Annie's Mailbox: Mom is concerned about son’s Facebook posts
Dear Annie: My son is 36 years old and was raised in a Christian home. However, twice in the last two months, he has posted pictures on Facebook of women being hit by men. The first was a cartoon, and he posted it on his teenage daughter’s page. I sent him a message asking if he thought it was a good idea to tell his daughter that it is OK to be hit. He removed the post, but there was no explanation or apology.
Then last week, he posted a video of a man doing a parody of a kung fu fighter kicking a woman in the head. Because they played a rock song in the background, you are supposed to think that it is funny. I told my son it was inappropriate. His wife made excuses, saying it was not intended to be mean.
Am I out of line telling him that it is inappropriate to post such things? – A Mother
Dear Mother: Your son is a grown man, and he gets to post what he likes on his Facebook page. If others find these images objectionable, they can tell him so. Expecting him to “listen to his mother” is probably not going to get you anywhere, and may end up with you being blocked from his page. You have registered your complaint. He knows how you feel and why. We hope his wife and daughter will likewise tell him that these pictures are offensive and inappropriate. Other than that, Mom, leave it alone.
Dear Annie: This is in response to “A Frustrated South Dakotan,” who has epilepsy. My son was just diagnosed with epilepsy, and I am sure I could rival his mother in my overprotective nature.
I knew keeping my very active, football playing, skiing, social, 11-year-old under my thumb would never work, so I started researching. There are two smart wristwatches available (Embrace and Smart Monitor Smart Watch) that will send an alert to whomever you choose in the event of a seizure. Both have several features that will make it safe for “Frustrated” to go out on his own and will alert his mother if he has a seizure.
You recommended The Epilepsy Foundation, and readers should know that it also has support groups for parents of people with epilepsy. And a quick search on the Internet can provide great ideas to enable those with epilepsy to still do all that they love, but safely. Our son has a harness that he hooks on to the ski lift. We let everyone know that he has epilepsy and they help us out, too. He has a great life, and I have peace of mind.
Good luck to both “Frustrated” and his mom. Epilepsy isn’t an easy thing to live with, but it is possible to live well. – Mom of an Active Son
Dear Mom: Thank you for the helpful and upbeat letter. We received many informative letters from our readers who have experience with epilepsy, and we will be printing more in future columns.
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