Wait to move 'til the kids grow up
My husband and I have been married for almost five years. He has two kids from a former marriage. They are 11 & 13 years old.
We want so much to move out of state, but he feels guilty about leaving his kids. I have tried to make him understand that he will still see them on holidays and a few weeks during the summers, but he is still having second thoughts.
How can I make him understand that it will be okay to move? We both read your column and appreciate your advice. Please help me to help him.
Dear Step Mom:
Sorry. I cannot help you pull your husband away from his kids. You knew he had these kids when you married him. They need their Dad more that just holidays and a few weeks in the summer.
The kids have gone through enough having the parents divorce without their Dad moving out of state. Stay here until the kids are grown and then you can live anywhere you want.
My lovely 21 year old daughter is getting married at Christmas time. She is having a church wedding.
Her dad, my husband, passed away this past year. Of course, he was planning on giving her away at her wedding. It is a sad situation.
She has an uncle, and we have friends who would be happy to walk her down the aisle, but of all things, she says she wants me to give her away.
I have never heard of the Mother of the bride giving her away. Would that be proper? Wouldn't it look funny to have me instead of a man? Please advise me.
Signed, Mother of the Bride
I think it is very sweet that your daughter wants you to give her away. Of course it is proper. Who better? Best wishes to you and your sweet daughter.
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