Children suffer at hands of selfish parents
I am 14 years old. I am from San Diego but I am here in Prescott Valley visiting my grandparents.
I happened to pick up the newspaper and read your article this morning. I would just like to thank you from the bottom of my heart.
My parents have not been in the best situations at all. Basically, a lot of stuff that was not supposed to come out that my mother didn't even know, I found out. And I am in the middle of this.
Both of my parents talk about each other and tell me all the time! I have been suffering with this for two and a half years. I just want to thank you again because it finally makes sense to me.
I have now cut out this article and will be going home and saving it in my diary to keep for a while.
God Bless You, Honey! Be sure you leave the article out for your parents to read, too.
I wish all parents would read your letter, and the many letters I receive from hurting kids.
If only parents would put aside their own selfish desires and focus on their kids. In a bad marriage, it is always the kids who suffer. I know, I know, it is not good for kids to grow up in a bad marriage. Some think it is better to divorce and to hopefully provide a more peaceful atmosphere for their kids to grow up in.
However, if parents will be completely honest with themselves and each other, there are so, so many marriage problems that can be fixed.
If parents really are interested in the welfare of their kids, they will fix what they can. If they want to divorce and get on with their separate lives, then so be it, AFTER the kids are grown. But sad to say, far too many parents are more concerned about their own personal happiness than they are about their kids' well being.
If a parent is truly concerned abut the kids, they would never cheat on their spouse, for the kids' sake.
If you are a parent with young kids, focus on their happiness. If you are single, you really don't have any business dating and getting involved with someone. There will be time for that when the kids are grown, well adjusted and then ... you can date.
I know I will get mail on this disagreeing with me because it is all "what about me" these days.
It is always the kids who hurt the most. You brought these kids into the world, now focus on them. "Be not weary in well doing for in due season you will reap, if you faint not." Your "due season" is coming.
You can write to Jan Kolb at P.O. Box 27545, Prescott Valley, AZ 86312. Or email: firstname.lastname@example.org