’s Day. Please phone your mother, grandmother, mother-in-law, stepmother or foster mother and wish them the best.

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Annie's Mailbox: Mom constantly yells at 15-year-old son

Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old boy and an only child.

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Annie's Mailbox: Daughter wants no contact with mom and stepfather

Dear Annie: My married daughter has decided to estrange herself from her stepfather and me.

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Annie's Mailbox: Never did anything right in mother’s eyes

Dear Annie: My mother has always been a strong presence in my life. Growing up, I couldn’t do anything right. She took things away from me and redid them, or stood over me and directed

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Annie's Mailbox: Keep personal letters private to protect others

Dear Annie: Please advise your readers not to hold onto any letters that contain family information or intimate details of a relationship that should remain secret.

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Annie's Mailbox: Daughter not responsible for mom’s choices

Dear Annie: In three years, I will be away at college. I am concerned because Mom has a boyfriend with a major anger problem, and he throws tantrums and gets abusive.

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Annie's Mailbox: Teen nephew should get facts from PFLAG

I am a 38-year-old single man with a serious problem involving my 13-year-old nephew, “Hayden.”

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Annie's Mailbox: What is LDL cholesterol’s relation to longevity?

Dear Annie: What do you think about a married couple whose only intimacy is makeup sex?

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Annie's Mailbox: Why does good hygiene end for men after 60?

Dear Annie: Can anyone tell me why old men (over 60) don’t or won’t shower or put on clean clothes?

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Annie's Mailbox: Husband should simply leave cheating wife

Dear Annie: I married my high school sweetheart 39 years ago.

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Annie's Mailbox: You never know about some people’s battles

Dear Annie: Tragedy has struck our family. A cousin killed himself on Easter Sunday.

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Annie's Mailbox: Let’s start giving credit to the young people

Dear Annie: Young people are ready, willing and able to tackle the world’s most difficult challenges, and yet are vastly underrepresented as active citizens, decision-makers and problem solvers.

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Annie's Mailbox: Annoying coworker likely feels excluded

Dear Annie: My cubicle is separated by a low wall from “Terri,” the woman who works next to me. Here’s the problem: I might be talking with seven other people near me at different times and we could be whispering, but Terri manages to hear the conversation and always has an opinion to add.

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Annie's Mailbox: Wannabe astronaut should keep options open

Dear Annie: I am 15 years old and I love your column. Here’s my problem: Ever since I was a little girl, I had one dream – to become an astronaut.

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Annie's Mailbox: Granddaughters are too messy

Dear Annie: My husband and I spend winters in a three-bedroom condo in Florida.

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Annie's Mailbox: Help out Grandma before ending visit

Dear Annie: I want to write a letter to all the adult children who enjoy overnight visits to Grandma’s house with the kids.

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Annie's Mailbox: Daughter is not doing ‘fine’ now

Dear Annie: Our only child is 30. “Delia” was diagnosed with serious mental issues as a teen, but with the help of a sensitive child psychologist and an excellent child psychiatrist, she did very well.

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Annie's Mailbox: Annoying behavior regarding dog and neighbor

Dear Annie: Two years ago, my husband bought a dog from a breeder.

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Annie's Mailbox: Husband’s ex-girlfriend still connected to family

Dear Annie: I’m 55 and have been married to the same man for 27 years.

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Annie's Mailbox: Suggest slippers to barefoot coworker

Dear Annie: I have a different problem with people taking off their shoes.

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Annie's Mailbox: Offer well wishes to newly out relative

Dear Annie: In the past year, we have been told that two members of our family are gay.

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Annie's Mailbox: Stepgrandma concerned about boy’s behavior

Dear Annie: I am the stepgrandma of a 2-year-old boy. “Danny” lives with his parents and an older sibling.

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Annie's Mailbox: Removing shoes before walking into a home

Dear Annie: “Clean Shoes in Wisconsin” objected to his sister-in-law asking him to remove his shoes in her house. Yikes.

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Annie's Mailbox: Wife has become unloving and critical

Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for five years and we have two children. In the past year, she has been exceptionally critical and unloving.

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Annie's Mailbox: Class failure ends participation in school drama

Dear Annie: I am a middle school student, and I signed up for drama at the beginning of the semester.

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Annie's Mailbox: Readers confused about poem contest timing

Dear Annie: I just heard about your contest to write a poem for July 4 that is more balanced, and that mentions women, as well as men.

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Annie's Mailbox: Be gentle with friend who talks too much

Dear Annie: I spent two hours on the phone yesterday with a friend who can talk nonstop and rarely requires a response. I have another friend like this, and it’s exhausting.

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Annie's Mailbox: Accept sister, ex to maintain family ties

My ex-husband, the father of my kids, decided to date my younger sister, who is in the early stages of recovery from heroin addiction.

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Annie's Mailbox: Caregiver of parents could make great husband

I am a young lady in my 20s, and I think I’ve found the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. ...

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Annie's Mailbox: Equal split of estate avoids hard feelings

Dear Annie: “Your Opinion Please” said he originally planned to split his estate 60/40 in favor of his son (successful) and daughter (who had mental health issues, including drug abuse).

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Annie's Mailbox: Family gravy train finally running out

Our 46-year-old son is bright, caring and an all-around good guy. Here’s the problem ...

