Dear Annie: I’m a 50-something woman, who’s been married for 35 years. About a year ago, to spice up our marriage, I started sending my husband seductive pictures of myself during the day. He really loved them and wanted more. Over time, the pictures I sent him got more daring. One of his co-workers accidentally saw one of the pictures and commented to my husband about it. My husband told me, and at first I was embarrassed by it. But after thinking about it, I began to really like the thought of strange men seeing me. I started sending my husband more and more risque pictures. I couldn’t wait for my husband to come home from work so I could hear what the guys had said about me.
I know this isn’t right, but I can’t seem to stop. I think I’m addicted to this. But seeing as I’m not really hurting anyone and I think I’m putting smiles on some faces, do I need to seek help to stop this? — Exposed
Dear Exposed: Exposing oneself to nonconsenting witnesses is never OK — not on the street, not on the internet and (especially) not in your husband’s office. And even if his co-workers seem to enjoy it, they’re his co-workers. It’s inappropriate. Your husband could lose his job. There’s nothing wrong with trying to spice up your sex life, but I suggest you try a more savory seasoning. And if you feel this habit has become addictive, it’s certainly worth seeing a counselor.
Dear Annie: I have a gripe with smokers who drop their butts on the ground. It’s a common practice, but I find it simply inexcusable. Today, while traveling on errands near my home, I witnessed it yet again. I watched as one woman got out of her car in the parking lot of a store, took a long drag on her cig and then dropped it on the pavement and walked into the store, passing a handy butt receptacle standing right at the entrance. Not five minutes later, as I waited behind a truck at a red light, the driver lowered his window and threw the remains of his cigarette into the adjacent lane. Look along the curb of any city street and you will find cigarette butts by the hundreds. They are even scattered along the berm of my own small country road. Some jerks even empty entire ashtrays into the street!
Cigarette butts are litter of the worst kind. They are slow to decompose, full of nicotine and other toxic elements, and contaminated by saliva. If it didn’t fall from a tree or grow from the ground, then it has no place in nature. I dare even one smoker to write back and explain what justifies this dirty, lazy, inconsiderate practice. And I challenge all smokers to stop littering the ground with what is essentially their drug paraphernalia. Your right to pollute your body and your home does not give you the right to pollute public areas, so knock it off!
— I Like It Clean and Green
Dear Clean and Green: As if smoking weren’t already a nasty enough habit. A cigarette butt can take anywhere from 18 months to 10 years to decompose. I second your plea to smokers: If you can’t quit smoking for your own health, at least be cognizant of the Earth’s health and properly dispose of your butts.
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