Originally Published: July 25, 2016 1 a.m.
Aren’t weddings grand? The beautiful bride, heartfelt traditions, intimate setting, inspiring vows, delicious food, and let’s not forget the joining of two hearts.
Last week, while attending the wedding of my grandson, Connor, and his bride Nicola, I was struck by the way that certain ceremonies shape our lives.
This wedding, like most, was a celebration of the love and commitment of a young couple who have chosen to make a life together. As I watched while “the kids” exchanged their vows, I couldn’t help but notice how young they looked. Decades can fly by and you’ll be crying at a grandchild’s wedding, wondering what the heck happened. I know my mother spent the day recalling when she and my father married in 1942. They were together for 57 years before his passing. And “in love” every day!
Planning a wedding is not for the weak at heart! It takes a whole lot of strength and stamina. The details are mind-boggling. There are invitations and flowers to consider, the venue, guests, the food, the dresses and so much more.
No wonder psychologists have said that a wedding can be more stressful than a divorce! Sane people can be pushed to the edge and some wonder if the tears that family members shed at a wedding are from joy or stress!
Dear Readers, let’s allow ourselves to stay sentimental when it comes to the sanctity of marriage. Not to be envious of celebrity’s $10 million debacles, or cheapened by the cattle-call drama of The Bachelor, nor demonized by the Bridezilla shows, weddings are still pure, joyful celebrations of a union between two people who are willing to spend their lives together.
When the bride and groom stand with the loving eyes of guests upon them, we are all about to witness one of life’s great moments.
Nicola was a vision of beauty, as if floating on a cloud of cream and lace, and you could actually hear the collective gasps of the guests as we all saw her, as though for the very first time. When she took Connor’s hand, vows of faith were taken and two words were spoken that none of us will ever forget, “I Do.”
For Connor and Nicola, they embark on a journey that will be filled with trials, thrills, challenges, achievements, set-backs, tenderness, joy, heartache, and probably lots of fun. The small family celebration gave them the “blast-off” to their new life together.
And now, like with all marriages, it’s up to the newlyweds to make their life together a blast.
Judy Bluhm is a writer and local Realtor. Have a comment or a story? Email Judy at firstname.lastname@example.org.