THE MORE THINGS CHANGE... The blessings of grandparenting

It’s hard to believe that most of my ten grandchildren are adults. It seems like yesterday that they were crawling onto my lap wanting a story or “grandma lovin’ time.” The number of grandsons and granddaughters is evenly split; I’m blessed with five of each and I love them all dearly. They call me Grandma or Grandmother, never Granny, thank goodness. I won’t answer to granny. Granny Annie? Forget it! I fought with my cousins when they called our grandmother granny because I always considered the term disrespectful. Figured out why a few years ago. In Disney’s animated feature, the wicked stepmother referred to herself as granny when she gave Snow White the poisoned apple, enough reason to prejudice an impressionable three-year-old against “granny.”

Why this nostalgic turn? Three reasons. First, today is my oldest grandson J.T.’s 27th birthday; second, last week I learned that my number three granddaughter, Laiken, and her husband, Victor, are expecting their first child in March. They’ve been married four years. Needless to say, we are all thrilled. And, third, last Saturday I attended Cordes Lakes Day, and a number of happy, enthusiastic children of all ages and sizes were having a fantastic time. I was there several hours and I didn’t hear any crying or fighting—a lot of laughter, singing, playing and general happiness, but no conflict. That’s the way it should be in a community—camaraderie without conflict. People will disagree--that’s human nature, but it is possible to disagree without fighting, bullying, throwing tantrums, lying, and seeking revenge. I’m fed up with the “you won’t let me be boss, so I’m taking my ball and going home” mentality, especially from adults who should know better. The “I didn’t get my way so I’m going to do everything I can to destroy everything that has been accomplished, even if I have to lie about it” aficionados need to realize that their attitudes have exacerbated the problems, not solved them. What ever happened to working together, compromise, and arriving at equitable solutions? Dissenters and trouble-makers could learn a lot from the kids.

Cordes Lakes Community Association is undergoing reorganization with a new Facebook page that lists upcoming activities at the Community Center like the Fried Chicken dinner on October 1, Taco Tuesdays every Tuesday at 4:00 pm, and Bingo every Wednesday—doors and the kitchen open at 5:00 pm, first game at 6:00. There’s more coming up, so be sure to check the calendar in the Courier every Friday. You’ll be glad you did. Volunteers are always needed and do a lot to keep any community viable and growing. Tuesday Planners meet every Tuesday at 9:00 a.m. to propose, discuss, and prepare events, so that’s a good place to start. Coffee and refreshments are provided to help the creative process.

Whether, Grandma, Grandmother, Nana, Abuelita, Ama, or, even Granny. Enjoy your grandchildren…and the great-grandchildren if you have them. Children are a precious commodity that need a grandmother’s, and community’s, love.

Until next time.