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Annie's Mailbox: Dog with yellow ribbon is to be left alone

Dear Annie: While my leashed dog and I are bonding and enjoying our time together, people will virtually block our way and – without asking me – begin to vigorously pet my dog and interact directly with her.

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Annie's Mailbox: Remain firm with freeloading snowbirds

Now that it’s time to head home, two couples talk constantly about traveling our way this summer, staying with us while they see the sights of our city.

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Annie's Mailbox: Not drinking 1st step to fixing problems

Dear Annie: I always had an exaggerated response to alcohol and could never have just one drink.

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Annie's Mailbox: 12-year-old 'mistake' needs advocate

My parents didn’t plan me and I’m tired of being constantly told that I am the family “mistake.”

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Column: Grandma’s criticism creates negative atmosphere

Dear Annie: My younger sister and I are young adults currently living with our grandpar-ents to ease the commute to school and work.

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Annie's Mailbox: What to do about an unaffectionate husband

Dear Annie: I read the letter from “Too Little, Too Late,” whose Vietnam vet husband is robotic and unaffectionate. This sounds like my husband.

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Dear Annie: How do I lift sister-in-law’s spirits?

Dear Annie: My sister-in-law is going through dialysis. She is able to do it in the comfort of her home with help of a nurse, so she can be close to her young kids. Her husband dotes on her.

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Annie's Mailbox: Mom is mistreated by daughter-in-law

Dear Annie: I come from a large family. We haven’t had any truly rough times, but our sister-in-law is proving to be a problem for me.

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Annie's Mailbox: Daughter’s association with ex-boyfriend unacceptable

I have a beautiful daughter who is in rehab for drug addiction.

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Annie's Mailbox: Birthday party behavior wasn’t a slight

Dear Annie: My husband and I have chosen not to have children. His family asks repeatedly if we’ve “changed our minds” about it, so obviously they do not approve of our choice.

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Annie's Mailbox: Mom should report suspected abuse now

Dear Annie: I adopted two older children from different orphanages and now they are grown adults.

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Annie's Mailbox: Con artist sibling taking advantage of ill father

Dear Annie: Do you have any suggestions for dealing with a con artist sibling who swoops into town only to beg, borrow and steal from our dying, incapacitated father?

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Annie's Mailbox: Mom wants son’s girlfriend to stop smoking pot when visiting

Dear Annie: I am in my early 50s, a widow, with five great kids, all now grown, out of college and thriving on their own.

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Friend can’t make important decisions after accident

Dear Annie: I belong to a large group of friends across several states who get together often to camp and ride motorcycles. Recently, one couple in our group had a terrible accident.

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Annie's Mailbox: Husband’s high school sweetheart pushing for relationship

Dear Annie: My husband’s high school sweetheart (from 30 years ago) refuses to let go of the past and move on.

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Annie's Mailbox: Awkward moment in showers after swim

Dear Annie: This evening, I went to the local YMCA to swim. When I was through, I showered, as I always do, since I go back to work afterward.

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Annie's Mailbox: Woman needs to look for new roommate

Dear Annie: I live with a friend who wants the house to be neat all of the time. But his personal habits are disgusting.

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Annie's Mailbox: Wedding might not be in cards for her

Dear Annie: I have been dating “Brad” for three years.

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Reconciliation after marital infidelities

Dear Annie: Many years ago, I was separated from my husband for several years. At the tail end of our separation, I discovered he had been cheating on me.

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Mother frustrated about children’s financial issues

Dear Annie: I am a divorced mother of two married children. I am now retired, but in the past, I have helped both my children with financial problems.

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Annie's Mailbox: Husband too aggressive and demanding for sex

Dear Annie: My husband, “Derek” and I have been married for 18 years and we have four children.

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Annie's Mailbox: Registered sex offender finds it difficult to get on track

Dear Annie: My ex-daughter-in-law’s brother would have been sleeping on the streets for the past two years if it weren’t for my husband.

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Annie's Mailbox: Making the next generation tobacco free

Dear Annie: As a youth anti-tobacco advocate, I’m incredibly proud of our country’s progress against tobacco.

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Annie's Mailbox: One of feuding sisters must make 1st move

Dear Annie: My oldest and youngest sisters are 10 years apart.

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Annie's Mailbox: Wife’s parents may prefer to live on own

I have been married for 25 years to “Betty,” a beautiful, intelligent, caring woman from Greece. Our marriage has been good. We are financially solid, and we share values and interests.

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Annie's Mailbox: Moving in with parents becomes a ‘miserable existence’

Dear Annie: Eight years ago, I moved in with my parents to help care for them.

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Annie's Mailbox: Mom is concerned about son’s Facebook posts

Dear Annie: My son is 36 years old and was raised in a Christian home. However, twice in the last two months, he has posted pictures on Facebook of women being hit by men.

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Annie's Mailbox: Sister supposed to help father, self-medicates instead

Dear Annie: My sister lives with my father. She is supposed to be helping him, but she has a problem with depression and self-medicates with marijuana and alcohol.

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Annie's Mailbox: Discovering kidney disease later in life

Dear Annie: I was diagnosed with chronic kidney disease five years ago during an annual physical at the age of 79.

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Dear Annie: Boyfriend likes to wear women’s stockings

Dear Annie: I’ve been seeing a very nice man for more than a year.